husband stressing me over food

We always fear what we do not know.

In 2005 I was 250lbs, and my boyfriend at the time was also obese. He'd make fun of me, talk about how I spent too much time at the gym, and when I reached my goal weight he called me emaciated. Now 7 years later I'm only 15lbs above my goal weight and he is about 40lbs heavier than when we dated. He didn't get it.
Now I'm not saying this is the case with your hubby. But of course change is scary for the people in our lives as well as us. Found out that my boyfriend was worried when I shed the weight, I'd shed him, too.

My fiancee has no weight problem, if anything he's underweight, but he gets it. He knows that while he can eat whatever he wants that I cannot and will not and even said "if you're that unhappy DO something about it."
Maybe what your hubby needs is a sit down, with a firm "here's what I need" kinda talk.

Don't give up, no matter what---keep fighting--keep logging. You can do it!

I am sorry that hubby is not being helpful... or rather.. being very unhelpful.

Is he perhaps afraid that when you loose the weight, you will be too attractive for him? That he worries that you will be so much more attractive to more other men? I know it is silly, but this is men we are talking about .

Good for you for sticking to your guns, and depending on what kind of man he is/relationship you two have, find a way to tell him you are doing this to stay healthy so you can enjoy a longer life with HIM, not anything else.
Not sure he'd believe you but if you tell him often enough, maybe it will seep into that brain...?

Hang in there - all of you with hubbies like that!!

Yup - agree with this- this is my fiancee to a T....your gonna leave me for a younger fitter guy you lose all this weight! lol he already is 5 years my junior....young enough I should think lol trying to get him to understand that to be healthy, happy and do more things easier together we need to lose some weight bottom line....he trys but like us all falls off the wagon after a couple weeks....losing and gaining the same 15lbs ......
.keep going on without him ...let him know you love him and sooner or later I am sure he will join you!

This is purely hypothetical (as my husband is lucky to find the effing kitchen), but if I asked my spouse what was for dinner and he said "I'm having salad" I'd be a little put off too.

Agreed. Just because I'm eating differently doesn't mean I can blow off fixing food for my family, which includes my husband. If he asks me, "What's for dinner?" and I plan on having a salad, I'd say "I'm having a salad, but I'm making spaghetti for y'all". (example)

This is purely hypothetical (as my husband is lucky to find the effing kitchen), but if I asked my spouse what was for dinner and he said "I'm having salad" I'd be a little put off too.

Agreed. Just because I'm eating differently doesn't mean I can blow off fixing food for my family, which includes my husband. If he asks me, "What's for dinner?" and I plan on having a salad, I'd say "I'm having a salad, but I'm making spaghetti for y'all". (example)

My family doesn't have fixed mealtimes--everyone eats when they are hungry. There are times my husband will say 'Are you fixing something for dinner?' If I am planning to eat light, I will tell him that, but I give him a few quick-to-fix options which I know will satisfy him. He is capable of cooking for himself, but I have no problem fixing him something because he is very appreciative. It makes me feel good that he enjoys my food. Now, my kids (ages 17 and 20) are another story...they are really picky and like a lot of prepared foods. Since there are very few things in my cooking repertoire they like, I refuse to torture them with my food.

Edit: Except for a few rich homemade dishes, that I need to be careful not to eat too often, since they tempt me.

Hey .. I'm new to the group, but I thought I would give an opinion about the stubborn husband. My experience is that of the stubborn husband. My wife has been working on losing weight and eating healthier for quite some time. I, on the other hand, have always enjoyed my fattening foods and would make faces at anything that even sounds healthy.

Until I was ready, I would not consider changing how I eat. After reaching a new all time high for my body weight, I finally decided I needed to lose weight so I would not end up as a heart attack victim at the dinner table. My problem, like many guys is that the word "diet" has horrible mental images. I would gain weight every time I start a diet, because I always crave what I cannot have. Each person has to be able to make the decision to be healthier when they are ready, and at their terms (unless a Dr is involved, but that's a different story).

Specifically for me, the only way I have been successful in losing weight, is to eat breakfast (cereal and milk), have a basically normal lunch (working on improvements), and then a light supper. I then exercise after work in the evenings. That will probably not work for most people, but it works for me.

Unfortunately, when one person in a marriage is mentally and emotionally ready to improve themselves and have a healthier lifestyle, it doesn't always mean that the spouse or even the children are in agreement. Your husband is capable of making choices for himself. Until HE is ready, the subject of dieting may stay a sore spot between you. What my wife ended up doing was making a "normal" supper at night for me and the children, and something separate for her. We would still eat together as a family, but the topic of food never became a fight that way. Over time, she would introduce healthier items such as brown rice or wheat instead of white bread based products.

My input, for what it's worth, is to stick to your personal goals and do not let anyone sway you. You have to wear your skin and work on being a healthier YOU. Meals for your husband can be negotiated until he is onboard.

Just remember, what works for you may not work for him. It's all about communication.

If you're that busy, you shouldn't have to do anything! Especially not for him! Where's the equality?

If he would get pissed about that, I would say 'either learn to do it yourself, or get off my back.'

You work full time and make all the meals?

You are getting rooked.

I guess just adjust recipes that can be scaled.

My husband is fit, but he doesn't watch what he eats. It drove me nuts when he would cook something I couldn't eat. My solution? I cut up all my veggies on Sunday, put them in baggies in the fridge or freeze the ones that can be frozen and mark the recipes out of my Atkins cookbook that we are having for dinner that week. I also have the menu on the calendar, so he can see what we're having and go to the page and make it if he wants to start it. He works 24 hrs on, 48 hrs off, so he is home a lot of week days and get dinner going for when I get home. It works for us and he doesn't have to do a lot of chopping, ect and he KNOWS what we're having.

Pre-making meals for the week can also be a good option. You can spend a couple hours on Sunday (or whatever) and prepare some meals & portion them out for the week. For you and for your hubby. You can have them in the fridge ready to go or even freeze some. You can make healthy (or not) casseroles and things like that to keep in the freezer for hubby for the times you get home late, etc. That way, he always has something to grab regardless of what and when you eat.