Unsolicited advice

Yeah, I get comments like that. The worst was when I donated all of my old clothes. I heard from someone at work, that maybe I shouldn't have done that.

I was told that I look too skinny and that I need to bulk up in the shoulders.

What is weird, is that I am in the best shape of my life. So, whatever.

Actually, that has happened to me a couple of times, and I like it. I love being able to tell people that I don't have to sacrifice yummy food just to lose weight and that the secret is understanding nutrition and how your body uses food. That usually shuts them up, and they walk away because they don't want to hear a lecture on nutrition! :laugh:

My perpetually overweight mom likes to harp on me not to eat at night. I eat whenever I want to and I have had no problem losing weight. I don't think she can quite get that "eating at night" is not "night-eating" and it's not a bing; my fiance and I just keep something of a late schedule.

Advice from a person that is obviously not just obese but morbidly obese just cracks me up. I commented at work on night that I was having a hard time consuming quality calories on my night shifts. Here comes advice from a woman who need to consider taking her own advice. She suggested a protein drink from a particular company as a possible solution. Granted I did look into said drink and now have it in the fridge, but all I could think at the time was why on earth is she drinking protein drinks?

I'm only just beginning, so no one has really noticed that I'm losing weight yet... But I haven't really told anyone for this reason in particular. Aside from my closest family members and my MFP cheerleading squad, no one knows. When people start to notice (or you let it slip) that you're getting healthy, suddenly everyone starts crawling out of the woodwork with their M.D. from Google University in hand, trying to tell you what you should and shouldn't do with your body. I've even found MFP-ers are terrible about this. (Myself included on occasion). There are billions of people in the world. Don't let one ruin your day.

Keep doin' what you're doin! Clearly it's working!

Yeah people start to tell me no carbs and no sugary drinks (thank you, I know). I just keep telling them what I'm doing, and that it's working and it's nothing fancy except cutting calories and exercising!

I also hate when people tell me that I don't need to lose one more pound. That's the worst for me...I KNOW they are trying to be nice, but don't tell me I don't need to lose anymore when I absolutely do.

I said to a friend something about frozen yogurt was at least healther than ice cream (NOT that it's HEALTHY, but it's certainly lower calories than regular ice cream)....and she was like 'not always, check the labels!' That irritated me because ALL I DO is check labels. It just kind of felt like she was saying "you are overweight, you don't know any better".

I'll quote a great great advice I was given by a very smart man: "Assume everyone else is an idiot".

Fall back to that, and smile, and don't take it personally.

say thanks, move on and enjoy your day

I love that response.

After I lost the first 30 lbs, everyone suddenly knew what was best for me. They scrutinze everything I eat and know exactly what workouts I should be doing. I think from now on, I'm going to smile, thank them, and keep it moving.

I think some people need to make themselves feel better about themselves.

Others might really be trying in their own misguided way, to support and help.

The "no it all's " are the ppl that are most likely to be not doing anything. They usually wish that they are getting the results you are but dont and want to bring you down and make you feel as though your not doing as well as you are. Remember that old saying " those who can DO, do.... those who CANT, teach " lmao.

I'm guilty of giving advice. I guess it depends on the advice? I don't consider what was said in the original post to BE advice, just a casual, misguided statement.

I asked a few weeks back why a friend of mine didn't come to a party. Her husbands response was that it didn't fit in her calories. I joked 'it's all good, it's protein' and was snapped back at by 'Well, you're not her trainer, so thanks for your advice'.

*Headdesk*

All the time...they also want to know the secret of my sucess...I'm not sure why it is more acceptable to say "Stress, Tequila and Men" than hard work lifting weights.

IKR, I mostly get, don't lose anymore, you wll blow away. I am dead in the middle of what is healthy for my height & age, hardly scrawny. Everybody is an expert. "MD from Google University" I love that.

I get this too - Don't lose anymore!!!! And it's always from peeps larger than me. I'm just getting to the weight that my build/height should be ..duh

People do this all the time for all sorts of things.

I fly home to visit my family twice a year. I know exactly what to expect at the airport, I know how early I need to be there, I know what I can carry on and what I can't. Inevitable each time I have 2 or 3 people tell me all kinds of nonsensical things I need to do while flying, people who haven't flown in decades!

Same with when you have a cold, and I struggle with wanting to give advice here too. You get a cold and everyone wants to tell you exactly what works and how to get rid of it. If you were to do all the things everyone suggests you would be in the hospital because of all the bad interactions.

I'm still on the front end of loosing weight, I try not to talk about it with the people I spend more waking hours with than anyone else, coworkers. I don't want or need a million different opinions on how I should loose weight, unless I wan't to go totally crazy.

Actually, that has happened to me a couple of times, and I like it. I love being able to tell people that I don't have to sacrifice yummy food just to lose weight and that the secret is understanding nutrition and how your body uses food. That usually shuts them up, and they walk away because they don't want to hear a lecture on nutrition! :laugh:

Love it! I would personally take a sip of that coffee, look her right in the eye and say mmmmmmmm