friends with your ex?
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Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen, my friend. Move on.0
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Unless you're looking for her to have a meltdown at what sounds like a fancy party, I'd politely duck out of this one.0
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Ex's are ex's for a reason and they typically don't make for good friends... at least in my experience.0
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Left on good terms with an ex, but not friends. I wouldn't go to the ball with her.0
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Yeah, get out now so she can have time to find another date. It won't be fun for her, or you.0
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I'm not friends with any of my exes. I am civil with my daughter's father.0
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Bad plan, bad.0
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I'm friends with one of my exs. The friendship is nowhere near as close as it used to be, but we can still hangout if we're in a group of other friends and have fun. We try to never hang out alone though, that would probably get weird. The friendship is really just slightly more than having an acquaintance though.0
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I go to the marine corp birthday ball every november. It's sorta like prom for grown ups - an excuse to get dressed up. If it's anything like the marines, a suit will not cut it. If you are not a service member, civilians wear tuxedos. You may find it kinda boring if you don't know anyone there. If she can't behave herself, you're better off to save the scene she may cause. Since you've never been to one I assume that she is either in the military or works for the military as a civilian. You will be surrounded by her coworkers. The last thing she needs to do is make a scene and embarass herself in front of her coworkers. I'd stay home.0
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It really depends on the woman, some exes i know thru and thru they are sweethearts so i do keep them in my life, while others i knew just to leave it alone altogether, you know her better than we do, do you really think you two can be just friends, or if something does happen at the ball is she the type that wont make things weird after? if the answer to either are no then that should be the answer to the ball invite0
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I am friends with my ex husband. We were married 9 months. I remarried and have been happily so for 12 years now. I still speak with my first husband, exchange christmas cards, etc - we are much better friends. For you though, never under estimate a drunk lady that may or may not feel jilted. Don't go. At least not with her.0
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You had the guts to decisively end it. She's warning you that the evening is going to be nothing short of a nightmare or anticipation of a nightmare.
You can be friends in about 5 years but for now just steer clear.0 -
Question for you guys,
I broke up with my girlfriend of about 4.5 months last night. Long story short, things had moved past the fun and exciting stage for us, and I just was no longer invested into the relationship. She's a great girl, but I found myself unhappy when I was with her, making up excuses to not hang out as much, and I just wasn't having fun.
Problem is, we had tickets/plans to go to the AF Ball, a pretty exclusive event at each Air Force base, and she has asked if I still want to go. I told her I would; I've never been to a 'Ball' before and want to see what the hooplah is about, but I told her it would be as friends and I don't want to send mixed signals.
She told me she will still go, but she can't be held accountable for any sort of scene she would cause once she starts drinking. I think she's kidding, but I'm not 100% on that. I told her we should think about it for a couple of days, then decide.
Anyways, my question...have you ever been friends with an ex? Would you go to the ball if you were me?
I wouldn't go if I were you, she's already warned you what will happen. Personally I am friends with my ex boyfriends, if I cared or loved them enough to be in a relationship with them of course I still care, just not "in love".0 -
Honestly, first hand experience when I have been the ashamedly drunk ex, she will be messy. If she was feeling it, and you weren't - don't go. There will be tears and misery and you will be left kicking yourself for going, and [maybe] hurting for the pain you've made her feel, which will become all to evident when the alcohol starts talking.0
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Don't do it- sounds like a couple-y event, and you guys will act like a couple cause that is what you're used to. I'm friends with a lot of my exes, but it's too soon to going to an event like this as a date. Even if she said that stuff about drinking as a joke, it's a huge red flag that she may not be as ok with the breakup as you are. If you care about her, don't let this situation happen. Let her find another date.0
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Keep in mind 90% of exs are smelly pirate hookers! Avoid them like scurvy!0
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Unless you're looking for her to have a meltdown at what sounds like a fancy party, I'd politely duck out of this one.
agreed, women can't be trusted when it comes to emotions.0 -
I am on very good terms with my ex but we were married for 10 years and together for 15 altogether. Your situation is very different and it seems like there might be more drama than fun.0
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I would definitely take someone else or try to scalp your tickets. Doesn't sound like you know her well enough to trust her behavior, plus you don't want to backslide into sleeping with her and starting that cycle.0
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My ex said we'd still be friends when he dumped me but hasn't contacted me since we broke up five months ago. And I don't call breaking up and peace-ing out completely being friends. If it's got to be that way, fine, but at least define it. This whole "I still love you" and then not talking at all isn't great for closure.0
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