Are looks all that matter?

At your age looks are important but at my age I just want great sex and a sammwich!!!!

They seem to...nobody wants to touch cliffy

That's cause of your herpes sores.

Looks aren't everything to everybody, but they sure are for a lot of people it seems. Ugh. Society. It sounds like maybe guys tend to think of you as a "buddy" and less as a love interest. But idk, I am so bad at that stuff. I got lucky enough to snag me a man that enjoyed my crude sense of humour and swearing when he met me but still managed to appreciate my womanliness :happy: Maybe you should work on your flirting skills. Flirting is not automatic for me...I have to try pretty hard, but I noticed my love life became a LOT more active when I learned how to turn the charm on when someone's on my radar. You just have to practice it a bit Keep on being yourself, don't think you need to act like someone you're not just to get a guy!

Yes, looks are important, especially in those first stages of attraction.

This is actually very truthful. However, looks only get you so far. A lot of the time though, a bad body can hide the true natural beauty that a person has on the outside, but the real beauty is what is on the inside.

They seem to...nobody wants to touch cliffy

...Maybe it's your outfit? It's a little bit....flamboyant.

cliffy is under the outfit....duh!

They seem to...nobody wants to touch cliffy

That's cause of your herpes sores.

You're a b!tch!! *starts yelling* ERIN...ERIN...ERIN

I am always the friend. The great friend who gives good advice about relationships, though I have never been in one. How weird is that? I am the tomboy...the one who can beat them in drinking, the one who discusses hot girls, etc. Is that the problem?

Yes. Make a move, show that you're interested, remind them you have a vagina.

Straight... to the point... I love it!

Here's the thing for me. If you're not comfortable with your looks, then why should I be? Too many times women come on here and they're all wanting to be "hot" or working towards being "hot" when in fact they already are. There are SSSOOOOO many women on this site who are drop dead beautiful just the way they are...at least that's what I see in their profile pics with beautiful smiles. Size doesn't always matter to guys, but your attitude about your size plays a very important part. Wanting to change to be healthy, and working to get into shape because YOU want to do it is one thing, but that won't dictate whether you're worth the time it takes to get to know you. There are tons of "hot" women that I wouldn't waste my time with because they have no personality or their attitude is that of someone who thinks they are entitled to things because they think they are the epitome of "hot". Having said all that, I will admit, if you're 400 lbs and all you want to do is sit on the couch watching reality tv and scarfing pizza, then no, you're not attractive at all...to anyone most likely.

To be honest, you have one picture, of you, in the dark, waist down. Not much to go on there, and it tells me that you're uncomfortable with yourself. That's what matters most, not what I think or some other guys thinks or even what another girl thinks. You have to start liking you, because if you don't, then you're not giving anyone else a reason to like you.

Looks matter but they aren’t all that matters.

You can improve a person’s looks but you can’t fix stupid.

As for why these guys aren’t into you as more than a friend? It could be because you are from the sounds of it, just one of the guys to them. Nothing to do with looks but if you aren’t very feminine and are drinking them under the table and talking about hot women with them, they probably see you as a buddy and not as a potential love interest.

But don’t change who you are for some guy. Eventually one of them will take interest, probably when they get older and realize it’s better to have a lover who is also a friend.

In my area they have get together for people who are attracted to larger women... Look for something like that! There are plenty of men out there who like a woman with a little meat on their bones!

Are you sure you're making yourself 'available'? by that I mean are you aware of men when you're out and about? When you're out with friends do you just talk to them and not have a look around the bar?

The reason I ask is because I have a friend who has been single for years now and I just know the reason is because a guy would never guess that she would be up for being chatted to and asked out. When we go out she doesn't even glance away from the people she's with, she certainly doesn't bother to be the one to attempt to make eye contact with any man and let them know she's interested etc. My friend is pretty, funny, stylish, has a great job and has the kindest heart ever but she's single because she doesn't try at all.

I was wondering the same thing--does OP flirt?

And guys make less and less effort all the time, especially the young ones. You may have missed some signs from the boys! It seems that most of the young ones don't clearly ask for a date any longer, so you know what's what. If some guy has asked to hang out, he might have thought that was asking for a date in a way that meant he couldn't be clearly rejected. I just ask the flat-out if they meant a date when they try to pull that stupidity.

Beauty and attactiveness are two different things. A girl doesnt have to be the most beautiful or the hottest one that a man knows but she can be an attractive and clever girl who can trap any man she wants. She just needs to use her brain and femininity. You are young and probabily dont know how to treat a man. If you try to become friends with any guy around, you'll always be their tom boy friend with who they talk about hot chicks. Firstly stop being their bro. Be friends with them but remind them that you are the opposite sex. Dont let them talk about hot chicks when they are with you. I'ld never let a guy talk about a hot chick with me or I am not interested in that guy at all. If he does it, I wont be there to listen to him next time. Be feminine. I dont tell you to hook up with any one, dont get me wrong. Act like a lady. Ok we are all tom boys from time to time but not all the time. Dont rush into finding a man. You'll learn by time. You'll change as you get older. I know amazing, attractive women who make heads spin and they used to be like you when they were in their early twenties.

You definitely have to be attracted to the other person or there just won't be any chemistry, especially when dating as looks are usually what gets you interested initially.
That doesn't mean you have to a stick thin super model (or whatever u think is the 'perfect' ideal for a man), you just have to be that partcular guys ideal woman.
Once you get to know someone you fall in love with their personality.

I wasnt attracted to my Rabbit, at first. But once I got to know her*.. it all came together perfectly.


Seriously.. just be you and one day he will arrive and love you for being just you.

Depends on who you ask. Looks matter more to some people than others.

^This. Some people are more honest.