Tears...Women, Oh My : A Rant About Co-Workers
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Yeah, I don't understand it either. I'm more likely to run mental circles around someone to get out of doing something I don't want to do. Not cry.0
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This makes me want to cry.
*sniff*
I don't cry when I want something my way. I mindf*ck or create an elaborate distraction.0 -
Reminds me of Tom Hanks in A League of Their Own, when he asked, "Are you crying?!?! Are you crying?!?! There's no crying in baseball."0
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I only cry when i can't punch someone!!! lol :sad: :grumble: :explode:0
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Yeah, when I cry it's genuine, not manipulative, and not usually in front of people. :sad:0
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Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.0
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Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
WHOA! How did I become an Ahole? Oh wait, because I'm in the general vicinity of the tears, I become the A-hole in this scenario right?0 -
Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
WHOA! How did I become an Ahole? Oh wait, because I'm in the general vicinity of the tears, I become the A-hole in this scenario right?
No, because you said "if I smell blood..." "tears be damned" and you assumed the woman is crying to get her own way.
That makes you a jerk. Think about someone else besides yourself.0 -
Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
WHOA! How did I become an Ahole? Oh wait, because I'm in the general vicinity of the tears, I become the A-hole in this scenario right?
I think her assumption is justifiable - especially on the premise that YOU'RE assuming women are being manipulative by crying. I work in an occasionally high stress enviroment (I have 1 client that just KNOWS how to make me feel like ****) and sometimes I have to go lock myself in the bathroom or an empty conference room and cry until I feel like I can handle his crap and return to my responsibilities.0 -
Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
Have any pent up hostility?0 -
Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
Have any pent up hostility?
No, just hate a**holes.0 -
If I am crying at work, I am pissed and you should probably stay away-I never have cried to get my way-could never understand that mentality0
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Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
WHOA! How did I become an Ahole? Oh wait, because I'm in the general vicinity of the tears, I become the A-hole in this scenario right?
No, because you said "if I smell blood..." "tears be damned" and you assumed the woman is crying to get her own way.
That makes you a jerk. Think about someone else besides yourself.
She cried because she wasn't able to meet a deadline that I've asked if she could meet...and I've asked on more than one occassion. She's used tears in the past to manipulate others...namely those that will fall for her fake DD's and her little sniffles. She cried because I won't let her off the hook and now she has to stay late to meet her deadline.
Ya'll are jumping to conclusions...step off bishes.0 -
What even is this post? Wow. I personally don't know how to cry on command but I have indeed cried at work when I've been put under added and/or unnecessary stress from a co-worker or a supervisor. When I am upset, I cry.. so shoot me. Not all of us are made of iron.0
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While I agree that some women do use tears to manipulate, a lot of us are just genuinely upset. We are not taught to "suck it up" the way men are.0
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Most women don't "use" tears. Tears just happen. It's part of the biology of a woman. In fact, most women get frustrated when they start to cry, because they know men are a**holes who will act just as you do.
Have any pent up hostility?
No, just hate a**holes.
I think that would qualify as hostility.0 -
I hate it when women do that. I get upset when things aren't going right whether it be at work or at home with my boyfriend, but I don't use tears to win an argument or get me out of trouble.
I know a girl who does, and it pisses me off to no end when she posts about how mean and horrible her boyfriend is, when he won't fall for her using tears to get her way.
When she or other women do it, it makes all look bad.
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She cried because she wasn't able to meet a deadline that I've asked if she could meet...and I've asked on more than one occassion. She's used tears in the past to manipulate others...namely those that will fall for her fake DD's and her little sniffles. She cried because I won't let her off the hook and now she has to stay late to meet her deadline.
Ya'll are jumping to conclusions...step off bishes.
As a woman who hates criers..and has once cried at work because I couldn't control myself..I would say this:
There ARE two kinds of women who cry at work:
1. the manipulators - I've worked with a few. They were both younger 20's though I'm not trying to stereotype here, it was fact in my case. They cry more often than most and you know the difference, so OP, I can't say you're lying, thats for damn sure.
2. the women who all of a sudden can't help it and cry for whatever reason. Hormones, so pissed off you either cry or start swinging (me that time), etc.
Unfortunately for the females so much can make us cry and some are more sensitive than others. It is a ****ty thing to deal with. I still hate myself for crying and that was over two years ago.0 -
I hate it when women do that. I get upset when things aren't going right whether it be at work or at home with my boyfriend, but I don't use tears to win an argument or get me out of trouble.
I know a girl who does, and it pisses me off to no end when she posts about how mean and horrible her boyfriend is, when he won't fall for her using tears to get her way.
When she or other women do it, it makes all look bad.
Yeah I know not all women use it, I am simply referring to a particular co-worker. But yes, just as those a-hole guys give the rest of us a bad name. Oh wait, I'm an a-hole...I forgot!0 -
If the person (not just women) is crying to "get their way" or whatever, it's because it has worked for them in the past. Lots of people skate by in life. It's possible that this particular person you "work" with is someone who has not ever been held accountable.
If you are the one person in her life that has ever held her to a standard measured by ability / skill, then of course she's not going to know what to do, and will probably cry under the stress. Either way -- Don't be an enabler if you can help it. Try to explain to her how to be or do better in the future, otherwise, maybe she needs to find another profession she is better at...
Work is stressful, but tears are unprofessional.0 -
Because all women do this and no man has ever done anything like this at all. Mhm.
Right.
Genderalizing is always so much fun.0 -
wouldnt have moved the deadline because of tears..........The DD's, maybe!!!!0
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i've never seen women cry at work for manipulative reasons. i've been in the workforce for about 25 years (military and regular jobs)
i have seen women break down in the bathroom due to arguing with spouses on the phone and stuff like that....also have seen women cry due to pain...myself included. i was downstairs on my lunch hour feeding the feral cats. bent down putting food in the bowls, stood up and turned around at the same time............BANG......ran my forehead right into a metal pole. i walked upstairs and sat down at my desk, about 5 minutes later the pain just whoooshed to my head all of a sudden and i burst into tears. the 3 male technicians i work with shuffled about nervously and i had to explain i hit my head....ugh how embarassing0 -
I'm feeling attacked right now...can someone just hold me right now....please.0
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I'm feeling attacked right now...can someone just hold me right now....please.
Only if you are crying....
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I'm feeling attacked right now...can someone just hold me right now....please.
you dont have DD'S so get back to work!!!!! lol0 -
In my experience, some women handle it well and don't let it interfere with business, and that's not a problem. With others, the crying stops everyone from doing their job.
For example, I worked with a woman who would excuse herself from a meeting, go to the restroom (I assume) until she was composed and ready to resume. But, I also had a situation where a woman was bawling in the middle of a group discussion to discuss various approaches, insisted she was fine and didn't need to leave, and the entire discussion became useless as everyone was afraid to say anything that would make things worse. Communication shut down and we had to schedule another meeting for the same purpose. That's problematic.
In this case, it sounds like the woman was crying because she was told to do her job and meet a deadline she committed to. That's completely unprofessional. If she's upset that she needs to stay late, then she needs to accept the responsibility that it's because she didn't complete her work, and go off by herself to get composed and come back ready to work.0 -
Hey, I totally love generalizations about the female gender with heavy misogynistic undertones.0
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I'm feeling attacked right now...can someone just hold me right now....please.
Stop manipulating us into feeling sorry for you.0 -
I only have one thing to say to this....
:sad:
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