To the people in relationships

I just wish I could find a spouse or S.O. to argue with over meals HAHA... No really, when I had a BF who worked at Krispy Kreme I found it VERY difficult to stay on diet as he would give me the aw come on... just this time... I love you the way you are.... ya that's why you walked away huh u ........ Ok well enuf of that...

I did 95% (more like 99%) of the cooking already so I still do that. If he doesn't want to eat it, that's fine, he doesn't have to. But I'm not cooking anything different for him. He's the type who can sit on the couch and eat a piece of cake while he watches me run for 30 minutes (true story) and he still weighs LESS than me. He's only about 20 pounds overweight yet he complains it's because he got his father's "bad" genes since his mom and brother are both very thin and can eat "anything" (Yeah, right. I've seen his mom eat -- and while, yes, she can eat "anything," she also eats a TINY amount of food. So, yeah, that's why she's thin. And his brother's in the Navy... so he exercises like crazy... so yeah, that's why he's thin... but, you know, I don't want to hurt my bf's ego by clueing him into those things ). He's lost over 20 pounds in under 5 months just because I'm cooking healthier foods. He keeps saying he's going to start working out but I've yet to see him do much more than a couple of reps with his dumbells.

So, really, I just ignore what he's doing if what he's doing isn't supporting my weight loss. Sometimes he goes on kicks when he'll eat nothing but breaded chicken sandwiches and potato chips for 2 of his 3 meals for several days in a row. I'd like for him to be healthier because I love him and I want him to be with me for a long time, but there's really nothing I can do to force him to do better for himself. The best I can do is to do better for myself, ignore anything he's doing that could be detrimental to my goals and progress, and hopefully he'll be inspired by me or something.

My hubby needs to lose weight but isn't on the program (yet).. but I'm in charge of making suppers (I"m a SAHM, he gets home from work as i'm putting supper on the table). I also have to make meals that make my three kids happy. But I make sure I have a good protein, a good veggie, a carb, and I measure my portions properly.I'll add something to my meal if its missing something (like last night, it was noodle night.. so girls and hubby got a good portion of noodles, some had sauce, some didn't, and with bread.. I added a chicken breast to mine, and skipped the bread). I make family favourites (like Meatloaf) with new calorie friendly meals.
My older girls (3yr old doesn't really care) and hubby are very supportive of me and help as much as possible.

My hubs is a rather skinny man. He doesn't really worry about a diet. However he can be a a real pain in my *kitten* when it comes to MY diet.

He'll come down to the basement while I'm Sweatin' to the Oldies (I love that TAPE!!) while eating potato chips!! Or if I've got Julian Michaels screaming at me he'll munch on cookies!!

When it comes to cooking though, I'm going to fix enough for me and him, if he doesn't like it he's on his own. Which is just fine with me because now I have lunch for the next day :laugh:

My family eats what I cook. It's either that or they can eat cereal for dinner. LOL Seriously, when making my meal plan for each week, I keep their likes and dislikes in mind and try to cook healthy meals the entire family will enjoy. I search the internet and buy cookbooks with family-minded recipes.

I only buy one bag of chips and one other snack per week for my family to munch on. When it's gone, it's gone and they have to resort to healthy snacks. For me, knowing that I am feeding my body healthy and nutritious snacks and meals is priceless. It's all about your mindset and attitude. I can't force my husband to eat healthy, but I always encourage him to eat better. Good luck with your endeavors and I wish you the best!

My solution to picky eaters and different dietary restrictions is for everyone to cook for themselves.

I or my husband make a bit extra of our own meal for our 4 yr old, otherwise everyone makes whatever they want for meals.

I cooked a big dinner almost every single night for many years, and as they got older, I heard more and more..."ewww" and "I don't like X" and "I dont' want that, I'll have a mac & cheese instead", so I quit. Literally, told them all that I QUIT being chief cook and bottle washer. Ya'll just help yourselves!

Hubby and S21 are fine with it. S21 is actually learning to cook interesting dishes (I am more than willing to teach any of them) like Chicken Piccata and Shrimp Scampi. Hubby is on a low sugar, low carb, extremely limited cholesterol diet, so he can't have certain foods the rest of us can. And he hates most veggies...so he's on his own. He also has portion control issues, so I have to be very careful of the snacks I bring into the house.

My D14 is the only one who dislikes this meal plan. She doesn't like anything I cook, but she doesn't want to make her own and she refuses to eat anything that looks even remotely "healthy". No whole grain, low sugar, veggies, or anything else that the rest of us eat. She's been existing on boxed mac & cheese and frozen waffles (full sugar fake syrup required!) and frozen burritos. I'm refusing to buy more than 1 meal (each) per week of that junk, insisting she eat healthier stuff the rest of the time. Talking to her about preservatives, fat, diabetes, heart issues, chemicals, pesticides, etc...falls on deaf ears. She says she doesn't care about all that, as long as it tastes good. You'd think she would be overweight, but she's not. She's actually rather small for her age, probably due to her picky, finicky eating habits.

If you looked in our freezer you'd find lean beef, fish, chicken, shrimp, morningside products, Kashi meals, and a variety of single serving veggies (peas, corn, brussel sprouts, broccoli+chz, green beans). Our fridge has Milk, juice, water, eggs, nitrite free luncheon meats, cheeses, grapes, strawberries, pears, cheese sticks, cottage cheese, sauces and condiments. Pantry has an assortment of pastas, canned soups (MSG free), brown rice, baby potatoes, red onions, cereals (kashi, oatmeal), canned beans and veggies, applesauce, raisins, bananas, apples, oranges, and about a hundred different kinds of spices and seasonings (plus baking goods ie: sugar, whole wheat flour, etc.)

Boy....I babbled on, didn't I? Cooking is fun though, when you only have yourself to please

I grew up in a family with 7 children, and even though I am second oldest, you had to learn to fend for yourself. Since we almost always had 2 younger kids in diapers (no disposables, no diaper service, 1 bathroom), my mother was never much in the mood for special requests. Asking her to make something for you to eat usually resulted in a 20 min tirade about how you were lazy and demanding. So I learned to make simple meals for myself--by the time I was 7, I could at least make fried eggs, pancakes and oatmeal (along with the obvious toast and cereal).

I moved out when I was 18 and have always followed more "alternative" eating habits, which require that you do a lot of your own cooking and food prep.

So I don't have a whole lot of patience or sympathy for men who are unwilling or unable to cook for themselves, and I *especially* don't have patience for men who not only won't cook for themselves, but then place demands on those who cook for them.

My SO is so greedy, the man will eat all day long if he could! He pretty much eats whatever I cook. I usually just have the meat and veggies, skip the carb and drink water. He'll eat a piece of cake or burger right in my face and so "Oh my Bad" lol. But, it's all good.

Exactley, if you are hungry enough, you will eat it!
I'm not a short order cook!