S/O eats junk & doesn't work out...

My husband is a stick. He's always been a stick, and he'll always be a stick. I've gotten used to that. What kills me is when he fills the house with junk food. :P But I got lucky! We were discussing my depression the other day, and he asked what I thought were my triggers. I told him stress, hormones, and my body weight. I went on to (finally) tell him I'm trying to watch what I eat and exercise and I'm using this site. He amazed me by asking what he could do to help me. No "you don't need to lose weight." No "whatever makes you happy." He asked what he could do to help me reach a point where I feel pretty again! So we had a long talk, and in the end I asked him to stop bringing sweet foods in the house that tempt me so much, but he could bring in chips and coke (which I can easily avoid.)

This is why I love my husband so much - he's always willing to do whatever he can to help me be who I want and need to be. He offered to start running with me... but he's an Army guy, and I'm nowhere near able to keep up with him, lol. I told him I'd stick to my stationary bike and karate.

So my advice? Talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and ask him to limit his junk food to things you know you can resist. If you need a workout buddy, ask him to come with you, or maybe find a female friend.

Lol, I like how this is the 2nd thread in a short time about this.

The first person got flamed up to no end... lots of hate.

This one is filled with advice and meaning. Oh the internet, how you weave your cruel web of fate.

8 years together and has not wored out one single day, eats a snack pack every night before bed, and is the skinniest person I know. It is frustrating, he never understands why i cook seperatly for us sometimes and refuses to eat everything I will. I just brush it off now and move on doing it without him. You get use to it lol

I just try to be a good example. If it motivates him, great....if not, well...thats his issue to deal with . Would I like for him to work out with me and eat some of the same things I do? Sure...of course I would. But, I also try to go places with him to eat that he wants to go and still make the best choices for me. I can't force him to eat better or exercise, just the same as I would not want him to force me to do it. Do what you need to do for you and let him find his own way. Hopefully he will be inspired by you on his own and join you

This is great advice!

I feel ya. My significant other does the same. But he is gaining weight. I think he sees that now though and that's what's making him want to work out with me. But before that he said he didn't "need" to. Just be a good example, keep suggesting active things to do together. Maybe suggest go out canoeing, or rafting, or that you want to go to the beach, play tennis, something. Maybe it's the idea of "working out" he doesn't like. So come up with fun, motivating, active things you can do together!

My S/O is the same -- he doesn't like to work out (or most exercise in general). As others have said, you've got to work out for yourself with or without him But you can do some things to help him as well as yourself. For example, I do most of the grocery shopping so buy *mostly* healthy snacks. If he wants to eat that brick of cheese or half pound of fatty salami, then he has to go get it himself. Also, I do try to find activities that he might like and do those together. We've gotten into hiking together lately, and even though we don't go as often as I'd like, he will actually suggest going now. Maybe you can find an activity that you both enjoy or can try together to get him off the couch (and away from the chips)!

I've been trying to get my husband to eat healthier meals and exercise a little bit too. He's a stick even though he eats junk food and doesn't work out. I've tried to explain to him the benefits that aren't weight related. It will help his back after sitting in a car most of the day (he's a police officer and mostly does traffic in his little village), it will help him decompress after work, etc. It has been slowly (VERY VERY slowly) helping to motivate him. I stopped making separate meals for him. I do try to incorporate things he likes and keep extra stuff on hand for me. If he wants pizza, I make myself salmon since he doesn't eat that.

Question-
How do you all deal with a significant other who doesn't work out and eats not so healthy?
I try to suggest going for a walk instead of sitting on the couch eating cookies, but it's hard. He doesn't "need" to work-out but I do.

How do I motivate him, which in turn, motivates me?

Any tips?

YOu don't wanna do it for yourself. Look at it as your own "me time" -- and that's his time or find a close friend to catch up with on a walk.

If you really want him to go with you then approach it a different way and not as "working out" but as time to talk to each other and see how your days and work or what not have been going

My S/O is not skinny, at all, doesnt think he needs to work out and eats whatever anyway. He thinks that because his jeans from highschool still fit he's fine. Little does he know, its just that they fit under his belly now. UGH. Its frustrating and lately Ive found myself on the couch next to him....Gotta break this habit with myself and tell him to cook his own meals. If you want to rant and rave - we can do it together. Friend me.

This is your journey, not his, if he chooses to join in fine but if he doesn't, it shouldn't stop you - it might even make you more determined to be successful because you're doing it on your own? Just for info, my SO is ex-Navy and fit as a fiddle, eats like a horse, etc - we compromised on food, junk in the house at weekends but the gym stuff I did alone - fab me-time even when he later joined the same gym, he went off for a swim long before I was finished so i still had me-time,,,,,,

Do what you need to do for you and let him find his own way. Hopefully he will be inspired by you on his own and join you

Good luck

Maybe think of something that's fun and doesn't seem like exercise? Tossing a frisbee or going swimming or to a concert where you'd dance a lot?

Have him make a Dr's appt for a check up.

My guy eats junk food..all day, he's 6'5 has muscle and very very little fat! He doesn't work out , drinks Mt Dew until the falls asleep at night. He recently went to the DR and found he has high cholesterol and a couple of other red flags, although his weight/mass is perfect there are DEFINITELY negative affects on his body that are not visible. Maybe convince him to get a check-up at the DRs office. It really puts things into perspective, since then he has ordered a fitbit and is looking into some home exercise equipment, he still eats a lot of junk *sigh*.. but..one step at a time.

My hubby eats whatever he wants, drinks sodas, and goes to work. The way I see it is that I need to work on me and not worry about him. If I do I will never accomplish anything and I will become discouraged. He is in charge of him and I am in charge of me. Maybe if I lead by example it will inspire him. No one around me, physically outside of fbook, eats healthy or works out. I am solo in this. The only companionship or motivation I receive or give is through MFP and 2 fbook groups.