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    Posts: 38 Member
    edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
    Ie: saying she/he is out of my league. why isn't everyone accessible to everyone?

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    • Posts: 2,067 Member
      Lol i was joking relax
    • Posts: 38 Member
      I wasn't posting in reply to your post, it's just it goes on a lot people put themselves down because they don't think they have a chance with someone and then settle for someone they think are "in their league"
    • Posts: 481 Member
      My guess is they're either insecure or think too highly of themselves.

      If they're insecure, they'll feel they don't deserve someone because they're not attractive enough, smart enough, etc. So they settle for less.

      If they're full of themselves, they'll likely have trouble finding anyone who meets their standards because they set them so high. They feel they are God's gift to the world and only their perfect imaginary match is worthy of them.


      But for normal people who aren't crazy....I don't see the whole league thing in real life. That's something I stopped hearing about after high school.
    • Posts: 311
      i dont know.

      i feel like i am average. i am not ugly, there are more beautiful girls then me. i feel like that "super hot opposite gender" wants to be with someone that looks good like they do.
    • Posts: 2,067 Member
      Insecurity and rejection and low self esteem plays a big part in that...or the reverse for people too confident. People just need to be more openminded
    • Posts: 38 Member
      It's all psychological boundaries people put on themselves it seams. I hear it a lot around friends, people who class themselves as geeks won't make moves on girls/boys they don't have a chance with, I just don't understand as I've never seen things that way. I was bullied at school for being overweight, I didn't think I was as Goodlooking as some of the guys at school but it didn't stop me from going out and having a go at getting the girl I wanted
    • Posts: 38 Member
      Karaw I would say your above average in my eyes, very pretty
    • Posts: 311
      Karaw I would say your above average in my eyes, very pretty

      well thank you :)
      day to day basis, though im pretty average. im dressed up in this picture
    • Posts: 1,650 Member
      If you believe you are out of someones league- your retarded.
    • Posts: 1,090
      Is it the American League or National League? That makes a huge difference!

      Oh sorry...I though this was baseball talk?
    • Posts: 1,927 Member
      The only time I think such things is when a skeezy man twice my age yells obsenities on the street. And even then it's more about the classlessness than anything.

      I don't think there are leagues, unless someone is super shallow, an awesome personality >>>>>an awesome bod+face
    • Posts: 157
      When I was in high school (and most of college, actually), I played into the "out of my league" thoughts ... Looking back though I think that I just lacked confidence in those areas.

      Looking back there were a lot of girls who would flirt with me, but I brushed all of it off as "they're just being nice." it wasn't until college where it began to click (with the help of friends who would point things out to me)

      Now more than ever I have bought in to the thought that I can get and deserve the best (really not trying to sound arrogant, just realizing my own great traits). :)
    • Posts: 355 Member
      my philosophy- she may be out of my league, but that dont mean i cant get it.
    • Posts: 457 Member
      The only time I think such things is when a skeezy man twice my age yells obsenities on the street. And even then it's more about the classlessness than anything.

      This.
    • Posts: 311
      i agree with lacking confidence in those areas.

      a past of being told i was ugly, fat and cant do anything right will do that to you i guess. since leaving that situation, my confidence in myself continues to grow.
    • Posts: 1,927 Member
      When I was in high school (and most of college, actually), I played into the "out of my league" thoughts ... Looking back though I think that I just lacked confidence in those areas.

      Looking back there were a lot of girls who would flirt with me, but I brushed all of it off as "they're just being nice." it wasn't until college where it began to click (with the help of friends who would point things out to me)

      Now more than ever I have bought in to the thought that I can get and deserve the best (really not trying to sound arrogant, just realizing my own great traits). :)

      So then do you believe all but the most amazing women are out of their league if they approach you?
    • Posts: 194 Member
      Wait....we have leagues now? When the heck did we pick teams? How come I always get picked last?? I'm taking my ball and going home. :sad:
    • Posts: 2,067 Member
      Getting the best doesnt always necessarily mean best looking ... best personality... best attitude and the most respectable always is good to aim for too
    • Posts: 12
      Ie: saying she/he is out of my league. why isn't everyone accessible to everyone?

      I agree. Why do guys reject girls just because they are overweight ...
    • Posts: 1,027 Member
      I'm in a league of my own. Deal with it!
    • Posts: 4,251 Member
      If you believe you are out of someones league- your retarded.

      I think I love you.
      THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS
    • Posts: 233 Member
      show previous quotes

      I agree. Why do guys reject girls just because they are overweight ...


      not all guys reject girls who are overweight
    • Posts: 1,907 Member
      Welcome to the human race. We sort and classify everything. People especially.
    • Posts: 999 Member
      When I was in high school (and most of college, actually), I played into the "out of my league" thoughts ... Looking back though I think that I just lacked confidence in those areas.

      Looking back there were a lot of girls who would flirt with me, but I brushed all of it off as "they're just being nice." it wasn't until college where it began to click (with the help of friends who would point things out to me)

      Now more than ever I have bought in to the thought that I can get and deserve the best (really not trying to sound arrogant, just realizing my own great traits). :)

      "great traits"... now if by that you mean the abs in that picture, i'd say yeah... those count! :wink: (and i'm a happily married woman)
    • Posts: 966 Member
      Because just because someone can play t-ball doesn't mean they're MLB ready.
    • Posts: 1,103 Member
      I think I am out of certain peoples' leagues. I may get a lot of flak for saying this, but if a guy doesn't take care of himself, eats like crap, never works out, doesn't care to dress well, doesn't shave/shower regularly, his apartment is a dump, never does his own laundry/washes his sheets, has had the same dead end job for four years, isn't in school and plays video games all day...

      then I am COMPLETELY out of his league.

      I want a man who leads a lifestyle similar to mine, or it'll never work.
    • Posts: 311
      Welcome to the human race. We sort and classify everything. People especially.


      exactly
    • Posts: 3,677 Member
      People like to think in terms of superiority and hierarchy.

      But realistically, being in someone's league is more about living the kind of life that would mesh well with theirs.

      IE: fit people want to be with people who value and support their dedication for fitness. Geeks want to be with people who value and enjoy their geekiness. Not that those are necessarily opposites, but just as an example.
    • Posts: 1,650 Member
      I think I am out of certain peoples' leagues. I may get a lot of flak for saying this, but if a guy doesn't take care of himself, eats like crap, never works out, doesn't care to dress well, doesn't shave/shower regularly, his apartment is a dump, never does his own laundry/washes his sheets, has had the same dead end job for four years, isn't in school and plays video games all day...

      then I am COMPLETELY out of his league.

      I want a man who leads a lifestyle similar to mine, or it'll never work.

      I wonder whats wrong with you:huh: , I mean I totally get what your saying, you dont want a loser...ok, but I wonder what list your ex could come up with or some one youve known that would have a laundry list about you. and consider you beneath them
      Im just saying.:smokin:
    • Posts: 279 Member
      i will stop thinking married women are out of my league
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