husband stressing me over food

Mine is a bit of a pain like that too.
He likes to belittle my efforts or roll his eyes like 'Okay, she's at it again. How long until failure'. It has gotten to the point I stopped telling him what I was doing....and it's worked.
I've managed to quit smoking and I'll prepare my meals and he eats with the kids. If he doesn't like it, he knows where the kitchen is.
He doesn't struggle to lose when he gains and his job is very physical anyway.
Whenever he opens his mouth regarding the smoking or the weightloss now, I just tell him to shut it I don't want to hear it because it usually isn't helpful. He's starting to learn his lesson and realise I'm serious, to the point that we are now getting gym memberships.
I think he now sees that line that he is forbidden to cross and god help him if he does!! I'm getting old and grumpy!

Mine asks for my input on food choices, then ignores me. Like tonight he wants pizza, so I go and check out the easiest (as in the one I'm least likely to regret), and then he gets these god awful breaded wings anyway and is all puupy eyed about not eating them alone. I can fit all that crap into my calorie goal, but seriuosly why did he bother?
Guess I wanted to rant too.:devil:

I'm not marry but I used to live with my ex-fiancé who was extremely fit and he would always tell me staying healthy is easy you just have to eat good and exercise... I was like well if it was so easy everyone will be fit!! Hello!! Having someone who is healthy as a partner can also be very tough. I used to kill myself eating healthy all day, logging my food, go home and cook and then he would sit with me on the couch with a big bowl of ice cream after dinner. I was like this is so not helping me and motivating me to eat healthy when you’re sitting in front of me eating cookies and ice cream. He would tell me well you can eat ice cream if you work out every day... to say the least it was extremely frustrated... I used to tell him you eating ice cream in front of me and having the ability of burning this off so quickly is like you knowing that I was a drug addict and you doing drugs for fun in front of me when you know I have an addictive personality. After so many fights I refused to get healthy (which was so silly of me) and started gaining weight back just to prove a point and letting him know how not supportive he was being... I internalized everything instead of fighting for what I really wanted which is getting healthy for myself. Continue to educate yourself in living a better life for you, be good to your body and continue this amazing journey… you will inspire many people (including your hubby) feeling great is contagious!! One thing that has helped me is to be around positive people and also being around with people with the same mindset as you… your hubby just might be a little jealous on how amazing your doing and the strength and will-power you are showing…trust me he will change his ways… just be patient and do not give up!! :O) ps. Be very proud for every step you take in this journey…

Sweetie, he's an adult and as much as it hurts us to see our husbands not eating right and not getting any execise the final choice has to be theirs. I had a heart to heart with mine and he wants no part of a salad or any veggies that aren't loaded with salt and butter. His favorite is hot dogs, hot dogs, hot dogs! Hopeful one day before the rooster crowes he'll see the light. Shoot I can't even get him to go to the dr for blood work. It's because his afraid to get his results back. Sorry your husband is dealing with diabeties but at this point all you can do is set an good example and hope one day he'll catch on. Good luck in your journey!

This is purely hypothetical (as my husband is lucky to find the effing kitchen), but if I asked my spouse what was for dinner and he said "I'm having salad" I'd be a little put off too. I would feel like I was being excluded unnecessarily. In similar situations I always say "I am *making* salad." He is free to eat salad, or he is free to make himself a sandwich, eat something frozen, eat peanut butter straight from the jar, etc.--I don't care. At home (where I can control *everything* that goes into my food) my diet is completely vegan. I refuse to cook meat, I will sometimes make *him* eggs or something containing cheese, if it's easy or I'm feeling nice. In general, if my husband doesn't want to cook, he eats the healthy, vegan food that I cook, or he finds something else. I will often accommodate his requests for healthy vegan foods he likes, but that is as far as I go. He is not a child, what he puts into his body (or not) is not my responsibility, and as the one who cooks, I get to choose what we eat. End. Of. Story.

Sounds to me like he wants a servant. Just tell him what you're preparing for you. He has two choices eat it or leave it.
As mentioned above, once he sees the changes in you he'll soon come on board.

Bumping for a friend in the same situation.

My husband was a real bear the first couple of weeks after I got serious about changing my eating and exercising habits. He acted like it was a punishment for him! I told him if he would like to eat what I cooked, that was fine. If not, he was on his own. Basically, he was lazy enough to eat what I made most of the time… AND lost some weight, too! Mostly I think it was "denial". He knew he needed to change as well, but who knows why he was so resistant. He used to eat well and strength train.

He's still not exactly on the wagon, but he's past the annoying point. Good luck!

Congrats on your will power to continue on your path. While I'm not married, my boyfriend and I was "suppose" to start MFP together. Needless to say, he created an account, but that's about it. Since joining, I've lost 30+ lbs. He now inquires about what I'm doing to loose weight. Although he's still very supportive, I've learned we all have to take our own paths in our own time. When he's ready, he'll get on board. Until then keep moving forward. Best wishes!