Ashamed....

I don't know what my problem is. I do great for awhile and then when I don't see results I want, I say screw it and go back to my bad habits. I end up gaining more weight than I lost. I have done this my entire life!

I really want off this roller coaster. I am making another attempt to get healthy. I am tired of being fat and uncomfortable.

I hope my current friends and new friends won't give up on me and will give me some encouragement.

Anyone with this same problem is welcome to add me.

I promise to do better this time :-)

Don't feel ashamed. Change is never easy. Just think about what you gain by being a healthier version of you and remember that everything in life takes patience and dedication. Weight loss, marriage, parenting, school, just about everything. Just get the information you need to start your adventure and do it with realistic expectations.

Here's a good place to start to know how much you should be eating:
http://calorieline.com/tools/tdee

Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Sending you a friend request! Been there!

That is my life story. I talked my daughter who is 28 to do MFP. So I would do very low carb, very healthy eating and lose faster then her then go off and binge. She has lost 30 pounds since Christmas she only has 15 to go. She ate what she wanted. She made good choices but would have a kids meal from mcdonalds including the fries. If she knew she was going out with her friends she would eat salads and fruit during the day to keep the majority of her calories for the evening plus she would work out an extra 30 minutes that 300 calories is two glasses of wine.

She would lose 2 pounds in a week and I would lose 4 or 5. Guess what I am 5 pouns heavier then when I started 8 months ago and she is still down.

Smart kid making it a way of life. Now time for me to learn from her...

Oh, dear...I could have wrtten your post!! That is (or should I say, was) me to a T! Don't ashamed - you are NOT alone! We can do this...together! Add me as a buddy and we can encourage each other!

I am doing this to help monitor my sodium and such. I am 42 149 lbs and have had 3 heart attacks and a quadruple by-pass all in the last 3 1/2 mos. I work with a group of girls always dieting, and they go thru the same thing. One thing I have learned from them is when you get to the stopping point, just continue it will pass. Everyone does the same thing, you just have to keep going and the loss will begin again. Good luck to all, you can do it. If I can quit smoking cold turkey after 25 yrs of smoking, you can do it.

I'm just as bad! I was done to 5 pounds from my goal, but became comfortable and complacent. I've added back almost all of the weight. Really trying to get it under control and keep it off for good! Anyone else can add me too.

Don't fret....Life happens....

I have a host of family health problems at the moment...It's derailing me...It shouldn't, I know better...But I'm not giving up...Neither should you, so keep on going......

I'm very familiar with this :-) The last time I lost weight and stalled in the 170's (down from the 230's) I got frustrated and quit. Since then, I have spent some time in therapy and I think I've figured out a few pitfalls.

1. I really just want to be healthy--for life. I have a number of familial risks, in fact, my sister and dad are type 2 diabetic. My father and my grandmother have had strokes. I want to limit my risk factors, which means health and fitness for life.

2. It's okay to take a break--for a few days, or even a week.

3. "Cheating" doesn't mean failure--see #2

4. If I'm not seeing the results I want over several months, it's time to evaluate the process. Am I logging? Am I exercising? I'm I measuring my foods? If so...maybe it's time to switch it up.

5. If I'm not seeing the results I want over several months, AT LEAST I'VE MAINTAINED!!

6. I try and really evaluate all components of what I'm eating. If I feel like I'm hungry, is it because I've been eating too much carb? Or am I not eating enough fiber? What about water? Over time, the trends are easy to see. It's been really easy to quit in the past when I feel like I'm deprived.

7. Measure in other ways: Not just waist, hips, etc. My resting heart rate has decreased. My feet no longer swell at work. My blood pressure is fabulous (although I've always been lucky this way). My risk factors for disease are lowered--cholesterol, triglycerides, etc are all fantastic.

Finally, admit and acknowledge where the problems lie. If your struggling, admit it. Don't make excuses for it. Just acknowledge and accept it. This is HARD, and not always fun.

Feel free to add me.

I think everyone goes through some version of this, although I've never been overweight. I think that my habit of weighing myself several times a week has helped.

A month ago a relative came into town and in her presence it was particularly hard to resist the urge to eat inconsistently with my plan. But I was aware of the weight increase and as soon as she left I started to work to take the extra couple of pounds off.

Even if I don't track my food I weight myself at least three times a week. It's important that I not be in denial.

We have all been there sweetie! But this site is amazing! It helps you see others going through the same struggles you are and seeing them get through it and the success they have makes you realize you can do it too. We all need to learn some patients. Changing your entire lifestyle and body is no simple task and it will take time! Good luck! Feel free to add me! :happy:

Don't be ashamed. We all go through it, well at least most of us do. Just remember; when you have a bad meal, the day is not lost, and when you have a bad day, the week is not lost. When you fall off, dust yourself off and get back to it.

I'm there...at that point right now in my life! Any or all of you, please feel free to add me - I could use your support!

I joined MFP last year and logged on for a week - I just came back this week and so far, I'm loving the conversations and support!

I find, as I lose weight, that the emotions I was stuffing with food start surfacing. If I don't deal with the emotional baggage, then I tend to want to start stuffing again...and gaining weight. I've been amazed to find that the emotions I was dealing with when I was 175 lbs start coming up again when I get to that weight, the emotions I was dealing with when I get to 190 lbs come up when I get to that weight, and so on... So, for me, it's like my body weight is a road map to my unresolved issues. You've been given a lot of good input here. For what it's worth, I suggest you take a look at what is going on for you emotionally. I started with keeping a daily journal about my feelings, especially when I wanted to get off track. Eventually it was helpful to me to see a counselor for awhile. Now I find it a lot easier to recognize and deal directly with my emotional upsets than to eat my way through them...

Best wishes!

This is EXACTLY where I am right now. I've been doing Jenny Craig and using MFP along with that program. I've lost 51 pounds in about 5 months. And then all of a sudden, I hit a wall. The last 3 weeks have been up and down the same few pounds. It's gotten me in a slump. I'm familiar with my work, I do great and then when there is a struggle (which is going to happen) I get frustrated and sabatoge myself. It's frustrating that I can't seem to get and keep control of this situation. It is however, very comforting to know that I am not alone. That a lot of people have the same struggle. We just need to keep on keeping on and remember that 1 week doesnt undo all of the success we've had over the last few months.

Sometimes that is easier said than done.

Good luck to everyone!

I agree with Eccentric Dad....well said!