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What do you have to lose? If you aren't getting anywhere doing what you've been doing (which sounds right) then why not try eating more? It sure sounds like your body is in starvation mode!

Stick with it and you'll make your goals - just remember that your body didn't read the diet books and might need to be treated differently! Maybe it needs 2000 calories plus exercise calories to lose!?!

Life is an adventure!

I'm sure I am missing something because I am no trainer, but I'm not seeing the sense in eating 1700 calories and not working out...sounds like that would just make you gain?!? How many calories are you supposed to eat in a day? I weigh more than you and only are supposed to have 1200 per day (1500 if you added in the excerise calories). I have been doing my diet and workouts for two weeks, and it seems to be doing great so far. I am using this site to track my calories, etc and sort of doing Weight Watcher s to help me stay in the limits. I am also working out (at home) 6 times a week to Beachbody (Slim in 6) and can tell a difference already! Has your trainer explained why he/she wants you to eat that many calories?

Don't be discouraged that you have lost inches more in your bust than in other places at first because you mentioned you have a 13 month old...and, that happens. They seem to grow as you are pregnant (and while nursing, if you did that) and then they slowly get a little smaller. I've had two children (4yrs and 8 yrs). If you are losing some inches in other places, it'll come. Don't give up!!!

Your trainer is quite correct.

Your 1350 a day might be enough if you weren't doing workouts, but with those workouts factored in, you're probably in starvation mode. This means that your body (thanks to a formerly handy trait) will do everything it can to conserve fat stores when you're not getting enough food. Your metabolism (the rate at which your body can burn calories) will slow, and your body could even turn to eating muscle instead of fat.

As a note, you may very briefly gain some weight when you start re-eating what you haven't been eating up till now. This is normal and will come off once your metabolism has recovered. Don't give up when it happens.

As for that weight gain, it sounds like you didn't gain *fat* at all. It sounds like you may have gained some muscle, which is heavier than fat. When one gains muscle, they will put numbers on the scale while simultaneously losing inches. This is a good thing. The more muscle you have, the faster you can naturally burn calories. You could also have been retaining water. You lost in your bust because your breasts are mostly fatty tissue. It's normal to see a reduction in breast size with weight loss.

Your trainer sounds like they know what they're talking about.

As a note, I'm going to suggest something for future reference. You're, of course, free to disregard everything below this line and ignore me.

Your trainer is a trained professional, by the sounds of it. They work in the fitness industry and are trained to be aware of the body's various functions and responses. If your doctor told you that you had a kidney stone, would you come on an internet forum and ask a bunch of non-medical personnel (as well as a doctor or two who do not have your history available to them) if you really do have one, and what you should do about it? Getting support here and asking questions is fantastic and cool, but you might want to consider putting a little trust in a trained professional over the opinions of random people who might sometimes lack a fitness education.

Also, because I'd want someone to tell me if I were making this kind of mistake on a regular basis, the word you're after is lose. You're accidentally using loose. Lose means to misplace or get rid of. Loose means not tight, fastened or restrained. As in, after you lose the weight, your clothes may be loose.

I went through the same thing when I started working with a trainer a year and a half ago. She was also a nutritionist and she told me it's not just about counting the calories or even the fat. You have to find a balance with the other things, too. She told me to cut the suger and find more protein and that's what did it for me. Then I started to see results. Even though my calorie intake was regulated, my sugars were way out there. Mainly because I was drinking smoothies and fruit juices that I thought were "healthy" and gave me energy. They were loaded with more sugar in one serving than I should even be having in a day. Once I cut those out and got my energy from protein like lean cold cut meats and nuts and Power Bars (which also have a lot of sugar, so be careful), then I started to get results. So if you do decide to increase your calories, I would suggest you do it with protein-rich foods, and not carbs/sugars. Good luck.