Fat girl in a swim suit

I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriends family are all quite skinny and his mother is very judging. I feel uncomfortable in her presence a lot of the time, because she is about the only one in the world who can make me feel that I'm more like 40 stone, even though I'm not even half of that. She goes on about her needing to lose weight and she's a size 8 UK... And when I have dinner there, I've noticed her giving me extra-large portions for whatever reason but everyone else gets "normal" portions. It upsets me. I can avoid her, but she already dislikes me - So I don't know what way to turn, do I just put up with it? Do YOU just put up with feeling the way you are? My boyfriend knows about my fears and he says it's all in my head, but he's a total mommy's boy, so he is blind when it comes to his mum being anything less than perfect. I wish I could offer better advice, but I seen something about wearing a wrap or a sorong. That'll cover up your legs and may give you a bit more confidence. Also... You should opt for a swimDRESS opposed to the swimsuit, as it leaves more to the imagination I think. It helped my confidence in going to the pool anyways. So go buy yourself something nice, that you're comfortable in and enjoy your holiday

So to my great delight, after 4 years of dating, my boyfriends family has extended an invitation to me to join them on a family vacation. I really want to be thrilled and over joyed that they are finally coming around on me being in their son's life BUT I will spend a week on a boat in a swim suit with them......I'm a US size 18.....the next biggest girl is his mom, who wears a 6, and then his sister wears a 4. The men, my BF included are all well over 6 feet tall (my man is 6'1" and 160 pounds - and the shortest - though not the most muscled of the pack). If they were all just skinny I wouldnt care - but man oh man can they judge!!!!!! His mother does zumba and is always yalking about this woman who "MUST WEIGHT AT LEAST 200 POUNDS!" and I'm in the corner thinking "so 20 pounds LESS than me?"I can dress my body well to flatter and hide....but there's no where to hide in a swim suit....help!


*EDIT* Im also really self conscious for another reason too....I've been healthier for about two years now but I used to be pretty heavily involved in self mutilation....something my boyfriend knows all about, but his family doesn't. My thighs are covered in scars. That really worries me.

There are some really great bathing suits, though pricy, that will help you. Buy a tank & skirt to cover your legs. wear a t-shirt and put on sunscreen like crazy & tell them you dont want skin cancer. I understand how you feel. While my husbands mom isnt skinny by any means, shes very judgemental anyway. AND it didnt help that I was thin when i got with my husband. Good luck & enjoy your vacation!

You are gorgeous. Screw them if they judge...the important thing is that your BF thinks you are hot.

If you need something to make you feel good in a swimsuit, Land's End has been a lifesaver and has so many great suits in extended sizes (women, DD cup, long torso, etc.) I love the mix and match tankinis. They are always having a big sale, too, esp. at the end of summer. Buy a variety of things to try on at home, keep what you love, take the rest back to a Sears with a Land's End Shop in it.

GL!

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Treat yourself to a spray tan before you go - it'll help hide your scars and make you look slimmer and more toned. And if you hear any comments - don't c0ck a deaf ear - challenge them, politely. Otherwise they'll eat away at you. xxx

This and they make some really cute swim skirt cover ups. Then you'd only have to take it off right before jumping in the water. I have issues with my thighs (skinny or fat) and always wear one. It's got a cute little bow tie in the front and I wear it like a piece of fashion.

On a side note... You're with your boyfriend because he loves you! Hard to do I know, but don't worry about what any of the others think. I'm sure they've got their own flaws (skinny or not!) that they hope others don't notice.

You're probably hotter than you think, and a nice skirted one piece with a sarong will cover up whatever you don't want to show.

Girl you look HOT!!! Forget what they may or may not say....you are gorgeous.

Cute bathing suit -- you look great in it!

To the OP, I feel a bit weird saying this as I would normally never comment on anyone's appearance/body (as I hate when people do it to me - and there's no way it can be anything but judgmental, whether it's a compliment or not...) - but after reading your first post I was actually quite surprised when seeing the pictures above. I don't personally find any particular size more or less attractive, so that's not the point of saying this, but, anyway, I just want to tell you that you must clearly be much larger in your mind than you look to other people (which is pretty common I'd think). So, three things: 1. If I saw you on the beach your size would not register with me - i.e. I don't think you look 'big', just normal and curvy (not that looking 'big' would be a negative thing, I'm just saying I don't think you do!) 2. That is a great bathing suit on you. 3. You're very pretty, and you have absolutely nothing to hide or be ashamed of. You really look great in that swimsuit.

As for the scars - just hold your head high and try not to think about it. His family might notice them, they might not. They might wonder, they might not. But few people would be tactless enough to say something, so just try not to worry about what other people may or may not think. And remember that most of us have or have had some form of coping mechanisms we'd rather not tell the world about. Not all coping mechanisms leave visible scars, but most people know what it's like to go through a difficult time, and may not, deep down, be as judgmental as one might fear.