Broke up

First, I wanna say I'm so very sorry for yur heart right now.Please stop,take a deep breath and try to look at this as a possiable blessing ,painful ..yes...but better to hurt now than look back 10 yrs from an unhappy marriage. Pick up yur broken heart and move forward,...you maybe crying but soon you will be filled w/ anger ,..and the best thing to do is move forward,complete school,hold ya head up mama!,..deep down you know u are strong & can get through this.It will be tuff at first,in 3wks it'll be alot better,keep up the good wrk om MFP,....dont drown yur sorrows in a chocolate cake,do an angry wrk out(running or kick boxing)~hang in there best wishes

I'm sorry that you're going through this. If it were me I'd need a little more explanation as to why he feels this way. That would be the only way I could work through the breakup and not let it linger. If he opens and talks to you about what is going on maybe that would open some other alternatives than just breaking up. My boyfriend and I fight over some silly stuff and he is not the best communicator. Often times I don't know what is happening until it's too late to avoid a fight. Then the feelings come out and it's like triage to patch things up. I'm not sure if I'm giving the best advice, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that communication is key. 4 1/2 years is substantial and it would be a shame for him to walk away without talking to you more about the issue or issues he may have. I wish you the best and good luck. You'll get through this.

First off....say whatever you want on this section of the forums! I hate when people say "it's not fitness related!" Hey moron, it's "games chit chat and fun".........

I am so sorry. How hurtful. And even if he changes his stance, I imagine you will be plagued with wondering if he really wants this, ya know? I am so very sorry. :flowerforyou:

I am so sorry. I think I, too would want a further explanation, but, in all actuality, he may not yet be able to really pinpoint his issues until he matures and grows on his own. I'm sorry you have invested 4.5 years with this guy, but like another poster said, I'm glad you won't be having this happen 10 years from now when you have kids and other battles to fight other than just a place to live and a bank account.
If it were me, this would be fuel to my fire to get healthy and in shape and look and FEEL my best. Kind of a "Look what you are missing out on!" kind of thing.
(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))

I've very sorry that you are going through this right now. Hang in there - it sounds like you have a bright future ahead of you, with or without this guy.

Wow! I know how devastating that is because it happened to me. Concentrate only on yourself for a bit. This happened for a reason and one things for sure....there is way better out there for you! Just realize how important you are, finish school and make something wonderful happen for yourself......

I'm so sorry.
Something similar happened to me as well.
One day buying stuff for our new place... Next day he's moving out.

Never expected, not even a little.

I am going thru the same exact situation. Except that my wedding was supposed to be this month. And of course I am a guy and got dumped! Lol. Anyway, cheer up, it's tough at first and it will get better. Sort things out and let him decide if he's really ready or not. If he's not, then move on. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you!

Go on a trip! I did. I was out of the USA for 17 days. I was solo and it was awesome! Take on a new hobby and whatever you do, don't start eating because of this. It's common for some people to let themselves go. And remember, above all, you have to love yourself. Even if he doesn't love you back! Send me a message, we can talk some more. Use exercise to keep yourself busy.

Go after strikerjb (above) he looks HOT!!! *drool*

At least it's sooner rather than later. It'll be hard financially but be strong and just show him he's missing out on something really great :]

This might be long....

This happen to me about 2 years ago, except we was not engage and it was my decision but we was together for 3 years and we lived and DID EVERYTHING together. You know when the vibe between two people change and you know you should not be together anymore but you just either praying that things will get back to the way there were or either he will have the balls to do the breaking up. Well he cheated and that was my last straw so I broke up with him (I didn't really want to)..but I did and we try to be "friends" which gave me hopes thinking he changed and we would get back together, I found myself asking him should we get back together and he kept avoiding the question. Then I asked him was there someone else he flat out said no, then one week later his things was completely gone and I was stuck like chuck.

advise 1) don't buy into that we should be friend crap...cut any ties (trust me)!
2) Surround yourself with friends AT ALL TIME or keep busy so you won't have time to feel weak and call him
3) DO NOT CALL HIM!!
4) do not seek no answer (TRUST ME THERE IS NO ANSWER THAT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER)
5) When everybody tell you that you will be ok and things will get better BELIEVE IT!!

After my little situation happen and I kind of sort of moved on, I decided to not jump into in a relation I Focus in school (Bio major)
and time flew by, a year of the single life, I met a guy that I cannot even compare to my ex..HE IS TRULY AMAZING!! I had to believe that God has something better plan for me and wait for it...WAIT PATIENTLY for it during that time work on yourself. Also my ex tried to come back to me and I always had the mentality hurt me once shame on you hurt me twice shame on me. I refuse to let anyone get a 2nd chance at hurting me. Hope that wasn't too long....TRUST me after you become a nurse and you working its going be like a wait have lifted off your shoulder....
Oh I also worked out and watched a lot of Netflix movies...:) *chin-up girly***

I am so sorry
Chin up...there is something better out there for u and even though it doesn't seem it now..you will get thru this.

Truly sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you.

6 years ago, I broke up with my fiance. We'd been together for 4 years and owned a home. It came out of nowhere and shocked and hurt a lot of people, most of all my fiance, who was and still is completely awesome. I wasn't cheating and found the entire thing extremely difficult and sad. I loved him so much, but I wasn't in love with him and on some level, while I knew our like together would be happy, it wouldn't be everything he or I deserved. I thought that sorta of nagging feeling would go away because so many things about us was perfect -- as our wedding approached and it didn't. I knew as much as it would hurt, it was right.

I know this is a weird consolation, but please believe me when I tell you that things like this happen because there is a greater happiness that you haven't even imagined coming.

I met my husband 2 years after our break up, we have this deep sort of soulful connection that I never really knew existed until I met him. My ex met a wonderful girl and they are getting married in December. I'm their wedding photographer and really, seeing him marry the actual woman of his dreams is one of the greatest blessings of my life.

And what I can tell you about wasted time is this: I would have never, ever known how right my husband was for me and I my ex would have know how right his finance is for him if we hadn't been together. It took us years to become friends again, but eventually it did happen and we both agree what happened helped us become the people we were meant to be.