The way I look Thick or Thin

I'm 5"11" and currently in the 170s and my goal is the mid 150s because that's where I look my best and when I hit my goal size of 6. I have a small frame, so the 170s are a bit much.

My arms and legs are thin and I carry my excess fat from my waist to my upper thighs. Outside of this site, my mom and a couple of friends are the only ones I talk about my fitness goals because I'm sick of hearing, "But you're so skinny already" and "Are you trying to be anorexic?" These people don't see me naked, so they have no idea. I just keep it to myself because I don't feel like arguing and nor do I need to justify my goals to the ignorant.

Literally all of my family members are overweight and many of them have diabetes and/or hypertension. My friends and coworkers aren't great shakes either when it comes to their diets and physical condition. I'm not trying to be mean, but it's the truth. Why would I listen to any of them with regard to exercise and fitness? It would be like listening to investment advice from a broke person.

I think people's reactions are based on the fear that you are changing and won't be the same person to them. Not just how you look but the whole package. Once they realize that you are still their friend/sister/daughter with the same personality only in a new, healthier package the comments will stop.

I would just have a canned response like "Gosh really? I am eating enough calories, getting good exercise and I'm a healthy weight." And then leave it at that. If they continue just smile at them and don't say anything. It's hard to carry on a one sided conversation.

I also think that when you lose weight you tend to show it in your face more and then once you start stabilizing your face fills out a little bit more and you don't look quite as gaunt.

And I'll just add that you do look fabulous!

While I was outside & my husband ^ came & logged in, but I didn't realize it...I had to edit, so that's why the one word comment. Sorry about that.

Here's what I wanted to say...
Well I think you look great! I agree with others that "naysayers" were used to seeing you heavier, and perhaps there's a bit of jealousy behind the comments. I was wearing something last weekend that was quite form-fitting and my mother, who sees me all the time, commented that I looked "sooo skinny" & then followed that complement by calling me "a little ****"...as if I lost weight to somehow hurt her! Go figure!
In the end, it really is up to you. If they see that it bothers you, the comments will probably continue. If you say something like, "I've put in a lot of work to get these results" then maybe they will ease up. Maybe just smile & say thanks! That will really catch them off guard! I'll bet these same folks are quick to give you kuddos for your military service...which is well deserved. They just need to realize that you worked hard to deserve this new body as well.

Remember how you felt when you were uncomfortable, and how much better you feel now. It's all about YOU! Your health, Your well being! You...look fabulous!!!! Own it!!

Pay attention to what feels healthy for you. When do you feel the best, when are you able to do the most? That's what matters. Ignore the comments from people that don't know what healthy looks like or who want to hold you back. Maybe people don't know what healthy looks like. My doctor gave me support on this. I felt bad about myself, and she explained that I was healthy, and explained that being overweight is less healthy. That is paraphrasing because I was actually given a lot of support and discussion on the issue, so that I walked away confident with my active & healthy body. For me it was different...no one in my real life thought I was too thin (just people on mfp).