It's OKAY for it to be about you.................
ninerbuff
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For at least an hour a day.
Yeah, yeah you have all these responsibilities to do daily, but I'm telling you that taking an hour a day for yourself isn't selfish.............it's self preservation. I've had to force my DW to do it when we met and it's brought her blood pressure down and balanced her life out more.
Don't feel guilty. I've seen way to many SAHM's go off on their kids and SO when they don't have a least a hour to themselves. And vice versa. Unwind, workout, read a book, meditate, what ever you need to do to find an hour for yourself.
Carry on.
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Yeah, yeah you have all these responsibilities to do daily, but I'm telling you that taking an hour a day for yourself isn't selfish.............it's self preservation. I've had to force my DW to do it when we met and it's brought her blood pressure down and balanced her life out more.
Don't feel guilty. I've seen way to many SAHM's go off on their kids and SO when they don't have a least a hour to themselves. And vice versa. Unwind, workout, read a book, meditate, what ever you need to do to find an hour for yourself.
Carry on.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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agreed, not to mention it helps one become more healthy in body, mind and spirit.0
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You can't give what you don't have, so put some time and caring into yourself and see how it filters through the rest of your life... you may be surprised what comes about when you finally put your foot down and say you're worth that time and effort.0
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It's actually the furthest thing from being selfish to devote an hour a day to keeping yourself healthy.
If you're fit and healthy you can do far more for the people in your life than if you were unhealthy and constantly sick. You can't be the rock they need if you have placed yourself on shifting sands...0 -
#RealTalk0
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Pretty much amazing advice. Even if you don't have kids. I need to work on this, I take too much time for work and home, but forget about me... and I looked at it as selfish if I thought about just me time.0
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Happy mom= happy kids...0
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Just one? I need more than that when the 9ers are playing.0
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Agreed.0
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true story! If I don't take my hour or so to workout - which is my 'me time' everyone feels the pain. everyone!0
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I tell my mama friends that it's just as important for your well-being as taking the time to shower, brush your teeth, and dress yourself every day. Sure, there are some days that it's difficult to find the time to do even those basic things (hello, newborn/reflux baby/teething toddler!) But you do what you can when you can.0
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Great advice
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Not only okay, but necessary! A calmer, clearer, more confident, relaxed individual emerges when you feel justified in taking a little time to workout, read, meditate.... Whatever you need, go and do it!0
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Lol, DAMN STRAIGHT! I said at least ONE.........................:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: 9ers games are my outlet!!!Just one? I need more than that when the 9ers are playing.
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totally agree! dh gives me the first hour after he gets home from work, he unwinds by playing with his daughter and i get to just chill out, not worry about dinner or chores and bug out on the computer for a bit before the evening duties take over life again. SAHM's are on call 24/7, it's total survival to take that hour once a day! love seeing a man post this, thank you!0
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I try to got to bed about an hour before i sleep just to uncoil...0
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totally agree. I always catch hell for "living in your gym"
But I've tried to explain that I train 3 days per week for an hour, then do some light stuff here and there. That's ME time and I need it to stay happy and mentally sane.0 -
If you're fit and healthy you can do far more for the people in your life than if you were unhealthy and constantly sick. You can't be the rock they need if you have placed yourself on shifting sands...
Well said!0 -
Happy mom= happy kids...
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Two thumbs up!0
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couldn't agree more! it was hard for me to not feel guilty, but now the kids love it 0
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Totally agree!!!!!0
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I have always taken my hour!! I get off work at 4, head to the free gym at work til 5 then go to get my kids. They have to be picked up by 5:30. Then we do the family thing the rest of the night It makes mommy a better person to unwind after work before picking the kiddies up. 0
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Agree! I may not have an hour at a time with my little ones, but I take what I can to make it to an hour of ME time daily.
I do have to add though, that my husband is willing and supportive in letting me do this. Some SAHM's don't have a supportive husband/partner. So they have to get creative...0 -
I really need to force myself to do this, I am a YES person, to everyone. Plus my hubs owns a landscaping business so they are working overtime and dealing with the heat of the summer and hurricanes, like Issac, so I feel bad asking for some me time. I know I need it and my doctor said I need to force it but it doesn't feel natural because for so long I have been saying yes.
Just have to find a happy balance I suppose. :ohwell:0 -
Took me a long time to realize this and to stop the guilty feelings when I was taking "me" time. But now that my kids are 10 and 14 I tell them all the time that my "me" time is very important. And they seem to get it. Sometimes, SOMETIMES, the 10 year old will ht upset because I've taken myself to a movie or out for dinner and I don't ask them to join me but I tell them TOUGH lol0
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SAHD here (presently) .... same rule ??? ..... but ..... but .....For at least an hour a day.
Yeah, yeah you have all these responsibilities to do daily, but I'm telling you that taking an hour a day for yourself isn't selfish.............it's self preservation. I've had to force my DW to do it when we met and it's brought her blood pressure down and balanced her life out more.
Don't feel guilty. I've seen way to many SAHM's go off on their kids and SO when they don't have a least a hour to themselves. And vice versa. Unwind, workout, read a book, meditate, what ever you need to do to find an hour for yourself.
Carry on.0 -
Absolutely true!0
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Now to get others to agree...0
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Yes, that goes for you, too, Papa Bear.SAHD here (presently) .... same rule ??? ..... but ..... but .....
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Almost exactly what I told a coworker yesterday who complimented me on my weight loss but said she just didn't have time to exercise like I did. I told her how much better I feel physically and mentally when I exercise and that it is okay for me to be just a little selfish and take just 60 minutes per day 5 days per week for no one else but ME! I am happier because I do it, my kids are happier because I do it, my boyfriend is happier because I do it.......in the long run being a little selfish with my time 300 minutes a week has made me a better person overall. 0
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