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Definitely don't give up; that's the worst thing you can do! Why don't you try starting small? I know you said you can't do the exercise you enjoy but how about just going for a 30 minute walk every day? That's better than nothing. Personally I don't think fasting is an effective way to lose or maintain weight long term either; I know it would for sure make me grumpy. Instead of going drastic on cutting the calories do it gradually and I think you'll be way less grumpy (but for sure stay about 1200 3-500 sounds scary low!).

I feel your pain, my doctor was hopeless as well. I was referred to the "nutritionist" by my doctor who proceeded to tell me off for eating salads at lunch time because it was "the equivalent of eating two meals" just because it didn't fit into her ideal portions plate. I got the last laugh with her though, after she told me off she said I had a bad attitude and "how do you expect to lose weight if you don't do what I say". Her mistake was not taking my weight before that statement, stepped on the scales and had lost 2kg since the previous week so i looked at her, smiled and just said "that's how" and walked out :laugh:

I started off at 24 stone so I know it is hard to get going with the weight loss, i tried many many times, failed and gave up until I had a switch moment with some pretty severe knee pain which made me take it seriously, but trust me when i say it can be done.

My main advise to you would be:

1. Don't try to make all the changes at once, choose either diet or exercise as your first change and do that first, once it becomes your normal life apply the change to the other area so you do not get overwhelmed by changes.

2. Do not try to lose weight, your body will decide how much fat it wants, we can do things to encourage it but you do not have control over it. What you control is what goes in your mouth and how much you move. For me I set weekly and monthly exercise targets. For example when i walked 100km in one month I earnt a KFC at the end of it, the KFC was the motivator but i had to earn it, which meant the food was not forbidden as it was my choice to get it or not.

3. Walk more, to the shops around the block anywhere as much as you can, those extra calorie burns make all the difference and should hopefully not cause your hernia too much pain.

Good luck with it, feel free to add me as a friend

Rich

Hang in there. It gets easier with time. I need to lose about a 100 pounds and so far so good. I'm not a big fan of fasting. Try following MFP's calorie suggestion for each day. Also, if you can't exercise, walk as much as you can. Good luck.

Oh my, I do feel your frustration and pain. The advice everyone gave you is quite excellent, and very encouraging - I have been feeling similarly hopeless for a while, and enjoy the encouragement and advice I'm finding on these boards.

I started on this website on 1 August, and have been tracking my eats HONESTLY since them. (It's really heopful). However, I am not yet pushing myself to make big edits in how I eat. Why? I'm a very strong proponent of not "shoulding" on myself. I know the edits will come, and they will be things I CAN do, not what I think (or others tell me) I SHOULD do. Baby steps.

One thought: yes, hernias do need to be treated carefully. You might want to discuss having them taken care of proactively, so that you don't have to fuss and bother about how much you can do. It will also reduce the risk of their running into trouble when it's not under your control, and having to endure a messy, lengthy, and risk-laden surgery.

Cheers, and good luck!

You need a healthy diet of protein, complex carbs, and fats.
You need to eat well over 1200 calories a day (300-500 cals a day is WAY TOO LOW!!)
You need to be eating at a deficit.
You need to be drinking water.
You need to be doing some sort of cardio.
You also need to be lifting/using weights.


If you do all those things you "should" lose weight.

You should not be fasting, or eating as little as 300-500 calories a day, that will throw your body into starvation mode. You need to be eating at least 1200 calories a day in order for your body to burn calories properly. Check the tools out here and find out what your BMR is, you should be taking in as many calories as your BMR.

Where are your hernias located? Better yet why have they not been repaired? hernias do not fix themselves and can lead to some very scary consequences if left untreated. I have bilateral groin hernias - probably something I was born with. They were not properly fixed on the first round of surgery and I've had one side fixed 3 times now, finally I have a piece of mesh there. I do still have issues with it bothering me. And the one thing I have found that helps - a good cardio workout. Not just a walk around the block, I mean a good 45 minutes and covered in sweat when I am done and it doesn't bother me. You may find it much easier to exercise after your hernias are fixed.