So frustrated!!!

debiw1234
debiw1234 Posts: 26
edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
I am so frustrated! :sad:

Last October I stared WW and lost almost 35 lbs then I kind of slacked off the meetings and joined MFP and lost another 7 or 8 lbs but for some reason decided to go back to WW only to find out that isn't what I wanted. I was so disciplined all winter with food and exercising which I discovered I loved but my motivation is gone and I am binge eating and getting more and more angry and depressed with myself. I can't figure out why I am purposely destroying all the hard work I did. Fortunately I have only gained back 5 pounds but I have lost and gained those 5 pounds more times than I can count since April. Please anyone with ideas or who would like to be my friend let me know. I need support desperately and I need help to understand why I am doing the things I am doing.

Thank you in advance!

Debi

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  • captnemo44
    captnemo44 Posts: 82 Member
    Debi feel free to add me im looking for support also , Im on MFP daily, have a healthy evening
    Lori
  • Spartan_Maker
    Spartan_Maker Posts: 683 Member
    In my view, you might do well to consider the following:

    1. Stay in a reasonable calorie deficit;
    2. Eat foods you like and that keep you sated; and
    3. Find an exercise routine that you love to do so that you do it often.
  • amyLhuff
    amyLhuff Posts: 102
    Food is like that old friend that you are comforted by but then stabs you in the back time and time again but yet we go back. It's like being in a bad relationship. I've gone back sooo many times but at some point you have to decide that enough is enough. It shouldn't have this hold over us. I'll be here to support you if you want because I can't go back I have a new family and a happy life this is the last dark cloud I have to deal with. I need to be free of this weight although I know it will be a life long struggle. We are strong we an do it!
  • danne32339
    danne32339 Posts: 155 Member
    Hi Debi,
    I can never had too many friends and I would be happy to count you among them. It is nice to have someone to walk this journey with. Good luck with your goals.
    Take care,
    Doni
  • PaleoRDH
    PaleoRDH Posts: 266
    Debi ooohhhhh have I been there many times! And I think I single handedly kept WW in business for years, plus I have a lifetime membership to Jenny Craig and every diet book and video known to man. It really just has to "click" and you have to be ready. You have to want to change your life more than anything, more than anything you can put in your mouth especially. I don't have much weight to lose compared to a lot on here, but I have lost a lot of weight in the past. I have to tell myself over and over that I believe being overweight is a choice. I choose the foods that either make me fat or make me thin, and I choose to either get off the couch or stay on it. It's all within my power and within my control............ and I'm such a strong willed person that I'm never going to let a Twinkie whoop me! (Really I don't eat Twinkies, but you know what I mean!) I know it's easier said than done, but for me, it works. Kick that Twinkie where it counts, know you are better than to choose to keep yourself miserable for even another day, and do what you already know it takes. You can do it Debi!!!!!
  • floridachikk
    floridachikk Posts: 41 Member
    I've been there, too! I'm new and it would be great if you added me and we could support each other. It's time to break the cycle!

    I agree with Paleo. Food is not going to "whoop" me! :))
  • LoveMy3CutiesLBH
    LoveMy3CutiesLBH Posts: 51
    I would love to be your friend! I'm relatively new here too. I've yo-yoed with my weight and done what you're describing. This time around I started slowly and I learned I need to switch things up so I don't get bored. So far it's working much better than doing WW alone and trying to start too hard/too fast with the exercise. Maybe we can motivate each other!
  • debiw1234
    debiw1234 Posts: 26
    In my view, you might do well to consider the following:

    1. Stay in a reasonable calorie deficit;
    2. Eat foods you like and that keep you sated; and
    3. Find an exercise routine that you love to do so that you do it often.

    Thanks for the advice. Unfortunately I know all those things but for some reason I can't seem to stay on track.

    However, I've taken a step back thanks to some advice given to me by my DIL and will be working on exactly the points you suggested but with a different attitude this time.
  • debiw1234
    debiw1234 Posts: 26
    Debi ooohhhhh have I been there many times! And I think I single handedly kept WW in business for years, plus I have a lifetime membership to Jenny Craig and every diet book and video known to man. It really just has to "click" and you have to be ready. You have to want to change your life more than anything, more than anything you can put in your mouth especially. I don't have much weight to lose compared to a lot on here, but I have lost a lot of weight in the past. I have to tell myself over and over that I believe being overweight is a choice. I choose the foods that either make me fat or make me thin, and I choose to either get off the couch or stay on it. It's all within my power and within my control............ and I'm such a strong willed person that I'm never going to let a Twinkie whoop me! (Really I don't eat Twinkies, but you know what I mean!) I know it's easier said than done, but for me, it works. Kick that Twinkie where it counts, know you are better than to choose to keep yourself miserable for even another day, and do what you already know it takes. You can do it Debi!!!!!

    Thanks! I, too, have a Lifetime at WW, Jenny Craig, etc. Thanks for your words of wisdom and I will certainly keep the "twinkie" scenerio in mind. :smile:
  • kellyh0709
    kellyh0709 Posts: 15 Member
    The physical act of losing weight is actually easier than changing your mindset, your mind is te hardst thing to overcome.
    I have been saying for ages "I need to lose weight, I need to do something" then made excuses for not doing it so nothing ever changed.
    This time I have set out with a positive mindset, I will do this, I will succeed, I can do this.
    I am motivated and now understand that what my mind thinks, my body responds to.
    We are all on here because we want to do something about our weight, but getting teh right support, mentality and stopping your mind reverting to it's old ways beacuse it's easier is has hard as the physical exercise or eating right.
    You need to find a reason WHY you are doing this, make a plan, even a calendar for exercise with rest days, find someone to support you whether it be online or in your life and whne you feel your self slipping or can't be bothered, think about it before you do it, post on here and ask for help before you make the decisions which make you feel worse.
    Once you start to break the habit it becomes easier!!
    Good luck!!
  • debiw1234
    debiw1234 Posts: 26
    Thanks Kellyh! You are right about it being a mindset. I had that mindset when I started this journey back last November but I lost it this HOT summer...an excuse I know!!! Anyway I am working my way through it today. I have a food plan now I just need to get the exercise plan and I will be back on my way.
  • lisanorman6
    lisanorman6 Posts: 47 Member
    My dear, I can so relate!

    I can't tell you what to do, I can only tell you what's worked for me. I came to the realization I that I needed to change my relationship with food. We can sit here all day and tell you what foods to avoid, what exercises to do, but that doesn't fix the heart issues. I'm an emotional eater - I eat when I'm happy, when I'm sad, when I want to reward or punish myself, when I'm bored and just about any other feeling you can imagine. Start asking yourself WHY you're reaching for food. Identifying feelings can be incredibly difficult, but the discovery of what lies beneath the binge eating will truly set you free.

    For me, sweets are a disaster waiting to happen. When I finally got serious about getting healthy (note: I didn't say lose weight...for me, this is so much more than that), I reevaluated what I keep in my house. Cutting out sugar altogether is not reality for me. Instead, I started finding recipe's for things that have less sugar, better ingredients and keep me full longer. I traded in Ben and Jerry's for popsicles, cookies for fruit, and so on. When I want something decadent, I have it...but I use portion control now and ensure that I am within my daily calorie allotment.

    The other key that's been important for me: grace. Give yourself some. You should be proud that you are recognizing the cycle you're in. Change takes time. I blow it from time to time, but each day is new and you can begin again. Don't hold yourself hostage and participate in negative self talk. This has been a hard habit for me to break. Some days are better than others.

    You can totally do this. You are not alone. You have worth and value!
  • debiw1234
    debiw1234 Posts: 26
    For me, sweets are a disaster waiting to happen. When I finally got serious about getting healthy (note: I didn't say lose weight...for me, this is so much more than that), I reevaluated what I keep in my house. Cutting out sugar altogether is not reality for me. Instead, I started finding recipe's for things that have less sugar, better ingredients and keep me full longer. I traded in Ben and Jerry's for popsicles, cookies for fruit, and so on. When I want something decadent, I have it...but I use portion control now and ensure that I am within my daily calorie allotment.

    The other key that's been important for me: grace. Give yourself some. You should be proud that you are recognizing the cycle you're in. Change takes time. I blow it from time to time, but each day is new and you can begin again. Don't hold yourself hostage and participate in negative self talk. This has been a hard habit for me to break. Some days are better than others.

    You can totally do this. You are not alone. You have worth and value!
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    Yes sweets are for me too! I can't have them in the house. Even when I was eating really healthy if they were in the house they were fair game especially when I am tired. I actually went to bed at 8:30 last night because I recognized the cycle starting. Worked!!!

    My husband thinks he is being helpful but in all reality he really isn't. He wants his snacks and even though they aren't normally sweet they are tempting especially when I'm either stressed or tired. But this is all a process and I need to learn to live with all the obstacles in life including snacks.

    I am trying to be healthy in all aspects of my life and I truly appreciate your kindness. I can do this and I'm not alone and I do have worth and value!

    Thank you, thank you!!!
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