Things you wish you knew before you moved in
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If she wasn't dead, I would say she was the crazy person MY ex married after I divorced him. It would have been nice to know he was a liar and a cheater before we moved in together.0
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Make sure he knows that you poop. Not all guys are aware women do this.
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How laundry gets split up. And how groceries work. And like everyone else says...talk about who pays what before. I love living with my fiance but there have been a few rocky spots that could have been avoided if we had talked things out before moving in together. This is a good post!
Oh and that he has to clean the toilet, since you don't get pee around to rim. haha0 -
How the money is going to work...
Which way the toilet paper goes on the roll....
Whoever cooks, the other does the dishes...
Alternating turns for cleaning the bathroom...
*Play the word game (it bring up some discussion!)... for example:
1. Steak or Chicken?
2. TP over or under?
3. Warm bedroom or cold?
4. Sex weekly or nightly?
5. Ice cream or yogurt?
6. Football or basketball?
7. Snooze alarm of bounce right out of bed?
You get the idea....0 -
I think the more important thing is - what to *remember*, once you're living together. Remember that you're best friends, and to treat each other that way. Respect each other, and learn to recognize when you've personally had a bad day and are cranky - KNOW that about yourself, and don't take it out on your SO. So many people get complacent after moving in together and they forget what drew them together in the first place.
Remember those things, and cherish them to keep them alive.
If you can do that, everything else can be worked out. 0 -
That he could stay up until 4 AM playing Tiger Woods Golf on his PS2...swearing and throwing his remote. I've beaten that habit out of him though...
I hope with the remote?
Actually he broke the remote himself! That was the first step. The second was me closing our bedroom door so that I couldn't hear the swearing and he didn't know it and walked right into it! :laugh:0 -
1) That for some reason men can not have white pillowcases, no matter how clean the man is their pillowcase turns yellow and is impossible to get clean. I think testosterone stains things.
2) That he snores so bad I have to wear ear plugs to bed.
3) That he is a morning person!!! AAAGGHHHH, the horror of it. Morning people do not understand "non morning people".
4) Women have bodily functions too and sometimes it isn't something he needs to know about. So stop knocking on the bathroom door and asking me what I am doing!
Sometimes finding these things out the hard way is a fun and interesting journey. Don't think about it too hard, enjoy the ride.0 -
... that there would always be dried up drool on his pillow. (In all fairness, he has snake bite piercings, which i love, but it is still pretty gross.)0
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That he had GOBS of collectible comic book stuff... we have no closet space
Two blankets, one bed... enough said...
This!! My husband has Tons of comic stuff and now we too have no closet space! lol Also the two blankets is awesome!0 -
I am OCD when it comes to house cleaning...... My husband is a pig...... It's disgusting0
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My husband and I did a lot of loud 'talking' during the first year. We'd been together for ages and mesh well on the important things but there were (and are) lots of little daily issues.
We've been married nearly 12 years now and just this morning I annoyed him mightily by making him miss his train (I was late leaving the house to drive him there). He annoys me by constantly losing things (often in plain sight!) and getting frustrated that he can't find them. He's decided that he wants the dishes done every day whereas I'm happy to leave them for a bit. Luckily he doesn't mind doing the dishes so that's that sorted. We *still* squabble over bedtimes but a larger bedspread than your bed is a very good thing.
I guess the main thing is the ability to talk things over, compromise and enough good stuff to counter the minor annoyances of daily life. 0 -
my issues:
Leave lights on
Leave piles everywhere
eat and drink wine in bed
wear heels in the house
BF doesnt like those ones.
However,
If I leave the bedroom light on, have a pile of clothes leading to the bedroom, and am drinking wine naked in his bed with Just heels on, he doesn't mind 0 -
I wish I knew how spazzy he would be about bathroom privacy. Not that we wouldn't have moved in together, just would have said that we need to buy a house with two bathrooms no matter what, when a girl's gotta pee, I don't care that you are in the shower. He actually probably wishes that he would have known way more things about me ahead of time. I'm a BIT of a handful. We try to discuss things as soon as they come up. Also we both had lived alone prior to living together, so we are both used to taking care of everything. When it comes to who does what, play to your strengths.0
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I wish I had known he was a hoarder.0
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He's a blanket hog and snores loudly! I think I need ear plugs and my own blanket :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
This is me. We have two blankets and somehow I manage to also take up 80% of a Queen size bed other than that we work out great 0 -
That she was a pathological, lying, manipulative she-beast that would nearly destroy my sanity and ruin my life.
But it's ok. She's dead now.
I thought this was funny at first....then I got scared
I didn't do it!!!
Swear??
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Farting.
There will be SO much farting.
The kind of farting that will make you wonder what he ate. The kind of farting that will make you worry about when he's old and doesn't have as good control on his bowels. The kind of farting that will make you laugh despite yourself, which, in turn, will make you worry that he's farting some kind of nerve gas or nitrous oxide.
Brace yourself.0 -
that i couldnt bring chicks home
LOL - she may, you never know 0 -
Deal breakers such as:
Toilet paper... Over (as it should be!!!) or under?
Toothpaste... Squeeze in the middle or progressively up from the bottom (as it should be!!!)?
Leaving wet clothes/towels in heaps ANYWHERE!!!!! (this should never be done, not even in the laundry room!!!
How to share the cooking/cleaning duties...
Good luck!0 -
- Toenail clippings on the floor are unacceptable.
YES!! My bf used to do this. So gross. He'd justify saying, "you're just gonna vacuum them up later." NO NO and NO!
-I wish I'd considered that he has NEVER lived on his own so his housekeeping, self-helping skills were zilch!! The only thing he'd ever done was wash dishes. ARGH!!!0 -
Farting.
There will be SO much farting.
The kind of farting that will make you wonder what he ate. The kind of farting that will make you worry about when he's old and doesn't have as good control on his bowels. The kind of farting that will make you laugh despite yourself, which, in turn, will make you worry that he's farting some kind of nerve gas or nitrous oxide.
Brace yourself.
Sadly, I've already been exposed:( There are green stink squiggles all over this house!0 -
Farting.
There will be SO much farting.
The kind of farting that will make you wonder what he ate. The kind of farting that will make you worry about when he's old and doesn't have as good control on his bowels. The kind of farting that will make you laugh despite yourself, which, in turn, will make you worry that he's farting some kind of nerve gas or nitrous oxide.
Brace yourself.
OMG!!!! I can't believe I almost didn't say anything about this one. You'll be sure some nights someone is dead in the same room with you. Have an evacuation plan!0 -
I was friends with my hubby for a long time before we moved in together. We were only dating for a few weeks before he stayed with my mom and I, then about 2 months into dating we got our own apartment., but he's a slob and a loser with anger issues =P realized years later0
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I actually have no problems in this department...we coexist just fine Thank god! Hope it stays this way forever lol 0
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I wish I would have known he was talking to his ex-wife and trying to make plans to hang out with her a week before he moved in. I wouldn't have went for it otherwise and still wish I would have moved his *kitten* right back out after finding out the truth. Would have saved me a lot of crap....
In seriousness though, I would say make sure you talk everything out. Arrangements of bills, money, who does what concerning the household chores, etc.0 -
I hated all the little crap that you wouldn't even think to discuss. I say you just go for it and figure it out later.
I have some deal breakers, like I watch how they handle money. It really is very important that we have the same ideas and goals. I don't care what she says she wants to do with her money, I watch what she actually does with it. like if she's broke as hell, but comes home one day in a new BWM, that kind of crap drives me insane. I wont put up with it. Money is one of the biggest issues in a relationship, and I have found that to be true. Working together on goals is important. Having a similar mindset about priorities is important.
Other things too, but you're beyond that now, if you're planning on moving in. If financially, spiritually, physically, and mentally everything clicks, then I'm good and can deal with the little stuff.0 -
Farting.
There will be SO much farting.
The kind of farting that will make you wonder what he ate. The kind of farting that will make you worry about when he's old and doesn't have as good control on his bowels. The kind of farting that will make you laugh despite yourself, which, in turn, will make you worry that he's farting some kind of nerve gas or nitrous oxide.
Brace yourself.
OMG This is SO true! I swear we have a constant green haze floating over our house because of the methane my husband's butt can produce. And for God's sake...watch out if he eats Jalapeno peppers! :sick:0 -
LOL 2 blankets definitely....everything else will fall into place. Who pays what and who's turn to clean the bathroom goes back and forth with us0
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They use so much toilet paper!!!! I swear we go through a roll a day and I have no clue why. Guys don't wipe when they pee, right!!?0
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garage expectations... i think it should be used for cars.. others seem to think it's for storage. also friends/guests blocking entrance to the garage. so yeah, clearing defining parking rules is important. i don't want to have to move my car 8 times a day.
who checks the mail and what happens to the mail once it gets brought in. bf was stashing it random places for a while, then i found out i didn't pay the cable bill, oops.
who takes care of the pets, where the pet sleeps... my dog has been relocated to downstairs. apparently dog snoring was not an issue while we were dating, but now it is.
grocery shopping habits.. if you want to buy candy go ahead, but you better hide it from me or i will eat it. all of it. also buying food and then letting it go to waste. if we are sharing the cost of the bill, that's not OK with me.
internet/computer privileges, if you're going to share, it may be an issue.
one final thing- laundry. my bf has a nasty habit of washing his clothes, then never moving them to the dryer, in essence creating a nasty, smelly, moldy pile of wet fabric.
and someone else mentioned white sheets. i agree in that men cannot keep white sheets clean, so buy a dark color if you have white or he will ruin them.0
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