Calling on MFP Community - CRITICAL SUPPORT SOUGHT

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  • Carlissa3332
    Carlissa3332 Posts: 9 Member
    Bump. Just sent her a message.
  • ucabucca
    ucabucca Posts: 606 Member
    bump
  • flobeedoodle
    flobeedoodle Posts: 176 Member
    Am I the only one who sees this as an invasion of the "target's" privacy and autonomy? Not cool, especially looking up her irl information. Seriously, seriously not cool.


    Wow.


    Not cool.


    Whether or not to disclose one's situation, one's goals, and one's progress is that person's decision, not yours. Even if someone's info is public, posting his/her name and drawing attention to him/her is not your right.
  • jentarver
    jentarver Posts: 192
    you are an amazing friend!!!
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
    Am I the only one who sees this as an invasion of the "target's" privacy and autonomy? Not cool, especially looking up her irl information. Seriously, seriously not cool.


    Wow.


    Not cool.


    Whether or not to disclose one's situation, one's goals, and one's progress is that person's decision, not yours. Even if one's info is public, posting his/her name and drawing attention to him/her is not your right.

    I kind of thought this for a second, but OP's intentions are clearly very good. Also, she just got online (yay!) and seemed thrilled about all the messages and support.
  • Sixlairds
    Sixlairds Posts: 15 Member
    bump
  • tumblyweed
    tumblyweed Posts: 416 Member
    bump
  • totallydevious
    totallydevious Posts: 309 Member
    Bump.
    I sent her a message.
    :flowerforyou:
  • betancourta229
    betancourta229 Posts: 171 Member
    Bump-ity bump bump!
  • I'll send her a message too x
  • gaylynn35
    gaylynn35 Posts: 854 Member
    bump
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,327 Member
    Was happy to send a message. Hope it helps...she sounds like a real trooper!!
  • BlisterLamb
    BlisterLamb Posts: 396 Member
    sent
  • flobeedoodle
    flobeedoodle Posts: 176 Member
    Am I the only one who sees this as an invasion of the "target's" privacy and autonomy? Not cool, especially looking up her irl information. Seriously, seriously not cool.


    Wow.


    Not cool.


    Whether or not to disclose one's situation, one's goals, and one's progress is that person's decision, not yours. Even if one's info is public, posting his/her name and drawing attention to him/her is not your right.

    I kind of thought this for a second, but OP's intentions are clearly very good. Also, she just got online (yay!) and seemed thrilled about all the messages and support.

    I hope that the target appreciates this, rather than be upset by it, but the outcome of this particular situation doesn't really change that I hope to never see this sort of thread again. Just that it exists and is well-received makes this place... less.
  • Mummyadams
    Mummyadams Posts: 1,125 Member
    *bump and message left* Good on you, I hope someone would do the same for me
  • zonah
    zonah Posts: 216 Member
    Message sent, you're a great friend. I don't see how anyone could see bad intentions here. xo
  • bellesouth18
    bellesouth18 Posts: 1,071 Member
    Message sent! You are one really caring, thoughtful man, Joe. She's lucky to have you as her MFP friend.
  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
    Message sent and hats off to you for being a great support to your friend.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    BUMP! I hope she says that we do care. Were all in this struggle together and cant accomplish climbing a mountain without support to push us to take one step at a time. BUMP BUMP BUMP!
  • NamsdnaL
    NamsdnaL Posts: 102 Member
    Here's a thought:
    Maybe she's gone on vacation?
    Or
    Maybe she's just having computer problems? I'm just saying!
    But I do hope everything works out for her.
  • Mishadijo
    Mishadijo Posts: 36 Member
    Eureka!!!

    She has logged on, and received messages... and was THRILLED... as she stated... makes her feel 'warm anf fuzzy and welcome here'. She is fine, and is as determined as ever to win this thing!!!

    And yes, for those that feel this was an invasion of privacy, I though ot fhat before posting this. However, jumpinsticks befriended me specifically for support. I did not seek that friendship. And so, when I accept friendships I truly grow to care. And in jumpinsticks case was especially moved by her challenge and the inspirational and brave way she had been attacking it.

    I thought for some days before doing this, but the depth of the challenge in losing 400lbs and the truly critical importance of this... and the fact that I was so truly worried.... Well... again... all that was more important to me than whether it may not be viewed kindly by some on the MPF community or for that matter was willing to risk the friendship of jumpinsticks ... her battle is THAT important. As it turns out... she was all good (thankfully)... As I stated in my original post... this truly was a very easy thing for us to do... and it meant SOOOOOO much to jumpinsticks.

    I don't hold anything against those who view my post negatively... As my mother always used to say... different strokes for different folks... just not my cup of tea... Smiling. That is what is wonderful about being human... there are a multitude of opinions, tastes, values... and I choose not to judge... at least I try not to judge ... but yes, we are all human and at times very difficult to not let judgementalism creep in. ... Anyway, I have no ill will whatsoever for the decenting views of people regarding this post. Wish them and everyone who has taken the time to respond to this post and those that have reached out to jumpinsticks..... a hearty THANK YOU!! She was truly moved. She has 50 new friends, and received 60 messages and was overwhelmed by all the sincere support. She indicated she never felt such deep support ever.

    Be well! And good luck in achieving your goals!
  • Restybaby2012
    Restybaby2012 Posts: 568 Member
    message sent.


    I might add that I also added her to a prayer list..........it cant hurt (esp for those that believe)
  • Restybaby2012
    Restybaby2012 Posts: 568 Member
    Joe...you did a wonderful thing for this woman. It shows your true character. Please dont apologize...EVER...for caring. I personally would love and respect a friend that would do as much for me. You rock buddy

    Stand strong
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