Please... I really need someone's help...

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Ginerrva
Ginerrva Posts: 226
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Okay, so, I used to be overweight, at least by 20 pounds. I began working out and eating healthier, so now I'm at a good weight and am on maintenance. I work out 35 minutes every day at morning, and eat at around 1500 calories- I do not limit myself, that's just what satisfies me. On the weekend I allow myself to snack on chocolates and stuff.

When I had been losing weight, my period had stopped, and I have yet to get it back. It's been 5-6 monthes now. Before you say it, I'm not under weight. 114 for 5'2". People say I look in really good shape. Except my mom, but we'll get to that,

My mom some how found out about my period. She was supportive of my diet until I actually succeeded in it, and of course she blames my lack of period on my diet. She looked it up, and now she wants me to limit my exercise to 3 days a week! That, and increase the amount I eat! I'm terrified. This will make my gain weight, I know it, just when I had finally succeeded and lost the right amount.

I look bad with extra weight- I still look bad now if I were to wear a bikini, but fully clothed I am comfortable. I had a large stomach, tiny hips, and tiny breasts(in comparison to stomach, at least). I don't want to go back to that. I still have belly fat, and I really want to see my abs one day. I am in no way naturally curvy, and I'd much rather be a stick (I don't mean skinny, I just mean no noticeable hips and boobs), than a circle with legs.

Please, what do I do? I suggested working out 5/7 days a week instead or 7/7 or 3/7, but she seems hell bent on this. I'd be fine with eating more if I worked out 5/7 days a week.

Please, I'm scared.
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  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
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    I think the best bet would be to see a doctor. Rule out any medical issues, and work from there.

    At your young age and amount of exercise, you should be able to eat more than 1500 to maintain. But if you're eating at 1500 to maintain, what were you eating to lose? If you'd been eating much less than that, you might have done a little damage to your metabolism. It's not irreversible, though.
  • Kristan_Forsey
    Kristan_Forsey Posts: 103 Member
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    You should talk to your doctor about the lack of period, how much you are eating, and how often you workout. I am assuming your Mom isn't a doctor, therefore she isn't qualified to diagnose and treat whatever is going on.
  • Ginerrva
    Ginerrva Posts: 226
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    I already said that I wanted to see a doctor, but she'd ranting on about how we should try what she came up with first >.< I dunno what to do.
  • sbs8855
    sbs8855 Posts: 3 Member
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    Go to a doctor.
  • Ginerrva
    Ginerrva Posts: 226
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    Go to a doctor.
    I can't! I already suggested it. She said no, and my step dad is backing her on this ;'(
  • howeudoing
    howeudoing Posts: 4
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    Definitely go and seek a medical opinion. They will put your mind at rest for sure and having a professional look into what is going on with your body should satisfy your Mum.

    I am no doctor but I have been told by many personal trainers that the rest days between exercise are just as important as the exercise days themselves. Your body cannot repair and rest itself enough to do the good it needs to when you go back in the gym if you over do it too often.

    Good luck and I hope that you find that all is ok with your period and things settle with some good medical advice.
  • Mellie289
    Mellie289 Posts: 1,191 Member
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    Go do a doctor. This might have nothing to do with weight loss. I also think you might still be eating too few calories, even though you say you are in maintenance. 1500 sounds like it is probably way below your TDEE if you are working out every morning.
  • Mellie289
    Mellie289 Posts: 1,191 Member
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    Go to a doctor.
    I can't! I already suggested it. She said no, and my step dad is backing her on this ;'(
    You are 18 years old, right? You don't need their permission.
  • TXGirl821
    TXGirl821 Posts: 115
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    Go to a doctor.
    I can't! I already suggested it. She said no, and my step dad is backing her on this ;'(
    You are 18 years old, right? You don't need their permission.

    But she may need their money and/or insurance to go to the doctor.
  • radhell
    radhell Posts: 7
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    If you are over 18 it isn't up to your mom, Not saying her opinions should be completely disregarded, but ultimately it is your decision how to proceed. And I assume you have ruled out the obvious question of pregnancy? They say it is a good idea to have at least one day to let your body have a break from exercise. You also sound very stressed, and I have heard that stress/major life changes can affect your period.
  • Glasgow_Vegan
    Glasgow_Vegan Posts: 209 Member
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    "That, and increase the amount I eat! I'm terrified. This will make my gain weight, I know it, just when I had finally succeeded and lost the right amount."

    I'm mostly just concerned that you are "terrified" of possibly putting on weight. The fact that you wouldn't want to be seen in a bikini is also worrying. Your lack of periods could be PCOS, but I think it's probably worth seeing a nutritionist, even just as a one off.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
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    well, your profile says you are eighteen, and you live in a country that has socialized medicine... so call a doctor and go yourself.
  • lisitabonita
    lisitabonita Posts: 81 Member
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    Even if she says no, you are 18, you should be able to get to a clinic? I don't know where you live, but most places have walk in clinics that are free or very little money. Missing a period at your age is a sign of something greater going on inside. For your future fertility, I urge you to go.
  • rudegyal_b
    rudegyal_b Posts: 593 Member
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    sorry how is 1500 maintenance cals?? you should be eating at least 1830 with your stats, or more depending on your exercise
  • Mellie289
    Mellie289 Posts: 1,191 Member
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    Go to a doctor.
    I can't! I already suggested it. She said no, and my step dad is backing her on this ;'(
    You are 18 years old, right? You don't need their permission.

    But she may need their money and/or insurance to go to the doctor.
    Yay, American health care system!

    Looks like she's in Canada, so she can go.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
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    Ignore your mum. I know that's easier said than done, but this is your life, not hers so you should see and doctor and do what is right for you. Your mother is not a medical professional and she is not the Lord and Master of your life either.
  • buzymamagoals
    buzymamagoals Posts: 44 Member
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    I don't understand why you just don't take yourself to the doctor. You don't need parents permission to seek medical help.
  • NocturnalGirl
    NocturnalGirl Posts: 1,762
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    Go to your doctor.

    I lost my period too, but by using unhealthy weight loss methods (not good). Mine's still irregular but I get it more than I used to because I increased my calorie and fat intake. And cut down on the exercise, don't do it every day. You want to be able to give your body some time to repair its muscles.

    Lastly, being scared of weight gain isn't a healthy sign. Talk to your doctor about this as well. Increasing your intake won't make you gain fat if you eat at your TDEE.
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
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    Like others have said you are 18 and you can go without her permission. Go see the doctor, take your diet plan with you so they can see it. You can also increase your caloires slowly by 50 calories a day for two weeks then up them again. See how that affects your weight. But please go see a doctor without your mother. She's just working on getting things her way. You are of age so just go do it, at some point you've got to grow up and do things your way for you and your parents have to learn to stop trying to control you as a grown up.
  • runrockclimb
    runrockclimb Posts: 124
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    Chances are you are at to low a body fat percentage for your body type, its not your height or weight that matters its the body fat. If if there is not enough to support a pregnancy, your body stops having a period, regardless of whether you think you are at a good weight or not (and its sounds too me like you are on a little too restrictive of a maintenance diet, although I'm no expert). This isn't good for you in the long run.
    However there are lots of other serious issues that can prevent periods too, so your best bet is to go see a doctor now and see what they have to say about your weight and other issues. Then trust their medical opinion. Your mother is not a doctor, you are 18 and you need to make the best choices for your health, not the ones your mother thinks are best.

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