Pregnant and not eating. NEED SUPPORT.

Hello everyone.

About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.

I would take this to a therapist/professional. We can give advice but at this point in time you need a professoinal medical opinion-and I don't just mean from your OB.

Losing weight while pregnant is not good at all. Please go see someone.

Hi,
So........ if you are upset and overwhelmed, etc., try to drink your calories--- smoothies, shakes, etc. When I was pregnant with #2, and it was HOT out, and I didn't feel like eating, I would make smoothies. I bought powdered milk at Sam's Club and added a scoop of that to my smoothies to get a bit of extra calories in each one.


Other than that, please, please, please talk to your doctor. It really isn't good to not be eating when pregnant. It puts alot of stress on the baby and on your body.

Hello everyone.

About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.

Are you near a military base? there may be military wife support groups in your area that you might want to hit up. The good news is, you're 17 weeks. Some of the most important developments are done with baby, such as the neurological stuff. Do you have a printer? or access to one? even a book can help out.
post pictures of each week's development in the kitchen, on the fridge even. Seen the little one developing and your job to eat might encourage you a bit more. There are also support groups from pregnant women that your ob/gyn might be able to refer to you.

secondly, there is WIC, They will supply you with food if need be, but can further help you find support groups.

for awhile, all I craved was a whopper w/ cheese and frozen fruit bars. Your body will soon crave what it needs. 2lbs really isn't a huge deal as far as baby goes.

Your favorite television;
get some food, park your butt in front of it. it will probably distract you from not wanting to eat.

As an ex-military wife, the 1st month is not easy, but it does get easy after that.

good luck adding a a baby into that mix.

yikes.

Find a group of women to talk with daily. Hopefully this "chat" here can help. I am sure there are a lot of groups out there that have women going through the same things you are. Take care of you and that baby. You two are the most important people you need to think about. It does stink having your man leave. Be brave and strong like your man. You can do it!!!!! If you need a friend you can "friend" me. I have had a baby before and understand the worries taht go with it.

ohh hun im so sorry!! i know how stressful the husband leaving can be!!! *hugs* i totally understand the not eating thing...i was a wreck too when my husband left for Kuwait, I wasn't pregnant but I was nursing and our daughter was just a couple of months old...it was HARD!!! omg....so i know how you feel...feel free to add me as a friend and totally talk to your doctor....maybe there is an anxiety med that is safe during pregnancy??

just try to eat about 6 small meals a day...maybe not putting so much in your stomach at one time will be more helpful...

IT is really good that you are reaching out for help! The best part is there are a lot of people wanting to help you. I agree with the smoothies as a way of getting nutrients in without eating a meal. A trick I learned is to freeze your fruit first and then you don't have to use ice, you also do need to drink lots of water, I use to fill a thirty two ounze bottle and keep it on hand and when I emptied it i would refill it even if i wasn't going to drink it right away. Hopefully you will continue to seek help. One day at a time is all you can take things in.

Not eating enough while pregnant will be more detrimental to your health than the baby's health, but still not a good situation to be in. It has been really hard seeing my weight come up over the past 38 weeks too. I had also lost about 30 lbs before finding out I was pregnant, so it was really frustrating visiting the doctor to see my weight increase gradually. It must be really hard with out your husband there so my best advice to you is seeing a therapist and maybe have your OB recommend a dietician. A dietician can maybe ease some of your fears about gaining weight, and stress how important a weight gain is. If you gain weight correctly, much of it is from the extra fluids, placenta, breast tissue, growing uterus, and the baby itself. If you gain 30 lbs, it is estimated that only about 5-7lbs of those 30 are 'maternal fat stores'. So please, make sure you are eating enough for you and your baby's sake Even if you still log all of your calories, try and be eating at minimum your maintenance. The scale WILL go up, but just try to remember it is not FAT you are putting on!

Try a hazelwood necklace as a natrual way to change your mood!! The hazelwood necklace is at your local health store, tell them about your symptoms and they will help you!!

Though I didn't have all the trials emotionally while pregnant, I still physically couldn't eat... I just wasn't hungry and nothing satisfied... I would eat two bites and I was done.

So my doctor told me to drink Ensures or other nutrition drinks like that. That way I would at least be getting my vitamins and minerals beyond the pre-natals. So I suggest that and perhaps some V-8 VFusion... it may not be the best, but when it's hard to eat, it's better than nothing.

I didn't read past the original post so this may be redundant, but bring your OBGYN into the picture as soon as you can. They should absolutely be involved in this issue. They can help direct you to the right spot (nutrition, counselling, whatever). Since you are consuming less food its more important than ever to hit the prenatal supplements. If you don't have those, they'll give them to you at the OB.

Don't worry so much about losing weight- I can't help but feel like letting it stress you out will cause you to lose more weight- it really seems like you are stuck in a cycle. My mom lost 30 lbs with both her pregnancies (morning sickness) and my sister and I both turned out fine. The baby will get what he/she needs from you regardless of whether you are eating or not. This might result in hair loss, brittle nails, bad teeth, loose skin, or any other number of vitamin deficient symptoms in your body, so for your own good, try to at least take vitamins/ protein shakes, something.

Congrats on your new addition. You will fall in love like never before

Even though I'm not a military wife, I had severe depression during my pregnancy and couldn't eat. My OB suggested those nutritional shakes--I think they were called Boost. Then she scolded me for not eating. I deserved it. But the shakes helped soooo much! Good luck and I hope you feel better.

ETA nothing of value :P

good luck adding a a baby into that mix.

yikes.

He's in basic. He'll be back in a few months. She's hormonal and yes she needs to eat and hydrate but holy crap cut her some slack!

Your have the right to feel this way. I am not pregnant yet but trying right now but hubby was in the military for 6 years and he retired July 2011. My husband was deployed to Iraq in January 2009-2010.