UGH!!!!!! Need advice

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TxAngel79
TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
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Normally I wouldn't talk to complete strangers about this, but I need help! It seems that my husband does not want me...in an intimate way! I mean it's been a while, and he just came home from work on a break.....I had literally just stepped out of the shower...and NOTHING!! Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out. Pats me on the stomach gives me a little peck and leaves. I thought I was beginning to look good, but I'm beginning to think not! So flipping frustrated!! How can I seduce my husband?!?!?! Any advice is welcome!
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  • Mummyadams
    Mummyadams Posts: 1,125 Member
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    Tell him someone from your gym has been checking you out - that should get his A into G
  • stfriend
    stfriend Posts: 256 Member
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    Honestly it sounds like he was tired and in pain. It probably had nothing to do with you at all. I would simply wait until he's feeling better and try again.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
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    Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out.
    What? My guess would be either he's in severe pain and obviously not thinking about sex, or he's addicted to your pain killers. How do you just throw this little tidbit in the middle of the story like it's nothing?
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,455 Member
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    Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out.
    What? My guess would be either he's in severe pain and obviously not thinking about sex, or he's addicted to your pain killers. How do you just throw this little tidbit in the middle of the story like it's nothing?

    That. Plus why assume you aren't sexy if he doesn't want to jump you every time you think he should.
  • mfkn_Titanium
    mfkn_Titanium Posts: 131
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    Give him the pain pills....a few shots of vodka....and then sit on his face. Works every time!
  • TxAngel79
    TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
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    Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out.
    What? My guess would be either he's in severe pain and obviously not thinking about sex, or he's addicted to your pain killers. How do you just throw this little tidbit in the middle of the story like it's nothing?


    Ok yes I didn't explain that. He says they give him energy and he's working 16 hour shifts. No he is not in pain! And no this is a long standing problem about the intimacy! I'm at a complete loss on what to do anymore!
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
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    Give him the pain pills....a few shots of vodka....and then sit on his face. Works every time!

    This absolutley should work, excellent idea :tongue:
  • TxAngel79
    TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
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    Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out.
    What? My guess would be either he's in severe pain and obviously not thinking about sex, or he's addicted to your pain killers. How do you just throw this little tidbit in the middle of the story like it's nothing?

    That. Plus why assume you aren't sexy if he doesn't want to jump you every time you think he should.


    Point being he doesn't at all!! Maybe once a month if I'm lucky once every two weeks!
  • TxAngel79
    TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
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    Give him the pain pills....a few shots of vodka....and then sit on his face. Works every time!


    I'll give it a shot!
  • Treesy72
    Treesy72 Posts: 230
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    Text him some super sexy "money shots" of you and if that doesn't work then you may need to have a sit down talk with him. Maybe he's just in a rutt.
  • ZugTheMegasaurus
    ZugTheMegasaurus Posts: 801 Member
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    Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out.
    What? My guess would be either he's in severe pain and obviously not thinking about sex, or he's addicted to your pain killers. How do you just throw this little tidbit in the middle of the story like it's nothing?


    Ok yes I didn't explain that. He says they give him energy and he's working 16 hour shifts. No he is not in pain! And no this is a long standing problem about the intimacy! I'm at a complete loss on what to do anymore!
    Yeah, that's called opioid abuse. A bad sex life is probably the least of your problems; get him some help.
  • Mummyadams
    Mummyadams Posts: 1,125 Member
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    Talk to him
  • IAM_WORTH_IT
    IAM_WORTH_IT Posts: 13
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    Give him the pain pills....a few shots of vodka....and then sit on his face. Works every time!

    :laugh: love it! :bigsmile:
  • rozsbluejay
    rozsbluejay Posts: 303 Member
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    Try to initiate it in the bedroom if it doesn't work by then...I would suggest talking.
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
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    He's taking pain pills not prescribed for him? And how often does he do this? Narcotic painkillers, especially excessive use, will kill a man's sex drive!
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,143 Member
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    Instead he asks for some pain pills(that I have due to multiple kidney stones) not caring that I am almost out.
    How do you just throw this little tidbit in the middle of the story like it's nothing?


    Ok yes I didn't explain that. He says they give him energy and he's working 16 hour shifts. No he is not in pain!

    That doesn't sound good.
  • TxAngel79
    TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
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    I do not believe his addicted to the pills, he only takes them when working the night shift. To be honest this is a problem that has been going on for a while. We have talked about it! Things got real good then went back downhill! I know we all have ruts, but I just feel unwanted. I know he's not cheating, so that's not the problem.
  • dvcab
    dvcab Posts: 78
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    Ask him you may not like what you hear but at least you will know and can deal with it
  • TxAngel79
    TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
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    I have asked him, and his answer is sex isn't that big of a deal. Granted we have been together 10 years, but for a while in the beginning we could not keep our hands off each other! I'll admit I was the one who tried to get him into my bed first! He knew I was a girl who loved it when we got married! As I said we will have a talk, and afterwards we have two amazing weeks! Then it's back to the way it was! Example.....Last weekend we were at a big party lake. We were having a great time and he was showing me alot of attention! I was excited! When we got home nothing! I do admit that the next morning I woke him up and demanded it and got my way, but nothing since!
  • HogSandwich
    HogSandwich Posts: 146 Member
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    the real issue now is that you two have already problematised sex.

    Can I suggest getting a little drunk, watch some porn, and see where it takes you? The less attention you can pay to the fact that its "been a while", the better.

    Also some new lingerie. Subtle doesn't appear to work on dudes so go straight out filthy.

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