How soon is too soon?

I developed a crush on this guy around last October or so. There was a little bit of flirting for a few months and it was around March when we finally told each other we liked each other (although it was already pretty obvious. The actual confessions of feelings happened during a 3AM text message conversation. He said 'I really like you', I said 'the feelings are mutual', we went back to normal conversation and didn't bring it up again for a while.)

I don't remember when I first started feeling it because I ignored it (like most of my feelings), but I do remember that in late March, backstage at a musical I was stage managing, a friend and I were talking about the stuff going (the whole story with him and me is very complicated, but it involved some drama with my best friend and we were trying to not do anything until everything was okay... so at this point, we had admitted our feelings towards each other and held hands a few times. And that was it.) and my friend asked me "What are your feelings for him? Do you just like him or...do you love him?"

And of course, I got all flustered and was like "What? What what what no, why, huh, what, I don't, what do you, I don't know, what" but I had already thought to myself a few times that maybe... maybe I did a little bit? But it felt ridiculous because we had barely even been together romantically so how could I love him in a romantic way? It was very very very confusing.

As time went on and we got closer, I realized that yeah, I loved him. I still haven't told him, though. And considering that we aren't really together right now due to reasons beyond either of our control, I doubt I will tell him any time soon. The closest I've come is by giving him a mix CD for his birthday with a song on it that clearly says those words. But I don't know if he caught that or not.

Maybe when things finally work out between us for real, I'll get around to telling him. I'm terrible when it comes to talking about my feelings, though, so I almost envy people who have no problem saying it after like, three weeks of knowing a person. And it certainly doesn't help that I've never told anybody that I love them (besides my mom and nephews and cats, of course.)

So I guess my opinion is that it hardly even depends on how quickly the feelings develop, because some people feel things sooner (or are more ready to admit the feelings to themselves sooner), and if they don't have a problem saying it out loud right away, then... good for them. Some people may never say it, no matter how much they feel it.

And wow, that was a long ramble. Oops.

Who cares if they're using the "L" word. How does it effect your life?

Every one is different. Some people say it immediately. Some people it takes months or even years to say it. Just because one couple decides that they're in love within three weeks of meeting (hell people get married within weeks of meeting each other!) doesn't mean they're "throwing the word around" and that it has "no meaning".

Chill out and be happy for them. They aren't causing you or anyone else any harm by saying they love each other so why get your panties in a bunch over it? It has nothing to do with you.

This. I wish people would spend less time criticizing other people and their life. It's none of your business and you have no right to judge them.

My (now) husband said he loved me before I said I loved him, it freaked me right out to begin with lol (it was around a month of us being together) We have been together for 7 years in October this year. I guess it depends on the people

I told my wife I loved her on our second date. I proposed on the third. We're going to Vegas on Friday to celebrate our 20th Anniversary.

I wish I had told her on my first date and married her on my second. I'm still very much in love with her.

^^This man has won at life.

What she said

I have had a few boyfirends, but never said it to anyone besides my current Jesse. Its a really strong word to me. I had a guy cry in high school because I refused to say it back :P

The first night I met my wife I told her we were going to get married. She laughed and said I was crazy. 19 yrs later we are still together.

Who cares how long they've been together? And how does it affect you? Hell, if they can have a little bit of happiness, even if it's temporary, why would you want to talk her out of it?

So many people talk about how people say "love" easily. But there are so many degrees to love, who's to say whether what they're feeling is or isn't?

I love my boyfriend, I love my MFPeeps, I love cheese. All are completely true, and completely different.

Leave em be.

to say I love you? I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend, maybe 3 weeks. Last week they were already using the 3 words. I love you. Is there no meaning to that word anymore? I understand that you can care about someone deeply. I LOVE my daughter. I have a boyfriend, I CARE about him a lot. But I don't see myself saying I love you that soon especially first (Never have been the first one) My ex even proposed after being with me for 1 month. I don't think that you know a person well enough to know if you LOVE them that soon. What was the soonest you or your loved one said I love you, and how long did it last after that?

Too soon for whom? You? You are making a lot of assumptions, it sounds, about your friend not REALLY being in love.

We said it on the third date and meant it. If you don't see yourself getting that close that fast, then don't. But don't presume to know about how others function. Everyone's different!

I love you

The first time I saw my wife, I was smitten. 17 years later, we're still together, and I'm still madly in love with her.

My beloved told me he loved me a few weeks in, we've now been together six+ years and we have a fabulous four year old*points to monkey on my back in profile pic* I don't think it's for anyone else to judge. Sometimes you just know, and while some people do throw 'love' around, it's still their business in my honest opinion you should wish them the best of luck and go on about your business. ; )