Does wanting to be thin = not valuing overweight people?

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  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    No, it doesn't. But I too am careful where I talk about my diet or fitness. My friends or family who weigh more get quite offended knowing I'm unhappy with my figure.

    "Well if you are that small, I must look like a cow to you"
    But that's quite simply not the way I see it.
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    As my trainer once told me "No one actually wants to be big".

    Everyone in life wants to be thin because society and media say thats how it has to be. When you struggle to get how you think you should be, you tend to lash out at others who are having an easier time then you, I feel at least. You sit and wonder how that person can complain out being fat/not losing weight when they are so much smaller then you.. Don't they see how much more weight you have to lose and why this is so hard for you? Why can't they just be happy with who they are and stop trying to one up you?

    It's such a vicious cycle now a days... and I think if the media changed their perspective, that a lot of other peoples perspectives would change too.
  • I'm anti-fat but only against fat on me. What other people get up to is their business. I can't stand seeing fat on my body. That's as far as it goes. :smile:

    Agreed. If I see another fat person, I just see another fat person. If I see a thin person, I see a thin person. We are all people. If someone wants to lose weight...or not, that is their business, not mine. I know I am too fat because of health issues.
  • wingednotes
    wingednotes Posts: 274 Member
    I've heard complaints from people on FB that weight loss posts are annoying because it sounds like bragging. Because of this, I only put my weight loss stuff on MFP where there are like minded people. Not everyone is in the same place with their bodies. Sometimes people feel so ashamed about themselves that they lash out at others who are losing weight because it hurts less than lashing out at themselves.
  • Gyoza11
    Gyoza11 Posts: 143 Member
    I'm not anti-fat, if you're fat and okay with it then go you. If you're fat but working hard and making an effort you're inspirational.

    What I hate is people who blame everything but themselves on their weight (or any other similar problems for that matter) and make no effort other than complaining and a lot of the time in my experience looking down on people who did make the effort.
    It's not your thyroid (if it is then get a prescription and get on a healthy diet), you weren't born this way. You're fat because you eat more calories than your body burns and you don't get any exercise.
  • does wanting to have more money make me not value people with less money?
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    Not exactly, but I understand the mentality and do get told that because I want to be (and am) a healthy weight I am obsessed with weight, which couldn't be further from the truth. I don't even own scales.
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