Feeling very down and unmotivated

First rule: DO NOT GIVE UP!
Second rule: NEVER GIVE UP!
Third rule? You guessed it, DO NOT EVER, NEVER, EVER GIVE UP!

Keep fighting. You may want to quit, stop moving, lay down and sleep forever, but that won't do. You have to keep moving forward!!!! Trust me, I know these things! I am wise, (ha, like that's a true statement, but hey, I'm motivating myself here too).

I have had times in my life where I thought I would never make it to tomorrow, not to mention next week, or even next month. But here I am, still trying to lose 85 pounds, and still struggling. But I can tell you, if you just keep moving, you'll eventually get back on track!!!!!

Today, just concentrate on stepping out your front door, and walking ten or twenty steps. If you feel like it, turn around and go back inside. If you feel like you can do twenty more steps, then go for it. Tomorrow do the same thing. The next day, try for thirty or forty steps. Before too long you'll be up to fifty steps, and then one hundred, then the sky is the limit.

But remember - Do not give up. Once you've made the decision in your mind that you can not go on, then you'll really have a hard time, and then the self loathing kicks in, and trust me... you do not want that!!!!!! Ewe.

Add me as your friend, and tell me you went outside today and took that first ten steps! I know you can do it. You said yourself you have come so far, and you don't want to lose all that hard work. Make up your mind to keep moving forward!!!!

When I get like that I turn on the music and dance with the kiddos (we do a lot of dancing)

Is it pretty? No! (I don't dance well)

After a few songs I usually feel better and go walk or ride...

I also try to make most of my goals fitness goals.. I.e. go to gym three times/week... 100 + miles (hike/bike/walk)/month... Rather than weight goals... I got more discouraged when my goal is "two pounds per week" than when it's a fitness goal...

I take about a month and just maintain about twice a year... Maybe not the fastest way to do this... Possibly not the best... But it works psychologically... My weight loss has been primarily steady... And I've been through probably twenty or thirty life events in the last six years that in the past would have put on thirty pounds...

You CAN do this... we need to remember that we didn't get fat overnight and we won't get fit overnight... Takes time... Babysteps dear... You got this

You've done so well already - don't give up.

As one previous poster said, try to make a different goal. Nothing to do with the scale. Make it small, make it achievable. Go for a 15 minute walk. Make it a goal. Do it. Then bask in the glow of your success. Success is contagious...you'll be back to being motivated in no time.

It's just a cycle and you'll beat it because you have the end goal in mind.

Don't compare yourself to other people. So what that they've lost more than you in the same time as you. They are them and YOU are YOU. This isn't a race and you shouldn't put down your own achievements.

Hang in there!

I for one, can relate as of late. BUT, I know it won't get me anywhere except backwards. We have to stick through it and trudge on. Hopefully the sun will start to shine and we can move on.

I loved the quote from someone above. I never looked at it this way

"I see people my age making twice as much as me, do I give up? No."

How powerful is that!!

Hang in there!!

Look for a hobby that doesn't involve gaming, like painting, drawing, scrap-booking or gardening - getting outside in the fresh air is also a great idea. This will help distract you from negative thoughts and hunger pains as well. In essence, you need to find a replacement for food - when we restrict our diets we still need something to fill the void, fill the void with things that make you happy (not food.)

When you run out of motivation to do it for yourself you have only failed you. If you run out of motivation to do it for your little one you have failed them as well.

The only failures in life are those that quit, you will always have success if you keep trying.

Every one is built differently I lost a ton of weight really quick and lately I havent been able to drop a single pound (about a month) but I am not giving up because if I do I will only go back to what I was, a depressed, heavy set "big guy" with a lot less life to live for my son and wife !

I feel the same. There's something in the air today making a lot of people just feel down.

I feel that way sometimes. It's very hard to snap out of it, but I like to set down and starting counting the things that I should be thankful for and making a list of positive things that I have that others don't. I run all the time and I don't lose weight. Hang in there, try to focus more on being fit rather than losing weight... Its much easier said than done but you can do it!!! Best wishes!

It's hard, but 25 pounds sounds like a ton of progress to me! I'm super impressed by it. And there's always this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKCnHWas3HQ

Urgh! I feel just like that today.
Might be owing to some late nights' work followed by some bad nights' sleep, but even putting on my exercise clothes has been a struggle today, and it's raining torrentially, so not too keen in my plan b which is usually a long brisk walk somewhere.

Think I might grit my teeth and actually join the gym tomorrow, see if "I'm paying a fortune for this, best get my *kitten* off the sofa and go" will be a good motivator…

YOU LOST 25 POUNDS!!! I can't wait to say I lost 25 pounds. Every little pound counts, they all add up. You should be so proud of what you've done. You're depressed today, but you're my motivation for the day, I want to say I lost 25 pounds, no matter how slow the going. Hang in there, you're doing so good, and remember lots of people can lose weight fast, staying motivated and keeping it off is the trick, you are doing it all the right way!

Stay Strong :flowerforyou:

I can tell by your username that we both share a love for a certain online hobby... and I've been approaching my weight loss with the same attitude. Sure there is heaps of grinding and repetition of the same, boring tasks that we've done a million times before, but it is all done for a purpose TO GET SHINIES. Weight loss is just like upping that gear score, with the differences being that the successes you have IRL are tangible; you are healthier, you look better and will ultimately be a happier person for it.

25 pounds is a tremendous achievement and you should always remind yourself of that when things start to get you down.

Hi Alex,

I woke up today, feeling dreadful. I didnt want to exercise or do anything, I didnt even feel like going to work. Maybe there IS something in the air.

Dont give up...dont ever give, take a break if you have to but dont ever give up. If you have hit a stall and want some help then message me and I'll try and help you out of it if i can, im in a stall myself and am trying different things to get out of it.

I see by your profie your gamer...if you have an xbox/wii/ ps3 then maybe try one fo the fitness games that are available. I use your shape fitness evloved which i really enjoy, or even just one of the dance games as it gets you moving and is fun... iv seen a few pc fitness games as well but not sure how good they are.

Like the rest of the great advice on this thread, just keep moving.... even if its a few steps.

Good luck and friend me if you want some motivation/advice

M

I find that this is usually concurrent with a plateau. I'm in the same place you are now and it's been about a month that I have not had my weight move. Granted, my clothes fit differently but there is just something discouraging about the scale not moving.

Hope this helps you- but i've decided to push through it by taking it to the next level. That means working out 5 days this week at the gym and finding a way to move (walk in the neighborhood) on those days off. That's the only way I feel like i'm going to drop more weight, recharge my motivation and become more fit.

You have to ask yourself what a person who has reached their goals would have done. I've never heard anyone that has lost 100lbs tell me they were successful because they kicked back and watched Cheers for a month. It is PUSH PUSH PUSH. When you're struggling with a workout, make that voice in your head tell you that someone who loves the benefits of reaching their goals doesn't slack halfway through a set. Maybe isn't what you want to hear in particular but hopefully it motivates you to get back to your plan!