Negative feedback after weight loss...

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  • Heyyleigh
    Heyyleigh Posts: 268 Member
    Its normal! Anytime they see you looking good. Its because it makes them realize how crappy they are and that IT CAN BE DONE! They are idiots. I had one girl tell me I looked like I had the AIDS! Really... and in front of people. I wanted to punch her in the face. BUT... I just smiled and said thank you.. and your fat and ugly! hahahaha
    I am with you, doing it for me, NO ONE else!
    and the girl who said this has all the sudden joined MFP and started walking in the gym..........go figure!
  • Amy911Gray
    Amy911Gray Posts: 685 Member
    Two people told me today that I should not lose anymore weight. I'm only 7 pounds to goal, I'm just not understanding what the problem is--and anyway, wearing work clothes, you can't tell that I'm just pudgy in my thighs and around my middle...and further--I have to tone up...

    GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR....
  • RobinvdM
    RobinvdM Posts: 634 Member
    My mother gave me the "youre going to become anorexic" speech this summer when I told her I was having trouble accepting that I had dropped almost 100lbs (at that time.) Does that count?

    I am stymied that people can't just be happy for others when they are making positive life changes that keeps them off death's door a bit longer. (Or at least in theory.)

    Surround yourself with people who support you, but most important of all- support yourself. Love yourself, embrace the newly emerging you. If folks feel threatened by what you are accomplishing, that is THEIR hangup, don't invest in it more than shaking your head and then let it go :)
  • Katanthus
    Katanthus Posts: 346 Member
    they liked you before your weight loss because they are jealous of the new you.

    I would have to agree with this comment. Usually people put others down, because it makes them feel better about their insecurities. Do they need to get in shape and/or lose weight? If they do, it is just pure jealously, that you did it, and too lazy.

    Congratulations on your weight loss. You look fabulous!
  • akgordoa
    akgordoa Posts: 55
    My mother got smack from her boss. Said that she was taking illegal substances to lose weight and other hurtful things. The ***** was lucky I wasn't there. Otherwise I haven't experienced that, I just had people assuming I was looking down on them a lot, as if my self confidence was threatening their way of life. Live and let live.
  • brittamh
    brittamh Posts: 137 Member
    You look great!! They are just jealous!
  • stardancer7
    stardancer7 Posts: 276 Member
    And just as bad is the person who reported what she said about you to you...
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    Yes...when I first lost my weight the Italian side of the family said I was "too skinny"...as a matter of fact, they still do! lol How do YOU feel? are you happy where you're at and how you look? Because that's all that really matters!
  • Southern_Belle89
    Southern_Belle89 Posts: 37
    Girl I wouldn't even worry about them! I have a "workout" friend Jenny & she always puts down my weight loss & how I look but plays herself up! She goes to Taco Bell after our Zumba session so I'm just like whatever. :/ Haters gonna hate so you are doing something right! Rock your new body & screw them!
  • emilyci
    emilyci Posts: 17 Member
    Yes. I have lost 130 lbs. I am in the best shape of my life. I cycle 100 or more miles a week, my blood pressure is 110/65. My BMI is 22. The only person who truly supports me is my doctor. She is thrilled. Everyone else seems to think I am obsessed or something's wrong with me. Nobody said anything about my weight when I weighed 300 lbs. Now at 170, everybody has something to say. Ignore them and stay with the program. There's nothing wrong with being healthy:-)


    wow, you're awesome...a true inspiration!

    and i agree, haters gonna hate.
  • Cespuglio
    Cespuglio Posts: 385 Member
    they liked you before your weight loss because they are jealous of the new you.

    ^^ This. Keep doing your thing and congratulations on your success!
  • kmoore02
    kmoore02 Posts: 167 Member
    I understand. I've 60lbs since March and people think that great but when I tell them I've got 70lbs to go, thats when they make the crude comments. They've only known me since I've been overweight, not my normal adult weight. Its all coming off, whether they like it or not!
  • Cespuglio
    Cespuglio Posts: 385 Member
    After about 40 or 50 pounds lost I had a very good friend take me aside while she was drunk to beg me to quit dieting before I got smaller than her.

    I'm pretty happy that, at the same weight and height, I now wear one pant size smaller than her.

    Wow. I guess it would be easier for everybody else to change so I look good instead of me actually having to work at it.


    Great job on getting smaller than your 'friend' anyway. Awesome reply to this comment. Laughed pretty hard but it's so true!
  • noriri
    noriri Posts: 74 Member
    That's really sad! Not uncommon, but sad none the less. You just keep taking care of yourself. Those that love you need you and celebrate your victory.
  • Dahllywood
    Dahllywood Posts: 642 Member
    I get it all the time : / . "Man you are getting too skinny!" "We need to fatten you up!" Etc. Etc. Sometimes it gets to me, but I usually just shrug it off. I like the way I look and I feel great, and that's all that matters.
  • iuew
    iuew Posts: 624 Member
    the initial phase of weight loss often generates praise, and the later stages sometimes generate concern. i've experienced this myself; "dude, how much weight are you going to lose?" i replied that i chose a weight for my frame in the middle of the Met Life actuarial charts from the late 1940s. this gives me a BMI in the 22 range, which is healthy, assuming you're not extremely tall or a bodybuilder.
  • jeffreyjording
    jeffreyjording Posts: 67 Member
    the initial phase of weight loss often generates praise, and the later stages sometimes generate concern. i've experienced this myself; "dude, how much weight are you going to lose?" i replied that i chose a weight for my frame in the middle of the Met Life actuarial charts from the late 1940s. this gives me a BMI in the 22 range, which is healthy, assuming you're not extremely tall or a bodybuilder.
    I have heard the exact same comments. They call me Skeletor Jefferexic etc. These are people making NO effort to live a healthy lifestyle. I simply reply " Don't hate me because I'm beautiful" giggle and go about my business. :-P
  • calamity71
    calamity71 Posts: 207 Member
    That is a great obsession, you can be proud of! :) I do better on my weight lose when I am obsessed!
  • PatrissiaLu
    PatrissiaLu Posts: 37
    Girl, that's normal. They're called haters! I got tons. If you got haters you're doing something right! Later, those who criticize you now will come and ask you how you're doing it!

    :flowerforyou:
  • zachatta
    zachatta Posts: 1,340 Member
    So I've lost a total of 40.4 pounds from the beginning of March to now, although my ticker says 3 pounds because I just recently joined MFP. Well, the other day someone said (about me): "Oh yeah, i don't like the way she looks now that she's lost weight... she doesn't look good. I liked how she looked better before." Well it's a good thing I'm not trying to get fit and healthy for others, I'm doing this for myself :-) But wow, what a mean thing to say huh? Has anyone received any negative feedback after successfully losing a significant amount of weight?

    They are mad because you made this a life priority, so they choose to be jealous, and talk ****.

    :) Enjoy, you look good btw!
  • PatrissiaLu
    PatrissiaLu Posts: 37
    Yes. I have lost 130 lbs. I am in the best shape of my life. I cycle 100 or more miles a week, my blood pressure is 110/65. My BMI is 22. The only person who truly supports me is my doctor. She is thrilled. Everyone else seems to think I am obsessed or something's wrong with me. Nobody said anything about my weight when I weighed 300 lbs. Now at 170, everybody has something to say. Ignore them and stay with the program. There's nothing wrong with being healthy:-)

    Congratulations on your awesome weight loss!!! They're not the one that were carrying all that excess weight around, so they should just shut it. You must feel so great, and that's more important than even looking great :smile:
  • PatrissiaLu
    PatrissiaLu Posts: 37
    Are they crazy?! You are gorgeous!

    Awww...thanks! :blushing:
  • PatrissiaLu
    PatrissiaLu Posts: 37
    When I lost a lot in college my family told me I looked anorexic. I was still 140 so not too small but I think they were just used to seeing me fat. I haven't had that problem since though. Lol


    Ha! That's sooo true... my family and some friends tell me I'm "thin"... but I'm only "thin" in comparison to what I looked like before. But in comparison to the average sized girl, I'm still on the heavy side...lol. After losing my first 20 pounds, my mom told me to stop because I was beautiful just like I was and said I didn't need to lose more weight, I came to the conclusion that she was having "fatty Patty" withdrawals ;-)
  • Paw4awhile
    Paw4awhile Posts: 25
    They may have not thought that they needed to lose weight until you lost your weight & now they feel bad, that may be why they are lashing out like they are.

    Anne
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    congrats on your dedication and your accomplishments. Any negative feedback whether before or after weight loss just keeps that fire burning for me...bring it on
  • xcgirl078
    xcgirl078 Posts: 47 Member
    I got the same response a few years back, after losing weight that, like you, made me HEALTHY. People can be jerks. Just remember why you did it and that they're probably jealous!! :) You are gorgeous, don't ever forget it!
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    Yeah, it happens. It's especially confusing when it comes from people that are supposed to love you.. family members, etc.

    At this point, I honestly feel that some people actually think that the smaller I get, the bigger they get. I can't control that. I don't have the time or energy to babysit other people's insecurities.

    Congrats on your weight loss!! :) People will always have something to say.
  • nonafit
    nonafit Posts: 582 Member
    Luckily I did not get that kind of remark. So far all good. my weight loss is slow though about 40 pounds in one year.
  • cblevitron
    cblevitron Posts: 243
    My boyfriend has told me, "what are you going to do if you get too skinny and I'm not attracted to you anymore?" :/ It's a real bummer that some people can't just be happy for you.
  • AZKristi
    AZKristi Posts: 1,801 Member
    I'm not sure who is meaner... the person that said it about you in the first place, or the person that felt the need to pass the snide remark along. You look lovely in your picture!

    If you want MFP to reflect all your loss, you can go to the Check-In menu and click "Edit Previous Entries." You can add additional entries such as the date and weight you were at your highest. Obviously don't have to do this, but it is an option.

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