Going on a first date...Do I tell about my weight loss??

jenirobinson
jenirobinson Posts: 37
edited December 29 in Health and Weight Loss
I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.

What would you do??
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  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    I'd just concentrate on being who you are now and learning about your date. If it feels right to bring it up, it feels right. If not, don't. Just let the conversation flow naturally.
  • vegantimtam
    vegantimtam Posts: 15
    Not unless it comes up. It is something to be proud of though :-)
  • Lina4Lina
    Lina4Lina Posts: 712 Member
    On the first date? no. Unless it comes up somehow.
  • alsunrise
    alsunrise Posts: 386 Member
    Nope!! not on the first date. If something comes up about it, then yeah. but if you just blurt out what you've lost, it'll look like you're fishing for a compliment.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    I agree with the others, it is a great accomplishment and congrats but unless it comes up, don't bring it up! If there's more dates it will eventually come up! Good luck and have fun!
  • jenirobinson
    jenirobinson Posts: 37
    Thanks for the advice, it really helps!!
    :drinker:
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    You already got all the advice you need... So I'll just say good luck! Hope it goes well.
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
    You do eventually bring it up.... but not on the first date unless it comes up.
  • Farmerj2000
    Farmerj2000 Posts: 210 Member
    I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
    I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
    of nervousness.

    What would you do??

    Unless you are going on a date with someone you met on MFP, I would not bring it up on the first date.
  • Amberonamission
    Amberonamission Posts: 836 Member
    My thoughts... If you are looking for someone to share this journey with you, or to not sabotage you, you might want to bring up how important a like minded person is to you.

    No point in wasting time on a milk shake addict.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    Just have fun!!! That to me is a more serious subject and probably should not be a topic for first date. Fun fun fun.
    :)
  • downwithbottledwater
    downwithbottledwater Posts: 44
    When I'm on a first date I do mention how I'm really into healthy eating and exercise. But I don't actually mention my weightloss.

    Try to relax and have fun. Remember, he's trying to impress you too!
  • rickgomez2003
    rickgomez2003 Posts: 91
    Not unless it comes up. It is something to be proud of though :-)


    I agree fully.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
    I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
    of nervousness.

    What would you do??

    Noooooooo, a guy you have only just met will NOT be at all interested in your weight loss...
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
    I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
    of nervousness.

    What would you do??

    Unless you are going on a date with someone you met on MFP, I would not bring it up on the first date.

    wouldn't they already know?.....
  • ElleBee66
    ElleBee66 Posts: 128 Member
    I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
    I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
    of nervousness.

    What would you do??

    Unless you are going on a date with someone you met on MFP, I would not bring it up on the first date.

    :laugh:
  • vendygirl
    vendygirl Posts: 718 Member
    Do what ever fells right for you. The "rules of dating" are hogwash. The only reason there are there is so that people have excuses to let them feel okay about what is happening.

    Truth in dating is- if you like each other then you will call one another.

    If the subject comes up cool then talk about it but if you feel it might be weird then avoid it.

    Good luck.
  • loserbaby84
    loserbaby84 Posts: 241 Member
    Weight is a technicality - it's not who you are!! Personally, I would focus more on activities you do throughout your journey rather than the numbers. It will tell him what you're interested in and you may have more in common than you know!

    I think weight is off limits for a first date. Just like past relationship ;) Most importantly HAVE FUN! That's what dating's about!

    Cheers
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    Not unless it directly comes up. I don't even like talking about how much weight I've lost unless someone asks directly. Usually I just say I decided to get healthy. People feel less obligated to be impressed and compliment you.
  • HotAshMess
    HotAshMess Posts: 382 Member
    It's a first date. Absolutely not. If the whole "what do you like to do" conversation comes up....talk about what activities your interested in, talk about your healthy eating....if the conversation swings to being healthy, maybe then. But quite frankly, I wouldn't want to hear about someone's weight loss. If you can be casual about it...fine. But it doesn't need to be a big long discussion.
  • brandi22479
    brandi22479 Posts: 81 Member
    No, not recommended. Obviously you should be very proud of yourself and it is a journey but don't let it define you. Talk to him about the person that you are, things you enjoy, your passions, your career and goals. Besides, he's a guy... I'm sure he'd rather hear what your favorite color is. :devil: (no offence to the men out there!)
  • george29223
    george29223 Posts: 556 Member
    dont do like i did when i metioned a 60 pound weight loss i pulled my shirt up and sqeezed my belly then slaped it back and forth some chanting whos your daddy whos your daddy
  • mindirella
    mindirella Posts: 63
    @Yobhcir - lol too funny :) I hope that didn't really happen!
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I recently went on a semi-blind date (knew the guy in HS). I told him I had recently lost 80 lbs. His response...


















    "Yeah, I expected heavier!"
  • da1128
    da1128 Posts: 212 Member
    First, congratulations on your great accomplishment!

    Bring it up on your first date? Naah, just have a good time!
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    Good luck!

    On a first date I probably wouldn't, it's more to meet eachother and feel eachother out.
    I also started dating thru this whole weight loss journey, with my boyfriend and I now being together 7 months, and I think it came up fairly early on but moreso becuase I looked alot different than my pics. I have lost 84 lbs (24 of which I have lost since being with him). He's seen a huge change.

    I think it's something to be proud of, I think it's something they need to know becuase you are alot more 'disciplined' than some, but I think first date it would all depend on where your topics lead.

    Have fun!
  • georgie6porgie
    georgie6porgie Posts: 1 Member
    I would not. Focus on who and where you are now. Enjoy yourself. Talk about things you are looking forward to, hobbies, work, listen and learn about new perspectives, soak up and truly enjoy the atmosphere. Talking about past weight loss might fall in line with talking unnecessarily about past relationships -- and it's a turnoff. It's just that, past. Focus on your future! Have fun.
  • meechi53
    meechi53 Posts: 195 Member
    Absolutely not, because a couple of the following things go through the guy's head... (I have lots of guy friends, I know)

    "OMG so if she lost that much weight will she gain it all back" or
    "Great, will she be scrutinizing everything I eat and do" or'
    "Great, does that mean her life will revolve around dieting and working out and she will get her panties in a wad if she doesn't work out one day or if she eats cake"

    Let it go until you know each other better.
  • jenirobinson
    jenirobinson Posts: 37
    dont do like i did when i metioned a 60 pound weight loss i pulled my shirt up and sqeezed my belly then slaped it back and forth some chanting whos your daddy whos your daddy

    NICE!!! I will keep that in mind....too funny :laugh:
  • jenirobinson
    jenirobinson Posts: 37
    Thanks everyone!! I am just going to have a good time and see what happens next. I am who I am!!
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