Why wont my weight budge
bev0l0
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Hi to whoever reads this...... I am really battling! What happens with me is I try to be really good for five days straight, stick to the 1500 calories that I am allowed and don't lose one single gram!!! I then get sooooo despondent and EAT!!! This pattern repeats itself week after week. Why am I not losing weight initially to help boost my confidence to stay on the healthy eating. I know it is stupid but it is a mental thing. My Mom, My sister, My friends all seem to lose weight so easily and I get so demotivated and then angry that I can't lose, self destructing. I have got 13kg's (28 lbs) to lose and in the past I have been able to lose weight. I will be 40 at the end of March and I would love to be able to lose the weight by then :sad: I really really need motivation please.......... Nobody thinks I can do it, especially ME
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It's tough, the older you get, the harder it can be to lose weight. Also, the less you have to lose, the harder it is.
Maybe try Atkins? The induction phase will get the scale moving and it can be very motivating.0 -
You need to be consistent. Doing five good days then two bad days isn't going to work. Are you exercising? I find if I feel like I'm going to eat something bad I'll do some crunches or anything to take my mind of it. I don't eat really clean but if I want something as a treat I just make sure it fits in my allowance.
Consistency is the key...come on, you can do it!
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Without being able to see your diary and what you are eating and how you are exercising makes it harder. But like Fozzi said you have to try to be consistent more often and give it a few weeks of healthy, clean eating. You might want to make your diary public so we can have a look and make suggestions if needed. Keep trying, I'm 44 and suffered a bad knee injury last year and surgery this year and I am losing, so while it may be harder, it's not impossible.0
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Hi, what are your stats! Either on here or by mail, send me your:
Age
Height
Weight
Activity level (what you do on a daily basis work wise)
The amount of exercise and type you do each week
I will work out your TDEE for you and how much you should be eating.
SarahHi to whoever reads this...... I am really battling! What happens with me is I try to be really good for five days straight, stick to the 1500 calories that I am allowed and don't lose one single gram!!! I then get sooooo despondent and EAT!!! This pattern repeats itself week after week. Why am I not losing weight initially to help boost my confidence to stay on the healthy eating. I know it is stupid but it is a mental thing. My Mom, My sister, My friends all seem to lose weight so easily and I get so demotivated and then angry that I can't lose, self destructing. I have got 13kg's (28 lbs) to lose and in the past I have been able to lose weight. I will be 40 at the end of March and I would love to be able to lose the weight by then :sad: I really really need motivation please.......... Nobody thinks I can do it, especially ME0 -
Hi Sarah,
Age: 39
Height: 1.70cm
Weight: 172 pounds
Activity level: I work from 8:00am - 1:00pm behind a computer and then do +/- 2hours of tutoring (standing) I do exercise three times a week (dance, walking)
I would really appreciate your help Sarah, Thanks so much :-)0 -
Nobody thinks I can do it, especially ME
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This is your problem. You need to get your head round it and formulate a plan. Stick to that plan. Now that might be in the form of small goals, take one goal at a time and go for it! Don't try to do everything at once. Good luck!0 -
Hi flower,
Right, the exercise. How long do you do it for and for what intensity? It's just so I can work out your TDEE properly. I use a different formula to MFP but it seems to work.
No problem, don't mind helping!
SarahHi Sarah,
Age: 39
Height: 1.70cm
Weight: 172 pounds
Activity level: I work from 8:00am - 1:00pm behind a computer and then do +/- 2hours of tutoring (standing) I do exercise three times a week (dance, walking)
I would really appreciate your help Sarah, Thanks so much :-)0 -
My biggest thing has been to take any kind of time limit off myself. I am NOT on a diet (although I kinda am
), I'm being more healthy. I'm watching my calories and I'm upping my exercise. And at some point in the future - roundabout mid March 2013 - I will be smaller than I am now. That's about it. No crazy 'I must lose 14lbs in a month or else I am a failure!' nonsense going on round these parts.
When it takes us months and years to put on the weight why do we believe we're going to lose the weight in a fraction of the time? Because we want to? Well yeah, course we do but we can't argue with biology.....or chemistry......or whatever the hell processes it is that happens inside us. We can just have faith that we're doing the right things as often as we can.
Be gentle with yourself - that doesn't mean slack off with your feet up stuffing junk food in your mouth lol. It just means it's a long road and it when it doesn't happen overnight then it doesn't mean you are a failure, it means you need to keep on trucking.
Good luck, you know, you CAN do it 0 -
I think you can do it. I would suggest you share your diary and look at what you eat -- eat food that is filling and you'll struggle less.
It's also likely you will need to change your exercise to something more intense. While diet is the number one thing about weight loss, exercise will give you the headspace to eat more satiated.0 -
Hello!
Right, I've worked out your TDEE which is what you need to eat in order to maintain your current weight. I've also worked out your BMR and Activity LEVEL too.
I've used the Jillian Michaels formula which can be found here: http://www.jillianmichaels.com/fitness-and-diet-tips/determining-your-AMR
BMR - 1531
Actvity Level - 1.15 (I've put this between sedentary and lightly active since you stand for 2 hours a day as part of your job)
TDEE - 1959
My advice to you is, eat 10% lower than your TDEE, the most you should really eat below your TDEE is up to 20%. It depends on how quickly you want to get the weight off and, how determined you are as well as understanding how your body works. We're all different. If you're happy eating a bit less then, go for the 20% reduction but, personally, if it was me, I'd be sticking to the 10/15% mark, purely because I like my food.
10% reduction - 1763 calories
15% reduction - 1665 calories
20% reduction - 1567 calories
A lot of people think, to lose weight you have to eat hardly anything, it just doesn't work like that. I do a lot of exercise therefore I eat quite a bit and, in turn, eat a lot too. I am also 15lbs heavier than you too.
If you've been eating quite a bit under any of these figures then you may find an initial gain in the first 1-2 weeks, do not worry about this. It's important you start eating enough to fuel your body to get it through the day.
I'm not too sure what your diet is like but, aim to get your basics in, at least 5 fruit & veg a day, dairy, wholegrains and lean protein, along with good fats. Try and eliminate/reduce your stimulants, processed foods and alcohol intake too (this is just sugar).
If you've got any questions, give me a shout!
SarahHi Sarah,
Age: 39
Height: 1.70cm
Weight: 172 pounds
Activity level: I work from 8:00am - 1:00pm behind a computer and then do +/- 2hours of tutoring (standing) I do exercise three times a week (dance, walking)
I would really appreciate your help Sarah, Thanks so much :-)0 -
Last time I checked there are 7 days in a week, not 50
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Sometimes I am really good 5 days a week and then am bad for 2 days. I'm lucky if I don't GAIN weight, but I surely don't lose anything. The old cliche- consistency is key...0
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The dancing I do for 45mins 1 x a week, the walking is for 45mins 1 x a week and I do a step class for 45 mins 1 x a week.0
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Are you being 100% honest with yourself? 0
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How much are you sleeping?
Are you stressed?
Are you on any medication?
How close are you to menopause?
When did you last have a blood test done?
I'd say eat healthy for the other benefits (longer life, decreased chance of diabetes, heart disease, etc) and exercise for the mental benefits and not focus on the scale.0 -
My biggest thing has been to take any kind of time limit off myself. I am NOT on a diet (although I kinda am), I'm being more healthy. I'm watching my calories and I'm upping my exercise. And at some point in the future - roundabout mid March 2013 - I will be smaller than I am now. That's about it. No crazy 'I must lose 14lbs in a month or else I am a failure!' nonsense going on round these parts.
When it takes us months and years to put on the weight why do we believe we're going to lose the weight in a fraction of the time? Because we want to? Well yeah, course we do but we can't argue with biology.....or chemistry......or whatever the hell processes it is that happens inside us. We can just have faith that we're doing the right things as often as we can.
Be gentle with yourself - that doesn't mean slack off with your feet up stuffing junk food in your mouth lol. It just means it's a long road and it when it doesn't happen overnight then it doesn't mean you are a failure, it means you need to keep on trucking.
Good luck, you know, you CAN do it
Shoo, what a lovely message, Thank You :flowerforyou:0 -
Perhaps just weigh yourself once a month as it seems that the scale is triggering binges? X0
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Are you being 100% honest with yourself?
I guess not, No...... but I think I have got that now Perhaps just expecting too much too soon0 -
I'll rejig your calculations now....The dancing I do for 45mins 1 x a week, the walking is for 45mins 1 x a week and I do a step class for 45 mins 1 x a week.0
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You can't expect miracles in 5 days! You need to give it AT LEAST a full week, probably 2 to see a difference. Your 2 day binges are undoing any good work those 5 good days are doing and keeping your weight stable, without those good days you'd be gaining.
The weight didn't go on in 5 days, it's not going to come off in 5 days.0 -
I would suggest you try paleo diet. It's more a lifestyle change and has helped a lot of people that were not able to loose weight previously. As it is hormone and insulin-regulating, it really helps to repair problems with the metabolism even when your getting older. Maybe try to do a whole30 (30 days without any sugar or processed foods), works wonders for many people.
Best of luck!!!0 -
I was doing pretty good on my diet and exercising, and the scale did not budge for 3 weeks. I kept at it and dropped 2 pounds this week. You are going to have to be more stubborn that the scale.0
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Not trying to knock your efforts or anything
But I find that when I am not honest with myself, and maybe "forget to log, or underestimate the calories" and maybe over estimate the fitness the weight dowsn;t move
All too easy to stcik in 500 calory burn and a two pieece of cucumber between lettuce for lunch and getting the well dones, great jobs and high five from everyone here
But the mirror, scales and wasitline don;t lie0 -
i am completely with you, i stick to 1200 or below and i never move in fact i tend to lose a pound then gain a pound. i am getting really disheatened as well.
if you find something that works please let me know
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First, don't get discouraged, get determined. I can't see your diet and activity log, but it is possible that you are sabotaging yourself. Especially on the two days that you go off plan. I'm in my mid 40's and I can tell you it is definitely harder to get the scale to budge as I get older. But, I have begun looking at getting fit in a whole new way. The scale is one piece of it. More importantly I want to be fit, healthy and strong. Being consistent with exercising, really challenging myself every day is a win. I'm focusing on making healthy choices every day that I can live with. Use MFP, log everything you eat and drink, drink lots of water, and move your body every day. It will help jumpstart your metabolism so you can get the results you want.0
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Some good advice on calorie intake, but really, you've got to start thinking longer term. Stop thinking about it in terms of days, and grammes. Losing fat takes time, especially as you get older. Try to work out a way of eating and lifestyle that doesn't feel too restrictive, but feels like something you could continue forever, even if you weren't trying to lose weight. If your diet isn't too restrictive, then you'll be less likely to want to "cheat" or "fall off the wagon". Accept that you might not see changes in a week, and just carry on. Weight loss isn't linear. I can sometimes not lose anything for a couple of weeks and then all of a sudden drop two or three of pounds overnight (which is quite a lot now at my weight.)
There are no quick fixes to weight loss, you've got to put in effort somewhere along the line, and then be consistent. Nearly everyone that loses any significant amount of weight has moments where they feel frustrated and wonder if it's worth it. What makes them successful in the end is that they don't give up.
If weighing yourself is getting you down then why don't you leave it a few weeks before your first weigh in? Make sure you take measurements and photos too, so you can track your progress better.0 -
Hi Sarah,
When you say really good 5 days a week but bad for 2 , how bad is bad? If your only eating a chocolate bar and a glass of wine you could factor that into your allowance at a weekend and still lose weight, however if your eating takeaways and chocolate and bottle of wine then thats what will either gain the weight or make you stay the same.
Im speaking from experience when i say that being good 5 days and (in my case) stuffing for 2 will only serve to undo whatever good work you did in the first five days! Im trying now to spread out my treats through the week otherwise I find that I reign myself in too much then when i do have something naughty at the weekend it quickly turns into a binge fest!
Im just starting out on this website but feel free to add me am happy to offer support, together we can get to our goals im about to make my food diary public as well as at the moment ive kept it private but now im fully committed (and am not having secret binges) i feel confident to open myself up to criticism!
Im following a low calorie diet but am using slimming world as a rule of thumb, as i did that before and it worked very well for me, im trying my best to stick to the protein days as the easiest weight loss I ever had was when i followed the dukan diet (a less fatty version of atkins) Yesterday I ate under my calorie allowance but felt too full to eat another bean! Today I may go over, but I know what im eating is all home cooked healthy meals with no added fat so if i go over a little im no too fussed. Its the not beating yourself up about things that really counts when were trying to lose weight, after all were only human and chocolate tastes good!! 0 -
Some good advice on calorie intake, but really, you've got to start thinking longer term. Stop thinking about it in terms of days, and grammes. Losing fat takes time, especially as you get older. Try to work out a way of eating and lifestyle that doesn't feel too restrictive, but feels like something you could continue forever, even if you weren't trying to lose weight. If your diet isn't too restrictive, then you'll be less likely to want to "cheat" or "fall off the wagon". Accept that you might not see changes in a week, and just carry on. Weight loss isn't linear. I can sometimes not lose anything for a couple of weeks and then all of a sudden drop two or three of pounds overnight (which is quite a lot now at my weight.)
There are no quick fixes to weight loss, you've got to put in effort somewhere along the line, and then be consistent. Nearly everyone that loses any significant amount of weight has moments where they feel frustrated and wonder if it's worth it. What makes them successful in the end is that they don't give up.
If weighing yourself is getting you down then why don't you leave it a few weeks before your first weigh in? Make sure you take measurements and photos too, so you can track your progress better.
^^^ this is what i am going to remember mine is very slow i got down for my wedding then it slowly came back finding it hard now but dont weigh very often not worth the sadness not seeing any change but must carry on i can do this and will0 -
To lose 1 lbs of fat, you need to burn 3500 calories. So basically you need to consume 500 calories a day less than you burn.
So if you are maintaining a 1500 calorie intake per day, then you need to be doing a min of 30-45 mins exercise a day too.
I was 278lbs before Easter, when I decided to change my life style and eating. I lost 14 lbs in 2 months, but not doing much exercise. I decided to join a Gym and go every weekday lunchtime and do a min of 30 mins cardio, either running or x-trainer.
I now tip the scales at 225lbs, so I've nearly lost 4 stone (3 of which I've lost in 3 months since joining the gym).
It really isnt hard as long as you do some excercise every day. Even going for a 30 minute walk at night would help you.
Good luck0
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