Comfort Eating...

I am so sorry to hear about your cat. I really can empathize with how you are feeling. I lost my 2 year old cat, Snickers, to cancer last october. I know i didn't have him for as long as you had your baby but he was my special boy. I was devastated, sad, lonely, and the sinking heartbreak i felt almost seemed unbearable. I adopted him on valentines day, along with his cage mate, and it was the best valentines I had ever received.

When Snickers was diagnosed I was heart broken. And, at the time of us finding out what was wrong, he was already suffering. I had him put to sleep, and I held him as the angels carried him Home. Many of my friends asked how I could do that- that they couldn't be in the room for that. i wondered how anyone could not. He was there for me, day in and out for a year and a half- I would never leave him alone when he needed me the most.

He was the coolest cat ever. He was like a dog. he followed me from room to room. He even would stand inbetween the shower curtains when I showered, and just wait for me to be done. I loved him so much- still do.

My point in all of this- is that it will get better. I still miss him, and I still cry sometimes but I hold tight to the thought that one day, when it's my time to go Home, I will see him again. And when that day comes, I will never have to say goodbye to him again. And that I will have eternity to show him the love he should have always had. He had a hard life until I adopted him from a rescue- and I like to think that his last days on Earth he learned what is was like to have a family.

Your little girl was lucky to have had you from 8 weeks of life to the very end.

It's hard to stay on track when you're sad. I think starting with small goals is a great idea. You will get your grove back. I hope things are better for you

So was doing really well, then my cat died, and everything fell apart.

I had my cat, Tabbi, for nearly 17 years, from 8 weeks old, and she was my little girl, my baby, my friend through thick and thin. She died 2 weeks off her 17th birthday, and it really hit me hard. I came home from work, and thought she had already died, but she moved slightly and I realised she was still with me at that point. I wrapped her in a blanket and rocked her until she was gone. I was devastated.

I found all my motivation in just about everything had disappeared, apart from food.....so yes I ate, and ate, and ate, and yes all the wrong things.....Did it make me happy? (or happier?) No..... Did it make things easier? ... No....
So now a few months have passed and yes I am managing my grief better, but still not got to grips with my comfort eating. I just seemed to have lost all good judgement about what to eat, so really feeling like I am starting from scratch again, and the enormity of the task ahead is just daunting me.

So now I need to start re-focusing on goals.... I am restarting my diet profile, so I have not got such a big task (68 pounds to lose! if not a little more!) so am going to break it down so I can focus on a smaller goal..... So am going to set my goal as 20 pounds, so target is to lose 1 pound a week so 20 weeks to lose 20 pounds seems achievable.

My main goal, is that in just over a year I can start looking for a horse, my all time dream.

Exercise..... get back to my Zumba (wii), get on my wii fit plus, and come the start of the new school year.... lots of walking as my eldests new school is in the next village, so no driving unless the weather is bad!

Positives..... Focus on the positives .... I have two beautiful boys and a lovely husband, and 2 lovely dogs....a job that I like for a very lovely company, and my husband has just set up his own business with 2 friends.... so focus on all these good things.

So here we go again, refocused....and goal set ... 20 pounds to go, I can do this, I must do this!