When do you stop feeling fat

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  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
    Funny thing....I never thought I was that fat. At 5' 3" tall and 182 lbs, I felt I looked "pretty good"..............most of the time. I didn't think about my weight too much, and wasn't very upset about it (until the Doc said I was 'obese', and that started this process of change.)

    Now, 21 lbs lighter, I am waiting for my big tummy to go away, and I really want to wear smaller sizes! I am about 2 sizes smaller, but it's not enough...............and I feel like a fatty. I do like certain aspects of how I look now - my neck is smaller, I don't have a triple chin, people are really noticing...........but I still feel like a fatty.

    ugggh.........
  • LilRedRooster
    LilRedRooster Posts: 1,421 Member
    The fat person insde never really goes away. Even when I was a size 2, and in crazy-amazing shape, that fat person lingered in the back of my mind.

    With that said, it does get easier to ignore that voice, over time, and accept it.
  • grannygethealthy1111
    grannygethealthy1111 Posts: 422
    This is a very good question. Everyone talks about HOW to lose the weight, but few talk about the emotional impact of losing a lot of weight. I have been at my goal weight for 2 years on March 5th. I still struggle with my "fat brain." At first I would take my clothes out of the dryer and think, "Who the hell do these belong to?" The clothes looked so tiny. I used to order all of my fat clothes online. I still order clothes online and when I get them, they are too big. I always pick out sizes in a store that are far too large for me and am still surprised when I try them on. Sometimes I will catch my reflection in a mirror or window and think, "Dang! Is that REALLY me?" Sometimes people will be talking to me and comment that I am so tiny. I look around the room to see who they are talking to.

    We were used to seeing a different reflection in the mirror for years. You don't become morbidly obese overnight. That person was familiar to us. Change takes time to adjust to. Time has really helped me. I wear a size small top and 4/6 pants. My "fat brain" is improving and I no longer see myself as a size 20. Now I grab size 10s. I am working my way down in sizes in my brain ... just like I did when I lost the actual pounds.

    Hang in there! It gets better and better as time goes by.

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  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    im on day# 868, i went from a 24W to a 7/8. (im 5'10)

    as far as my brain is concerned, the XS tee on my bed was a very not funny joke that i played on myself. Nevermind that it fits, my brain refuses to believe Im half what I was.

    After I hit the 60 lb loss mark, my self esteem started to tank because I didnt deal with any of my real issues that my weight problem had been hiding, and I suddenly felt so exposed and vulnerable.

    Ive decided to spend the remainder of my time as a fatty dealing with the issues that make me one, and hopefully I will be in a much better state of mind-existence to be able to handle my smaller body as it develops.
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    I've lost a considerable amount of weight. I feel really, really good and proud about this. My clothing used to be size 3x or 24. Now I wear a size M or S and size 10. While I see and know that my body is a smaller size, there are still those moments when I feel big. I know this feeling will diminish over time but will it really? Or will I always feel larger than normal?

    First Congrats on your loss.

    Second. You have spent all of your life developing some form of emotional response from your weight, most likely this has effected your ego, your confidence level and your anxiety.

    It sucks but this will never go away.... Sometimes it drives people to become body builders and other times it drives people to go back to their old ways

    My advice to you is to aim for the middle and keep on keeping on because you can always get healthier but the main point is that you are healthy !
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I've lost a considerable amount of weight. I feel really, really good and proud about this. My clothing used to be size 3x or 24. Now I wear a size M or S and size 10. While I see and know that my body is a smaller size, there are still those moments when I feel big. I know this feeling will diminish over time but will it really? Or will I always feel larger than normal?

    First Congrats on your loss.

    Second. You have spent all of your life developing some form of emotional response from your weight, most likely this has effected your ego, your confidence level and your anxiety.

    It sucks but this will never go away.... Sometimes it drives people to become body builders and other times it drives people to go back to their old ways

    My advice to you is to aim for the middle and keep on keeping on because you can always get healthier but the main point is that you are healthy !

    yo thanks man! I know it wasnt aimed at me- but it helped!
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    I've lost a considerable amount of weight. I feel really, really good and proud about this. My clothing used to be size 3x or 24. Now I wear a size M or S and size 10. While I see and know that my body is a smaller size, there are still those moments when I feel big. I know this feeling will diminish over time but will it really? Or will I always feel larger than normal?

    First Congrats on your loss.

    Second. You have spent all of your life developing some form of emotional response from your weight, most likely this has effected your ego, your confidence level and your anxiety.

    It sucks but this will never go away.... Sometimes it drives people to become body builders and other times it drives people to go back to their old ways

    My advice to you is to aim for the middle and keep on keeping on because you can always get healthier but the main point is that you are healthy !

    yo thanks man! I know it wasnt aimed at me- but it helped!

    Aimed at every one !
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    I think "Fat" is as much a state of mind as a physical manifestation. It's something you need to work towards and it's a self-perception issue. When will enough be enough? That's for you to decide.

    But even still, EVERYONE has days where they "feel" fat - even fit people. You just feel bloated or cranky or gross or whatever.
  • dennydifferent
    dennydifferent Posts: 135 Member
    I'm not anywhere near my final goal yet, but I've dropped 6 dress sizes. My mind is all over the place about it. Some days I am disgusted by how fat I still am. Other days I think I look thin. I'm horrified by the size of my belly, but can't believe how much smaller my thighs are.

    I cannot pass a mirror or window without looking at myself. Sometimes it doesn't feel like me.

    I wonder if this is made worse by having been very fat for a long time. The person I see is someone else most of the time, and then the old fat blob the rest of the time. *sigh*
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I went from a size 24 to a size 1, but the loose skin made me feel like I was still fat- as another poster said. I felt more normal being heavier than I did looking like a deflated balloon. I think that's part of the reason I let my weight get back up so much. But when I was thin, I still found myself doing things that I did when I was heavy- like pulling the seat belt all the way out to get it around me, holding my stomach muscles in all day, pulling my pants up too high (yeah, that's weird, but it felt better than having the waist band in between my rolls- and when I was thin, it held the loose skin still), turning sideways on a staircase if someone was passing me in the opposite direction...

    :( I do so many of these as well. Taking wide turns. Trying to squeze through area that I could walk directly through, panicking Im about to get a manslaughter charge when someone picks me up.
  • neversettle
    neversettle Posts: 168 Member
    I find that I am more self conscious now of how I look in my clothes than I was 4 months ago when I was 40+ pounds heavier. Its strange and makes no sense to me. Ive noticed lately that my friends have been noticing me adjusting my clothes or whatever, and will say things like "Stop... you look GREAT."
  • soniajaz80
    soniajaz80 Posts: 2
    First of all, congratulations! good job! all I can say is that is amazing and I bet you look great! keep your chin up, it's really hard to ever stop having the insecurity when it comes to that, my partner had lost a lot of weight and was now fitting in a size 2 and 4 and was ALWAYS complaining about how fat she was and how she needed to lose just 5 to 10 more pounds :explode: that made me SO angry especially since all my life I have been a size 14, it made me feel sad, and ashamed of myself... :brokenheart:

    We recently had a baby and with the pregnancy, she got to my size and was so upset, she got on a diet when she stopped breasfeeding, so about 3 months ago, and has almost dropped all her weight! so I gave in and started doing it with her.
    I lost a couple pant sizes and still feel so big! even bigger than before... so now I finally get it, I understand her now... it's horrible though... I just wish it would go away! and she still views herself like a size 14 when she is already down to 5-6...

    I guess it just doesn't go away... but cheer up! you did amazing!! :flowerforyou:
  • ACPotter88
    ACPotter88 Posts: 4
    I ask myself the same question. Back in high school, I was between an 18 & 22 but now I wear between a size 6 & 8. Psychologically, I feel like I am still bigger and that clothes probably have lower numbers than what their actual size is. I look in the mirror and still see my flaws. When will I come to realize my actual size? Today my mother and I went dress shopping for an upcoming event and I bought a size 6, but still, I feel that I am much bigger. :(
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    im on day# 868, i went from a 24W to a 7/8. (im 5'10)

    as far as my brain is concerned, the XS tee on my bed was a very not funny joke that i played on myself. Nevermind that it fits, my brain refuses to believe Im half what I was.

    After I hit the 60 lb loss mark, my self esteem started to tank because I didnt deal with any of my real issues that my weight problem had been hiding, and I suddenly felt so exposed and vulnerable.

    Ive decided to spend the remainder of my time as a fatty dealing with the issues that make me one, and hopefully I will be in a much better state of mind-existence to be able to handle my smaller body as it develops.

    OMG I think I just found my first ever forum post O_O
  • jazzalea
    jazzalea Posts: 412 Member
    I stopped feeling fat when I started falling in love with my body..... I LOVE my pointy elbows, I LOVE seeing the bones in my feet, I LOVE my collarbone, I LOVE my hands and I LOVE MY SKINNY LITTLE LEGS :)

    ok so now I think I'm awesome..... bring on the haters :):flowerforyou:
  • jenneal89
    jenneal89 Posts: 243
    I have no idea and I was never 'fat'.. I gained lots of weight while pregnant so after I had the baby technically I was I suppose. Before I got pregnant I was a lot larger than I am now (wore US size 9 jeans and now I wear between a US size 0 and 00) . It's hard for me because I'm still the same shape that I didn't like when I was bigger. The areas I didn't like are smaller but so is the rest of me so it evens out and I feel fat. I'm not (5' 6" 119lbs) and sometimes I feel good but most of the time I don't feel great.
  • HSingMomto7Kids
    HSingMomto7Kids Posts: 345 Member
    I think it depends. I have lost all of my weight and sometimes I still feel that way especially like now when not caring for me.
  • kalawhon
    kalawhon Posts: 162 Member
    Like a lot of people stated, I believe its something you really wont get over. I lost the last bit of my baby weight and toned up a lot but still feel fat on some days, I'm not happy with certian areas of my body but I know that I should be proud. It's all in the head. lol
    You did wonderful to lose that much weight! Good for you!!!! You look amazing, not many people can accomplish what you have done!!
  • jenneal89
    jenneal89 Posts: 243
    Oops didn't mean to post again
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