Pet Peeves (sp?) No introduction and no Eye Contact

FiercelyBeautiful
FiercelyBeautiful Posts: 590 Member
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I am sick and bored so I thought I would post about something that has really been bugging me. My husband NEVER introduces me to people when we are out somewhere. For example to co-workers or classmates. It is awkward for me because I am standing there and I can see that at times it is even visibly awkward for them as well because they aren't sure who I am or what to say to me. I have asked him to please stop doing that but alas he says he just forgets. Also, like NONE of my husbands friends/co-workers will look me in the eye when I am talking to them it's like they purposely try NOT to look at me. I think it is rude and it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me! My mamma always said an honest person looks you in the eye and so I learned that it was a sign of respect and integrity. I don't get it, and it just seriously bugs the crud out of me. What about you anything that drives you crazy?

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  • MyPaperBleedsInk
    MyPaperBleedsInk Posts: 240 Member
    I absolutely HATE when people don't introduce you to someone. My friends for example... pretty sure they weren't raised with manners or common sense... EVERY time they "introduce" me to someone they know.... they don't really make introductions. They start talking with the person.... where I and the other person are awkwardly staring at each other. So I usually have to be the one to say, "Hey I'm Lisa, and you are?" My friends still don't get it when I do the intros myself right in front of them.
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    I hate it when people don't do proper introductions, I think it makes things awkward!

    Is your husband a scientist? We tend to be awful with eye contact!
  • FiercelyBeautiful
    FiercelyBeautiful Posts: 590 Member
    I absolutely HATE when people don't introduce you to someone. My friends for example... pretty sure they weren't raised with manners or common sense... EVERY time they "introduce" me to someone they know.... they don't really make introductions. They start talking with the person.... where I and the other person are awkwardly staring at each other. So I usually have to be the one to say, "Hey I'm Lisa, and you are?" My friends still don't get it when I do the intros myself right in front of them.

    Right! How is this not part of general manners? I finally got angry about it and confronted my husband and he still doesnt understand how in my mind it translates to "he must be embarrassed of me or not think I am important enough", logically I know that isnt true but the action makes me feel that way. He says "They aren't important so they aren't worth your time getting to know", I am like wow that is kinda rude honey! lol
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    i just introduce myself to anyone else who might not have been introduced. lol misery loves company
  • DominiqueSmall
    DominiqueSmall Posts: 495 Member
    I think if it were me I would step forward and introduce myself. This isn't a fight I would choose if it were me. As for people not looking you in your eye, I recently read that most people don't do that. It isn't a sign of disrespect, they are just thinking of other things or they themselves are socially anxious.

    Again, I would take the higher road and let this one go to.
  • FiercelyBeautiful
    FiercelyBeautiful Posts: 590 Member
    I hate it when people don't do proper introductions, I think it makes things awkward!

    Is your husband a scientist? We tend to be awful with eye contact!

    Oh man! I wish! The money would be so much better. He works for the State Highway Department, construction-ish kind of work.
  • FiercelyBeautiful
    FiercelyBeautiful Posts: 590 Member
    I think if it were me I would step forward and introduce myself. This isn't a fight I would choose if it were me. As for people not looking you in your eye, I recently read that most people don't do that. It isn't a sign of disrespect, they are just thinking of other things or they themselves are socially anxious.

    Again, I would take the higher road and let this one go to.

    Wasn't asking for advice just sharing a pet peeve but thanks :)
  • Irish_eyes75
    Irish_eyes75 Posts: 475
    My husband doesn't introduce me either. He's kind of socially inept but I'm used to it and I just introduce myself.

    What's up with your hubby's friends & coworkers? I would refuse to hang out with them if that's how i was treated.
  • kitstarz
    kitstarz Posts: 2
    I don't want to plant anything in your mind or anything but usually if someone doesn't look you in the eye, it's because they are either guilty about something or they know something that you don't know or have something to hide. I am only saying this because as someone who just read your post with a fresh view that's how it comes across to me. Maybe your husbands co-workers know something that you don't. Please don't jump on me for my opinion but the situation does sound "off".
  • FiercelyBeautiful
    FiercelyBeautiful Posts: 590 Member
    My husband doesn't introduce me either. He's kind of socially inept but I'm used to it and I just introduce myself.

    What's up with your hubby's friends & coworkers? I would refuse to hang out with them if that's how i was treated.

    My husband says it is one of two things either they don't want him to think they are checking me out or it is somehow cultural because most of them are Hispanic and I am white. I grew up here and have had mainly Hispanic friends and not experienced that so I will pretend it is the first theory ha-ha!
  • synh6416
    synh6416 Posts: 55
    I think it's more annoying when they just ignore that you are there. I've had people not introduce me but the person that approaches us still includes me in the conversation. It's when they pretend I don't exist that it irritates me.

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