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  • laarae
    laarae Posts: 332 Member
    Verbal, emotional, physical abuse are all the same-this is the beginning of a long hard road for you and your child if you don't step up and make changes-ask yourself this-Do I want my child to grow up and think it is ok to be treated this way or to treat others this way. because children learn by example-if not for you then for the child- get out of there-surely there are safehouses in TN. Womens shelters or even maybe a church can be of assistance-do you have close friends who would help you out-then get ahold of your family and have them send you a ticket home-eventially you will have to face the courts in regards to custody but so will he. Don't worry you are taking him away from Daddy because it takes more to be a good Daddy than sperm-keep your child first in everything.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    I would also not recommend taking legal advice from a bunch of people on a weight loss website who are calling on their own experience, if nothing else. Laws vary greatly by state. I'd be contacting some of the women's shelters you've received links to and go from there.


    Good luck to you and your child. Hopefully things start looking up for you both :))
  • APawli1224
    APawli1224 Posts: 80 Member
    Thank you all I appreciate the advice :)
  • LadyIvysMom
    LadyIvysMom Posts: 391 Member
    I lived with my ex bf for years after we broke up. The difference is we were, and still are very good friends and he treats me with the respect he would give any friend.

    Your ex does not treat you with respect or as a friend. Therefore, he is not setting a very good example for your child. I would pack up and get my kid out of there.
  • breezymom81
    breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
    Clean the house everyday, make him lunch for work (never takes it), make dinner almost every night, wash his clothing, did basically everything.. He is just pissed that I am losing weight and guys show attention so now I am the bad person.. Either way I am done with trying to make it work.. Maybe I just need to look into a lawyer back home and move on.. Just sickens me to take my sons father that far from him

    Have you tried talking this out, sounds to me like he is scared( yep from what I understand even MEN get scared) Maybe trying couples cousling, maybe he thinks he is not good enough for you....He is the FATHER of your child and you obviously DON'T want to get away that bad or you have moved out! Both of your are acting like babies and need to grow up- you have a child, if the situation is that bad well, that constitutes abuse and letting your son live in the environment makes you no better than him.

    If it is that bad get to work, beg and borrow money from family and get out.
  • APawli1224
    APawli1224 Posts: 80 Member
    I just wanted to update this really quick and let everyone know I have taken step one in this process.. My father will be picking my son and myself up at the end of this month and I will be moving back home.. It took screaming, fighting, arguing but I finally got my ex to write a statement saying that I can take my son back to buffalo.. Thank you all for giving me the strength!
  • flobeedoodle
    flobeedoodle Posts: 176 Member
    Congratulations on being so brave, and thank you for the update. Good luck!
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    I don't know how you can consider this bettering yourself when you're still living with an *kitten* who treats you like crap. You need to get your driver's license, get a job, and get the *kitten* out of there. If you're truly that miserable, you'll figure out a way.

    I'm sure your family would move you back home if you asked them. If not, then you need to go to a women's shelter where they can hook you up with the right connections to get yourself on your own two feet.

    Is this going to be easy? No. Scary? Yep. Worth it? Absolutely. Now put your nose to the grindstone and do what you have to do to truly better yourself.


    I'm going to have to ditto this.., BUT withholding the issue of taking your son away from father which isn't how I view it hence why you do custody.. You need to check with your state laws about removing son out of state if it is before you do so b/c then he can nail you with kidnapping.

    I wouldn't stay in the house.. You can do it on your own. Will it be hard? Yes, there is no sugar coating that, but your doing yourself and your child more harm by staying in a negative enviroment. Child might be young, but they are smarter than we as parents usually give them credit for.
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    I just wanted to update this really quick and let everyone know I have taken step one in this process.. My father will be picking my son and myself up at the end of this month and I will be moving back home.. It took screaming, fighting, arguing but I finally got my ex to write a statement saying that I can take my son back to buffalo.. Thank you all for giving me the strength!

    Opps, I guess I should have continued to read.. YAYY on getting written consent so he can't turn around and call the cops on you!.

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