HUMILIATED!!!!!!

Men aren't "dumb", and men aren't "idiots". I imagine, however, that they are baffled by women's sizing, as anyone should be. They are rather inconsistent, and with vanity sizing, not a true indication of one's measurements.

I'm so sorry you felt humiliated. I imagine it was a thoughtlessly thrown comment, and if he felt bad for it, not meant with any malice or intent to be hurtful.

Be proud of the fact that those numbers are going down. You're headed in the right direction. And I'm sure in future, he'll be more sensitive about what he says, and where he says it.

*hug*

Stupid words fall out of the most loving and intelligent people. Just ignore it and go on. Realize he sure has been enjoying you at any and all sizes you've visited. That is what is important. You are a wonderful WOMAN. Welcome to the teens!!!.

Maybe view it as a compliment, he odviously does not see you as that size. Congrats on the loss so far

This. People don't often think before they talk. I would have cried and he would have some explainin' to dooooo.

Don't feel embarrassed. He definitely did not mean anything personal nor insulting based on what you said. I remember asking my brother to borrow a dress shirt and telling him I wore an 8 ( this was a while back lol) and him telling me he would have to take me to the kiddies aisle at a store because a size 8 was for children. That was when I found out men dress shirts went my the size around the neck. Who knew?
Please don't let the comment get to you. You have worked hard and he obviously has no clue what size you wore now nor in the past. That means he did not see you as a 20. In his eyes you are much smaller. Accept that he has a very positive concept of your appearance. Take it that way and be positive.

Maybe view it as a compliment, he odviously does not see you as that size. Congrats on the loss so far

I second it.

Just look at it this way- he had no clue that 20 was you size, so he thinks you are smaller than that!

So, something very similar. My very loving, compassionate, caring, sensitive blah blah blah better half was on a rant about his nephew, idiot mother, and some girl that came up to stay and ate all the food his nephew couldn't afford, long long story. Anyway, he said "You should see her, she weighs every bit of 200 lbs, ask Larry." Larry is his brother. I had just weighed that day and weighed 202, first time I ever saw the scale top 200.
I didn't say a word. I joined MFP that week. And he's still clueless.

First, I agree with everyone who says that your BF simply does not see you as that size. In his eyes you could not be anywhere near that... so even though it hurt, he wasn't trying to hurt you. He just wasn't very discerning about what one should shout out in public!

But I wanted to be sure and tell you that you are fantastically beautiful! ... So who really cares what the tag inside your jeans says? Or even what your BF says for that matter! Your picture looks like Molly Ringwald. I'm sure you are too young to know who she is, but she was a very famous actress in the 80's.... look her up, you totally look like her! Point is, you are Beautiful...keep taking good care of yourself!

If he had a problem with your size he wouldn't be with you! I agree with everyone else.... I think hes just not aware of how womens sizes work. Keep going! You're doing awesome!

I'm wondering what happened to the "Yes I AM fat" 'don't sugar coat it' attitude.

One thing you have to realize is that men outside of the fashion industry have absolutely no idea what women's clothing sizes mean. None at all.

I'm sorry you felt bad, though. That would be tough.

Once, I stepped on the scale and the boyfriend happened to sneak a peak. When I stepped off he said, "Wow! I can't believe you weigh less than I do!"

Coulda kicked him in a very tender spot at that moment.

I used to be that size too, one day shopping with my mother and sister in law, my sister in law started making rude comments about people who wear that size!! She is a little young probably 15 at the time and was just at that showing off faze. I dont think she realised I wore that size but still I was mortified, whole heartedly.

Just think, your undertaking a journey, you have already lost so much, you have got this and can loose so much more. Dont let this comment de-rail you. Take this comment and let it give you motivation.

I have now lost 92lb and 6 dress sizes and feel great in my clothes.

Maybe he doesn't understand that it's only even numbers, so there's no 19 in a brand that carried 20's? He might have been expecting it to be 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, and that's it, when it's really 2, 4, 6, 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20.

Something tells me he wont be your boyfriend for long if he keeps saying things like that!

My boyfriend is the same way. It's just because he doesn't know women's sizes. All you hear on TV is 4, 6, 8, and some guys have no idea how small or big you have to be to wear those sizes. When I told him I'm a 24, he got this look on his face like a puppy that doesn't understand a command. You know, that head tilt?

He had the same reaction when he said I could borrow his shirts once I'm at my goal weight. He wears a Large in t-shirts. I told him there's no way I could wear those because I always wore XL t-shirts when I weighed 156 pounds. He gave me the puppy "huh?" look again, and I explained that Large men's shirts don't fit over my chest and hips. I'd have to have a Large in women's. Again with the confusion. He didn't realize they were cut differently.

I'm the same way with men's sizes. I have no idea what size waist he wears or his inseam. If I bought jeans for him, they'd probably be too big, too long, whatever. Same with dress shirts with the neck and chest measurements. I'd probably get something that would be too big in the chest or cutting off his breathing.

Now, when we want to buy something for each other, we ask, "What size sweatshirt do you wear?" I do the same thing for friends and family around Christmas because I honestly have NO idea. I guess the wrong size 99% of the time.

To be fair, when I was a size 10/12 and walked into a Lane Bryant for the first time, my eyes kind of bugged out when I saw the size 28 tags. I had no idea the sizes went that high either because I had only ever shopped at stores where the women's sizes stopped at 16. I had no idea how large someone would have to be to wear a size 28. I thought it was, like, 600 pounds or something. I simply didn't know. Now that I've been a 28, I know.