Being careful with how I present my weight loss. (Kids)

I have three daughters, I understand your concern here. I do not make a focus out of my weight loss, I make the focus on being healthy. We discuss eating healthy foods and exercise and how it benefits us by making us strong and able to run fast etc.

With my own daughters, I also saw that they were picking up on my negative view of my weight a few years ago. That's when I shifted my focus from numbers to health.
We eat healthy foods because we want to take good care of our bodies. We exercise because we want to take good care of our bodies. We also do these things because they make us feel better, and we enjoy our lives more when we feel better.
I made a vow that my kids will never see me in front of the mirror obsessing over how big my butt is or worrying about what size jeans I will fit into or putting myself down for not looking like the media's version of perfect. Instead, they will see me setting goals and working toward them--like trying to reach 100 consecutive pushups, working towards my black belt, trying to make this the healthiest, happiest pregnancy I've ever had. They also see their daddy training for races--last year he started with a 5K, this year, he will run a 10K, after that he will work on half marathons and marathons.
And they follow this lead. My 11yo is running her first 5K this fall. They compete against each other doing pushups and planks. They ask how many grams of protein are in their snacks. I can live with that.

my hubby and I are trying to be "healthy". Our 2 older boys(almost 7 & almost 9) have seen commercials about which food has no calories or is low fat and have overheard us talk about lower calorie foods. They have been known to fret about what food is better b/c it has no calories, etc. We are beyond worried b/c they are both skinny butts. We continue to say that they need as much nutrition as they can eat, but I don't know if it's sinking in or not.

My children are still little (5 and 3). My daughter is 3 and has Down Syndrome. They are known to possibly be overweight. She doesn't understand it yet, but, I already talk about "Eating Healthy" and I offer her healthy foods.
They do get an occassional cookie, but, I get so happy when they choose fruit over french fries (esp. my son).
I don't talk about numbers or pant sizes. Just try to talk about "It's good for you. It will make you big and strong and healthy".

I believe it was a a WW meeting where I heard, you have to eat in order to lose, so, there is truth to that statement.

I have a 6-year-old daughter who is at a perfect body weight and who is fairly active.

I have never been one to obsess out loud to others about being "too fat." Generally, people who ARE too fat don't want to bring attention to themselves by asking others about it. Negative self-talk about weight is much more likely to come from thin, insecure people who constantly seek positive affirmations from others about whether they are "thin enough," or from thin people who make judgemental remarks about other people's bodies. The best thing you can do to help young girls have a positive body image is to not judge or criticize the shape and size of others' bodies.

With that being said, my daughter and I talk a lot about the health aspects of eating healthy, being active and avoiding weight gain. We have had conversations about how and why your body stores fat, and why having too much fat isn't healthy. I never, ever, ever condemn myself or others for being fat. We talk about what foods are healthy and why they are healthy. Having no calories does not make a food healthy. We also discuss that there are no "bad" foods, but there are foods that are high in calories and have little nutritional value, so we need to eat these in moderation and not as staples of our diet.

We discuss activity the same way. I would never encourage her to "work out" so she can be skinny. I do sign her up for activities (pom & cheer, swim lessons, basketball), so she can be active. We also try to do fun activities like riding her bike or swimming at the Y on weekends. I teach her that it is more about having a healthy lifestyle that includes activities, and that things like video games and computer time are to be done in moderation like some of the foods we eat less often.

Teach your kids about how their bodies work, why our bodies store fat, how we need food for fuel, growth and energy, why we need ample sleep, and help them find activities that are fun and make them feel proud. Stop obsessing about the appearance of your body and the size and shape of others' bodies.