ok guys.... I need the brutal thruth.....

you are only using 2 fl oz of milk for your shake? That's only 2 shots worth.

Just something that stuck out.

I'm gonna catch a bunch of hate for this, but I don't effing care. I tried everything too, and nothing really worked for me but low carb. We're already friends, so just holler if you are interested but have questions. And, yes, my doc monitors my diet and I am healthy!

You shouldn't have to feel like you are going to "catch hate" for that! I think it is great you found a plan that works for you!! I too started low carb about a month ago and love it! It helped me break my stall.

Have you thought about mixing up your workout to include weights? I know weights have always been one of two critical factors for me. The diet is essential. One of the ways I have learned to stay on top of my diet is to pack my entire day's worth of food and take it with me, snacks and all. I have also given myself a long term goal, yet smaller achievable goals in step to the long term goal. I try not to have access to cash with me, when I'm on an outing that may be tempting. My daily water consumption goals have alleviated alot of my cravings. These are my two cents. I hope it helps

Truth? You aren't consistent. Lack of consistency will result in lack of results.

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Weigh and measure everything - portion sizes are a killer.

I notice you record very small exercise burns - 57 or 84 calories here or there. I wouldn't bother recording anything below, say, 150 as any margin of error would wipe them out entirely. Can you go for a power walk at lunchtime as well as your 10-minute dog walk? Do an exercise DVD when you get home from work?

Go with what MFP gives you, and it is deigned to eat back your exercise calories as they are not included in your activity level. Aim to 80% of them to allow for that margin of error, but as I've said, look to up your burn more before eating them back becomes worthwhile.

So I have been on MFP for over 18 months now and have lost very little. I know I have "slipped" at times and have been really trying to get back on track. I have an open diary and try to workout 5 days a week. I am getting married exactly 4 months from today and my cw is 235.5. My goal this year is to be in "onederland" by the first week in December and have my wedding dress altered accordingly. My ultimate goal is to be 165-175lbs (I am 5'10) I am so tired of hating how I look and OBSESSING about it. It's not fair to me, my fiancee, or my family and friends. I really could use some honest (but not hateful) suggestions on what to do from those who understand/have been there. Let me know what has worked/not worked for you and/or what you think I am doing wrong.

Thanks MFP :flowerforyou:

Honestly, that goal is a little high...I would aim for a 1-2 lb a week loss. That will still give you great progress!!!!! (I'm set to 1.5 and most weeks I lose about that) find an exercise that you can/are willing to do everyday and do it. I started only being able to run 45 seconds. (I have now found a greater passion for lifting but still run 2-3 times a week.) the last and possibly best advice is: NO TIME SENSITIVE GOALS!!!!! I just recently have stopped doing them. Why would I set a timetable for something that is the rest of my life??? And if it's not a change your willing to commit to, then save yourself a year and give up now, because you will reach the start weight again or higher. (not directed to you personally, just in general)

I am getting married in less than 3 months, and I have the fitting for suit set for the begining of october. I have lost 16lbs to date, an i know i am going to lose more. I know this because i am COMMITTED, I am DETERMINED, and I WILL NOT be beat by a craving or an excuse. I wont allow myself to be. YOU have to be commited to not only losing the weight for your wedding, but losing it for good. I'm not saying you won't lose weight if you are just doing it to fit into your dress, what i am saying is that you should want to lose the weight for the day, months, and the years after you take that dress off. That is why i am doing it. Sure i want to look good in my wedding photos, and yeah i want my fiancee to think i look great on our wedding day. but more importantly i want to look good and feel good for both myself and her from now until death do us part. I want to be around to enjoy her and our family for as long as i possibly can. and if i am 20-25 lbs lighter for our wedding....great....but you can bet your last dollar that on our 1 year anniversery, and every anniversery there after i am going to be at my goal weight.

Whenever you feel like it is getting to tough.. think of your future husband, whenever you think you can't...hear him telling you that you can, don't only picture yourself in your wedding dress in 4 months, think of how great you are going to look and feel 1 year into your new life together, and then 25 years into your life together. Thats what I do...i think about that each and every day, and that is what gets me that one extra rep, that addtional little push in my work out. Thats the best piece of advice i can give you. I can't tell you how many calories you need to take in, or what exercise are the best. But i can tell you that if you set your mind to something, and it is for the RIGHT reasons...you will be amazed at what you can accomplish.

Good luck on your journey, and best of luck with you wedding. Feel free to friend if you would like. I would love to know how everything turns out for you

The brutal truth is that if you're looking for a quick fix, it's not going to happen. It'd be nice to lose the weight for your wedding but what happens after? Do you give up and be fat and happy? Don't do this just for that one day in your life, do it FOR your life. You already know by now that having that future goal wasn't really enough motivation. You need to find REAL motivation and stick with it!

I'm not sure what I'm seeing in your food diary history. Were you not logging dinner or were you really only eating that little a week or so ago? The answer doesn't really matter I guess...my point is though that your goal should be to eat no less than what MFP gives you for a calories goal plus at least half of your exercise calories. And definitely don't plan on losing more than 1-2 pounds per week. More than that is unhealthy and unrealistic. And be really consistent with logging everything. If you lie about what you consume, you're only deceiving yourself.

P.S. Ok, I just noticed that your goal brings you to just over 2 pounds a week so it might be doable but it's just slightly unrealistic. The horrid reality of dieting is plateaus so you may get stuck at some point and not quite get there. Not trying to be a Debbie Downer, just being honest to prepare you.

As far as what's worked for me.
1) consistency
2) eat my BMR plus exercise calories burned per my Polar FT4 HRM
3) do this for me and no one else

i feel like you may not be eating enough. find out what your bmr is and your tdee... you want to go in between those number for your net. try www.fat2fitradio.com/tools to get these numbers and go from there. i eat 1600-1800 and i'm only 5'4" so i know you could eat a little more

i feel like you may not be eating enough. find out what your bmr is and your tdee... you want to go in between those number for your net. try www.fat2fitradio.com/tools to get these numbers and go from there. i eat 1600-1800 and i'm only 5'4" so i know you could eat a little more

I'm 5'11" and only eat 1400-1500/day with 30 minutes daily exercise. If you're not losing weight, eating more will not help. The starvation mode thinking is a myth. If it were true, anorexics would be obese.

So I have been on MFP for over 18 months now and have lost very little. I know I have "slipped" at times and have been really trying to get back on track. I have an open diary and try to workout 5 days a week. I am getting married exactly 4 months from today and my cw is 235.5. My goal this year is to be in "onederland" by the first week in December and have my wedding dress altered accordingly. My ultimate goal is to be 165-175lbs (I am 5'10) I am so tired of hating how I look and OBSESSING about it. It's not fair to me, my fiancee, or my family and friends. I really could use some honest (but not hateful) suggestions on what to do from those who understand/have been there. Let me know what has worked/not worked for you and/or what you think I am doing wrong.

Thanks MFP :flowerforyou:

Okay so you have roughly 3.5 months to lose 36 lbs in order to reach ONEderland, that would put you at 199 and at 5' 10" IF you do some strength training along with diet and exercise wont look too bad on you, infact you may even LOOK 185. ( the magic of weight lifting :happy: ). So in order to reach 199 in december you would need to lose at least 9lbs a month. The more a person weighs the faster they tend to lose (if they are honestly working for it ) you could easily lose 10 to 12 lbs a month with good effort and diet. The question is how bad do you want it? You CAN do it and then you need to keep it. Eat whole grains, lean meats, fruit and veggies, drink lots of water. Ditch the processed foods and sodas/artificial drinks. Cardio and lift 3-5x a week (AT LEAST). You can be one HOT MAMA come wedding day. Good Luck :flowerforyou:

I'd suggest eating cleaner - no chain restaurants or take out. Prepare food and snacks at home so you see what is going into what you are eating. Of course certain foods like 0% fat greek yogurt is prepackaged but it makes a great protein-rich snack. Same with cottage cheese. Lots of lean protein, veggies, fruit! If you have a sweet tooth, I'd suggest purchasing Yonana's which makes frozen bananas taste like delish soft serve!

Also, have you considered incorporating Insanity or P90x into your workout? Maybe those programs could help, especially Insanity because its heavily cardio. Maybe do Insanity and then 30 min at the gym - two-a-days might help!

That's a really lofty goal, but if you set your mind to it I hope you are able to achieve it!

Good luck and congrats on the wedding!!!

Buy some digital kitchen scales and WEIGH everything. No cup measurements. You can pile a cup measurement high to the point where you end up with two cups but you can't trick the scales.

Kitchen scales are more important than bathroom scales :flowerforyou:

This.

This is a far more common mistake than people realise. It's very easy to overfill volume measurements, but a gram is a gram.