Feeling really down

hmparkin23
hmparkin23 Posts: 91 Member
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I'm sat at home in my flat on a Friday night, on my own, feeling really down and lonely, and the temptation just to eat is massive. I got dumped just over four weeks ago and still finding it hard to adjust to being on my own. I don't know what I think anyone can say that will make me feel better but kinda just feel the need to get it out there...
Hope everyone here has had a good day?
Helen.xx
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  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,264 Member
    Must be even harder in the Smoke with all the food available, and crap on the tele. Shame not abit nearer, I could at least buy you diet cola or something down the pub. I could tell them you are my granddaughter

    [50 miles down A3 BTW, near Portsmouth]
  • skinnygurl02
    skinnygurl02 Posts: 176 Member
    I am currently seperated after 15 years of marriage and have 3 kids with me full time... I have struggled with being lonely and wanting to eat. I finally took up running and it has honestly helped so much with the stress and wanting to emotionally eat. I always remind myself of how if I give in, I will only feel worse in the long run. Exercise would definately help. Trying to focus on a hobby or something. I am on mfp all the time, partially for my healthy lifestyle change, and partly to socialize with others. I wish you luck. You are a young, beautiful girl...give it some time and you'll bounce back:)
  • sweetandtenderhooligan
    sweetandtenderhooligan Posts: 59
    hope yr feeling happier soon, his loss you deserve better, just wait until youve reached your goal,how good you will feel, keep strong! joanne xx
  • RickBriggs
    RickBriggs Posts: 44
    Hang in there sweetie. All things move in cycles. It'll get better. My advice: exercise regularly and cook all of your own food. No processed anything. Whole, organic foods, if possible. And do the MFP routine religously.
  • wheelinqueen
    wheelinqueen Posts: 60 Member
    Helen,
    I know it's hard adjusting to being alone. I had to do it not too long ago. Just keep in mind that this can also be a great gift to yourself. You now have time to really get to know yourself and love your own company. I know this sounds crazy...but I had this terrible compulsion to always be with someone, to the point where I was finding myself in some unhealthy relationships just to have the "company". I was so afraid to just be by myself, because I thought that meant I was alone. I was wrong!

    Being single for a while gave me the freedom to figure out a few things about myself. I learned about what it is that I love about myself and what I am capable of as a strong independent woman. Gaining this new confidence in myself gave me a tremendous love for me and my self worth.

    It's time for you! Do things for you and feel fantastic about it!

    Hope this helps a bit.

    Katie
  • Susan_Rae_1
    Susan_Rae_1 Posts: 154 Member
    Such nice posts! I agree that exercise is the key to keeping positive -- I love the advice that you should tell yourself if you give in you will feel worse in the long run. Hang in there -- you ARE beautiful Helen. Susan
  • JediSwan
    JediSwan Posts: 455 Member
    Sorry to hear about your breakup. :( I do hope you feel better soon and try to keep positive.

    If you feel like eating, go for a walk instead. Do something else if that's a worry for you. I have been battling depression for a while and this trick works. :)
  • Aleluya17
    Aleluya17 Posts: 205 Member
    Keep your stick on the ice, we're all in this together. I'm pulling for you! Add me if you need someone to cheer you on.
  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,264 Member
    I'm sat at home in my flat on a Friday night, on my own, feeling really down and lonely, and the temptation just to eat is massive.
    Helen.xx

    Did you resist, or at least not do too badly?
  • Cakelady11
    Cakelady11 Posts: 11 Member
    Been there. Just to let you know things will get better. Just hang in there
  • MrsSWW
    MrsSWW Posts: 1,585 Member
    Hi, hope you're feeling better today :flowerforyou:
  • sandy0608
    sandy0608 Posts: 1
    Good Saturday morning well today is a new day all you can do is try harder. Believe me talking about feeling down I have been going to the gym at least b3-4 days a week and still have not lost an oz, now that is depressing.
    I really dont know what to do any more I have even tried Dr. Oz green Bean diet ...so depressed
  • MyTime1207
    MyTime1207 Posts: 56 Member
    Just hang in there and stay strong.
  • quiltingducky
    quiltingducky Posts: 103 Member
    Hope you are feeling better today as well. Loneliness is very hard I agree. Maybe you have a close friend you could call and vent to - just having someone to listen without saying anything is helpful to me sometimes. I have a lot of hobbies, so I tend to turn to them when I am feeling blah or sometimes I just get in the car and go for a drive.

    My mom has been alone herself for the last 5 years since my dad passed - the first time in her life ever being alone. It was a hard adjustment for her. She didn't know how to do anything except for the cooking and cleaning. Now she is handling everything quite beautifully after learning. Loneliness is sometimes still an issue for her, as she lives in the country, but I tell her she has the power to help change that too by joining a group or calling some old friends.

    Don't let life pass you by, live it whether perfect or not so perfect at times :)
  • Dudagarcia
    Dudagarcia Posts: 849 Member
    Soo sorry to see u feeling this way:(. I will tell you that you were someone before you met this person and that someone is still there. Get out there and exercise, jog, run etc. Do it for yourself and give yourself the time u need to feel sad, then you've just got to move. Give it time, it's the healer of all things. Take care of yourself :)
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member
    *(*(*(*hugs*)*)*)* I know the feeling. I've been single over 10 years now, and it gets lonely (although I know you will never be alone as long as I have been), but you can find things to do to fill the time that you enjoy. Pick up a hobby, or get back into one that you used to like. Go out for a walk. Find local events to go out to. If I lived closer, I would take you out and have some fun! <3<3 Hang in there, you are worth it!
  • Crosbinium
    Crosbinium Posts: 415 Member
    I hope that you have a better day today. There is such strength in putting feelings in writing. I hope that doing so in combination with all the support here will make it a bit easier.

    {{{Hug}}}
  • jiannette
    jiannette Posts: 12
    I have felt exactly as you described for many of the years of my life. My reasons weren't the same, but the feeling of being trapped in a hole and not able to get out and finding comfort and forgetfulness in food are the same. My personal experience is to keep active. Turn your pain and anger outward rather than inward through exercise. Exercise changes body chemistry for the better and improves outlook and mood. Go for a walk, use a treadmill (can you buy a small one for your flat?) or go to the gym. If you don't feel like exercise, break the bad momentum and change what you are doing...get out of the tempting house and go to a museum, shopping, a drive, a park...anything to break the mood and the urge to eat. Move! Take control of it by changing what you are doing, and do this before the feelings get too strong. It feels good to be in control, and the more you are in control the better you will feel about yourself and your situation. Make the snowball (effect) go in your favor.
  • lornabaps
    lornabaps Posts: 6
    Hope you are feeling much better today than you did last night. You have to just dig as deep as you can to find your motivation. It is not easy to find as it is usually tucked away somewhere in between fed up and depressed but it is in there somewhere! Whack your trainers on when you get the urge to nibble on rubbish and walk around the block a couple of times. A friend once said to me when I was where you are: think of three things in your life your you are proud of and write them down as this helps to solidify the strong person that you have been. Then set yourself a goal. Think of one thing that you would really like to do in the next year and mark it on the calender on the date you want to have achieved it. It can be anything at all and this will help solidify the person you are going to be from today forward.

    Good luck and stay positive .... if I can do it, anyone can ..... believe me.
    Lorna xx
  • 23Brandy
    23Brandy Posts: 20 Member
    You will probably look back and realize that it is a blessing that person is no longer in your life. It takes time for you to see that.
    Enjoy the time you have alone to read some books, join a new club, exercise, shop, go to movies you want to see and be good to yourself. You can fix healthy foods for yourself and focus on getting healthier. Being alone and peaceful is much better than being
    in the stress of a bad relationship.

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