Why do people class themselves in leagues?

deejayblitz
deejayblitz Posts: 38 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
Ie: saying she/he is out of my league. why isn't everyone accessible to everyone?
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  • shoppingmaniac86
    shoppingmaniac86 Posts: 2,067 Member
    Lol i was joking relax
  • deejayblitz
    deejayblitz Posts: 38 Member
    I wasn't posting in reply to your post, it's just it goes on a lot people put themselves down because they don't think they have a chance with someone and then settle for someone they think are "in their league"
  • know_your_worth
    know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
    My guess is they're either insecure or think too highly of themselves.

    If they're insecure, they'll feel they don't deserve someone because they're not attractive enough, smart enough, etc. So they settle for less.

    If they're full of themselves, they'll likely have trouble finding anyone who meets their standards because they set them so high. They feel they are God's gift to the world and only their perfect imaginary match is worthy of them.


    But for normal people who aren't crazy....I don't see the whole league thing in real life. That's something I stopped hearing about after high school.
  • karawRN
    karawRN Posts: 311
    i dont know.

    i feel like i am average. i am not ugly, there are more beautiful girls then me. i feel like that "super hot opposite gender" wants to be with someone that looks good like they do.
  • shoppingmaniac86
    shoppingmaniac86 Posts: 2,067 Member
    Insecurity and rejection and low self esteem plays a big part in that...or the reverse for people too confident. People just need to be more openminded
  • deejayblitz
    deejayblitz Posts: 38 Member
    It's all psychological boundaries people put on themselves it seams. I hear it a lot around friends, people who class themselves as geeks won't make moves on girls/boys they don't have a chance with, I just don't understand as I've never seen things that way. I was bullied at school for being overweight, I didn't think I was as Goodlooking as some of the guys at school but it didn't stop me from going out and having a go at getting the girl I wanted
  • deejayblitz
    deejayblitz Posts: 38 Member
    Karaw I would say your above average in my eyes, very pretty
  • karawRN
    karawRN Posts: 311
    Karaw I would say your above average in my eyes, very pretty

    well thank you :)
    day to day basis, though im pretty average. im dressed up in this picture
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    If you believe you are out of someones league- your retarded.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    Is it the American League or National League? That makes a huge difference!

    Oh sorry...I though this was baseball talk?
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    The only time I think such things is when a skeezy man twice my age yells obsenities on the street. And even then it's more about the classlessness than anything.

    I don't think there are leagues, unless someone is super shallow, an awesome personality >>>>>an awesome bod+face
  • Nickf887
    Nickf887 Posts: 157
    When I was in high school (and most of college, actually), I played into the "out of my league" thoughts ... Looking back though I think that I just lacked confidence in those areas.

    Looking back there were a lot of girls who would flirt with me, but I brushed all of it off as "they're just being nice." it wasn't until college where it began to click (with the help of friends who would point things out to me)

    Now more than ever I have bought in to the thought that I can get and deserve the best (really not trying to sound arrogant, just realizing my own great traits). :)
  • joecollins9385
    joecollins9385 Posts: 355 Member
    my philosophy- she may be out of my league, but that dont mean i cant get it.
  • crimsoncat
    crimsoncat Posts: 457 Member
    The only time I think such things is when a skeezy man twice my age yells obsenities on the street. And even then it's more about the classlessness than anything.

    This.
  • karawRN
    karawRN Posts: 311
    i agree with lacking confidence in those areas.

    a past of being told i was ugly, fat and cant do anything right will do that to you i guess. since leaving that situation, my confidence in myself continues to grow.
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    When I was in high school (and most of college, actually), I played into the "out of my league" thoughts ... Looking back though I think that I just lacked confidence in those areas.

    Looking back there were a lot of girls who would flirt with me, but I brushed all of it off as "they're just being nice." it wasn't until college where it began to click (with the help of friends who would point things out to me)

    Now more than ever I have bought in to the thought that I can get and deserve the best (really not trying to sound arrogant, just realizing my own great traits). :)

    So then do you believe all but the most amazing women are out of their league if they approach you?
  • dsmboy1991
    dsmboy1991 Posts: 194 Member
    Wait....we have leagues now? When the heck did we pick teams? How come I always get picked last?? I'm taking my ball and going home. :sad:
  • shoppingmaniac86
    shoppingmaniac86 Posts: 2,067 Member
    Getting the best doesnt always necessarily mean best looking ... best personality... best attitude and the most respectable always is good to aim for too
  • mschichi26
    mschichi26 Posts: 12
    Ie: saying she/he is out of my league. why isn't everyone accessible to everyone?

    I agree. Why do guys reject girls just because they are overweight ...
  • Bakkasan
    Bakkasan Posts: 1,027 Member
    I'm in a league of my own. Deal with it!
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    If you believe you are out of someones league- your retarded.

    I think I love you.
    THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS
  • PilotX
    PilotX Posts: 233 Member
    Ie: saying she/he is out of my league. why isn't everyone accessible to everyone?

    I agree. Why do guys reject girls just because they are overweight ...


    not all guys reject girls who are overweight
  • TheRealParisLove
    TheRealParisLove Posts: 1,907 Member
    Welcome to the human race. We sort and classify everything. People especially.
  • j_courter
    j_courter Posts: 999 Member
    When I was in high school (and most of college, actually), I played into the "out of my league" thoughts ... Looking back though I think that I just lacked confidence in those areas.

    Looking back there were a lot of girls who would flirt with me, but I brushed all of it off as "they're just being nice." it wasn't until college where it began to click (with the help of friends who would point things out to me)

    Now more than ever I have bought in to the thought that I can get and deserve the best (really not trying to sound arrogant, just realizing my own great traits). :)

    "great traits"... now if by that you mean the abs in that picture, i'd say yeah... those count! :wink: (and i'm a happily married woman)
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    Because just because someone can play t-ball doesn't mean they're MLB ready.
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    I think I am out of certain peoples' leagues. I may get a lot of flak for saying this, but if a guy doesn't take care of himself, eats like crap, never works out, doesn't care to dress well, doesn't shave/shower regularly, his apartment is a dump, never does his own laundry/washes his sheets, has had the same dead end job for four years, isn't in school and plays video games all day...

    then I am COMPLETELY out of his league.

    I want a man who leads a lifestyle similar to mine, or it'll never work.
  • karawRN
    karawRN Posts: 311
    Welcome to the human race. We sort and classify everything. People especially.


    exactly
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    People like to think in terms of superiority and hierarchy.

    But realistically, being in someone's league is more about living the kind of life that would mesh well with theirs.

    IE: fit people want to be with people who value and support their dedication for fitness. Geeks want to be with people who value and enjoy their geekiness. Not that those are necessarily opposites, but just as an example.
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    I think I am out of certain peoples' leagues. I may get a lot of flak for saying this, but if a guy doesn't take care of himself, eats like crap, never works out, doesn't care to dress well, doesn't shave/shower regularly, his apartment is a dump, never does his own laundry/washes his sheets, has had the same dead end job for four years, isn't in school and plays video games all day...

    then I am COMPLETELY out of his league.

    I want a man who leads a lifestyle similar to mine, or it'll never work.

    I wonder whats wrong with you:huh: , I mean I totally get what your saying, you dont want a loser...ok, but I wonder what list your ex could come up with or some one youve known that would have a laundry list about you. and consider you beneath them
    Im just saying.:smokin:
  • 1996gtstang
    1996gtstang Posts: 279 Member
    i will stop thinking married women are out of my league
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