Why does it seem like no one in my life is supportive of me?

People are scared of change. You're changing and they get afraid you'll make them change. And then there's the people who if the conversation isn't about them they just don't listen as well as they should.

when people make changes it can be very hard for others around you to accept and sometimes can even cause relationships to fall apart during the journey. As an example- if you are starting to lose weight and you have close friend that is overweight it could make them face their own demons about themselves and they might not like the way that feels.They might also feel like they are going to be looked at different or be judged now for who they are since you are no longer participating in things the way you were.Another example would be if a group of people got together and did drugs as a group,then one day one of them decides to get clean.The others in the group would be pressuring the one that decided to get clean to get high with them because they want to be around others that do the things they do so they will not be judged.if that person decides to stay clean the others might stop hanging around that person because they will feel as if the clean one was going to judge them and look down upon them.most people that are overweight understand how miserable it is and how depressing it can be ,when your overweight you know it and your not happy about it but it usually takes a person to reach a certain point to decide to make a change.If others around you have not reached that point or are not interested in changing then you cant force that upon them.It is hard to try to eat healthy when everyone knows your trying to and let's say your husband,wife,brother or sister bring home a pizza for dinner . I would consider that rude when they know i'm trying to stay away from that but at the same time i would need to understand that this was my choice not theirs.I can not expect everyone around me to change their lives and eating habits because I have changed mine.Alli could do is let them know that it's hard for me to be around it and control myself and hope that they have the understanding to want to help me. and by all means please don't be one of those people that go on a diet and after 2 days are telling others what they should be eating and whats healthy and not healthy, It really annoys others and thats like on the second day of med school trying to tell someone the best way to perform a heart surgery.This is our choice to lose the weight and we all have our reasons for wanting to make the changes.with or without support from friends or family we need to decide if we are going to do it regardless.And from what I have seen there are many many people on here that are friendly and very supportive so when you feel like you are alone log on here and be with people that are your people and going through the same things and support each other.

dont stop telling them how you are doing and the fact that you are trying to be healthy for you and them you will do it and if they dont support you then do it for you and then they will see if for them selfs

First, we have all experienced the thrill of starting something to change our lives, only to see it fall apart after a few days. Perhaps they are just waiting to see if you stick with is?

As for your boyfriend, do you go with him, shopping, do you write shopping lists, do you offer to go shopping, or do you just expect him to remember your diet? I have to say, I fidn it hard enough to shop for myself, doing it for the special diets of others takes a lot of attention.

And I guess that when you start looking significantly thinner, they will notice!

(Personally I am horribly disappointed that nobody at work have noticed how slim and gorgeous I am! Don't they care? The truth is - I haven't changed enough yet for it to matter. I still wear the same clothes, they are just a little bit looser, and who really notices that?)

Everyone makes very valid points, people can often feel threatened, or disinterested, or think they've heard this story before...but you just chip away at it bit by bit, and eventually they will start to notice the changes, both in your state of mind and in your clothes. But even if they don't, I'm sure you'll love the changes in yourself enough to keep your journey going anyway. And keep using this site, we've all been through similar things at one point or another. Make sure your timing is right if you do want to talk to friends and family also - during the sport on TV is not the time you're going to get the best response from your man!

Good luck with your journey

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Another possibility is that they simply don't realise that you are telling them with the intention that they support you. And they might have no idea what sort of support you want. Throughout my life, most women I've known have been trying to lose weight - and they've talked about this, to me and to lots of other people, and I've generally not said much, because there wasn't much to say. It never occurred to me that they might be telling me so that I'd say something supportive. It just seemed like a commonplace thing that a lot of women do.

I find men grunt a lot if someone tells them something not terribly important to them. Unless you specifically say to them that this is something important to you, and that you'd like them to talk about it with you, they are unlikely to know this. I find men often like to 'fix things' - if you're just sharing something that you don't need fixing, they don't always know what to say, or realise that saying something is expected of them.

If I had a flatmate or a partner who was losing weight, I would continue to buy junk food if that was what I liked to eat, just like I would continue to buy meat for myself if they became vegetarian. It wouldn't occur to me that this would be construed as unsupportive. Similarly if I were to start losing weight, I wouldn't expect anyone I was living with to stop buying junk food or to hide it away - if I was finding it difficult to see their junk food, I would simply tell them this and ask them if they could put it somewhere where I couldn't see it!

If you want support, sometimes you have to ask for it, and be specific about what sort of support you'd like. Realistically, the people in your life will have come across many people who are losing weight, and they might not realise what a huge deal it is for you. As for your sister who changed the subject - is she normally supportive over other things in your life? I have two sisters, one whom I get on really well with, and another with whom the relationship is a bit strained. I wouldn't be telling the second sister anything that was really important to me, or if I was telling her, I wouldn't be expecting support - she tends to see herself as in competition with me, so isn't likely to respond well. But the first sister - I would be telling her with great enthusiasm, and letting her know it was important to me, and if she were to change the subject without commenting, I'd be saying something in a jokey manner about how that was rude and she needs to say something nice and encouraging to me!

I agree with them. You are in Packerland. You are supposed to weigh at least 215lbs if you are over 5' tall.