Fat girl in a swim suit
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How much time do you have before the vacation?0
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You look great! My MIL is a size 6 and all of my SIL are super tiny too. I just dress the nicest I can and remember what my mom always told me, the best thing you can wear is a smile! You've got a boyfriend, you're going on a vacation. Be confident in yourself and enjoy! If they have a problem with you, well, it's THEIR problem. Not yours!0
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what i would do....and this is just me.....i would wear jean shorts that come to the knee and a tank top. tell them you are currently dieting to lose weight and are just not comfortable enough yet to wear a bathingsuit. im sure they will understand and admire you for trying to lose weight. like i said, thats just what i would do if it were me. good luck and hope you have a wonderful time!0
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Life is short. If you love him, this will not be the last vacation you take with them. They will come around eventually. For now, take a friend or family member shopping with you... Go pick out a swimsuit that you can put on and feel your best in... On the other hand, you could also swim in a T-shirt (sport bra beneath) and a pair of those thigh fitting bike type shorts that go down to about mid upper leg... Be as comfortable as possible though, if you are not, you will not have a very good time and it will affect everything about you...0
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i just seen your pic in the bathingsuit and you look fine! yes....i would wear it!
you made your weight sound worse than you look. go for it girl!!0 -
YOU look GREAT! That's an awesome suit.
If you hadn't found it, i was going to suggest the site i got my suit from: www.alwaysforme.com
They have some AWESOME plus size suits for young people.
Good luck! You'll do just fine. :drinker:0 -
Land's End makes awesome swim shorts for women. Swim shorts with a longer Tankini top might just do the trick.
ETA: Just saw your pic and you look fantastic! I love your suit.0 -
You are absolutely HOT in that suit! You have nothing to worry about!0
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Buy a really light sun dress and wear your bathing suit under it. Take it off if you swim in the water and then put it back on.
ETA: Just saw the pic you uploaded.. all you need is confidence because you look amazing in that swimsuit. Forget the sundress!0 -
Torrid.com
I CANNOT EXPRESS ENOUGH, how flattering their swimsuits are. They have a bit of give in the gut area and are fantastic!
Prepare to pay an arm and leg though...0 -
I think you look terrific! Work it, girl! It is hard not to compare ourselves to others - but try to have a great time!0
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If u dont feel 100% happy and relax arround them, u dont really have to go ....
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To be honest, I only hang out in my swimming suit with those I feel I can trust.... These are more everyday as I build my confidence through hard work through personal development. But it is strictly on my own time and at my own pace.
Disclosing a history of self harming to your in-laws is not something to take lightly, particularly when you say that they have been very rejecting of you. Check with other people, and do ONLY what you feel ready and safe to do... you are in charge.
Do what you need to do to be safe, if they are nasty about large people who could judge you from saying thanks but no thanks!?
Still, if you decide to go make sure you have support available to you.
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Whenever they start to say things that may be negative, bring the conversation back around to them! People like that LOVE to talk about themselves. As far as what they say about you when you aren't around, who cares! Your BF loves you and wants you in his life regardless of what his family thinks, so I'd say you are the winner anyway! I think you look great!!0
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Treat yourself to a spray tan before you go - it'll help hide your scars and make you look slimmer and more toned. And if you hear any comments - don't c0ck a deaf ear - challenge them, politely. Otherwise they'll eat away at you. xxx
Really great advice. What she said.0 -
You should wear it proudly!! Don't let them force you to cover up. Show them that you don't give a *kitten*!0
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I purchased a two piece swim suit at either target or sears (cant remember) the bottoms were basically shorts they had zipper and everything. I felt so much more comfortable in that suit than my regular panty type bottom. I didnt feel naked running about on the beach.0
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It's late in the season, but if you are self-conscious about the scars, maybe you could get a suit that has a skirt or board shorts. that is, if you don't want to deal with it.
You can't help being who you are - and he loves you for who you are. Just be yourself and address any questions they bring to you with confidence and honesty with as much discretion as you want to use.0 -
So to my great delight, after 4 years of dating, my boyfriends family has extended an invitation to me to join them on a family vacation. I really want to be thrilled and over joyed that they are finally coming around on me being in their son's life BUT I will spend a week on a boat in a swim suit with them......I'm a US size 18.....the next biggest girl is his mom, who wears a 6, and then his sister wears a 4. The men, my BF included are all well over 6 feet tall (my man is 6'1" and 160 pounds - and the shortest - though not the most muscled of the pack). If they were all just skinny I wouldnt care - but man oh man can they judge!!!!!! His mother does zumba and is always yalking about this woman who "MUST WEIGHT AT LEAST 200 POUNDS!" and I'm in the corner thinking "so 20 pounds LESS than me?"I can dress my body well to flatter and hide....but there's no where to hide in a swim suit....help!
*EDIT* Im also really self conscious for another reason too....I've been healthier for about two years now but I used to be pretty heavily involved in self mutilation....something my boyfriend knows all about, but his family doesn't. My thighs are covered in scars. That really worries me.
I don't have much bathing suite advice, except to try to find one(s) you like yourself in, some will be better than others. As for the scars, I have a considerable number of self-mutilation scars, but I have found over the years, I think they are *much* more noticeable than other people do. I was shocked that my husband, who notices things, hadn't noticed that I have scars running from my ankles to knees (we've been together 5 years). I think these scars are obvious, but other people just don't see them. Unfortunately, I can't say the same for the burn scars on my arms, for these, if anyone ever asks about them, I just say "they're burn scars" in a casual tone of voice, and the vast majority of people don't ask further questions.0 -
So here goes nothing - I figure if I can survive the internet seeing it I can survive his family seeing the same thing
WEAR THIS! You do look very good! If you are worried about scars carry a cover up0 -
Psh, make them uncomfortable then. Get a bikini and be like "please I'm fabulous". But in all seriousness, who cares what they think. You've been with your man for 4 years, and I'm sure he's seen you in a bathing suit or less and CLEARLY loves you the way you are. Scars, 20 lbs over his moms idea of perfect, and all. Hold your head high and forget what they think.
My aunt married into a snooty family, they made my granma feel like she was too old to do anything on her own, and she is not. My granma complained she hated it, so during the wedding dinner while we sat with them, I did everything to make them feel uncomforatble about me. From my love for a guy 10 years older and wanting to marry him, to my sister having a baby from someone she didn't know! The woman ended up leaving. I wouldn't go as far as I did in your case.
Just keep your head up, walk proud, and know your boyfriend loves your body.0
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