lost all faith is support groups

Don't allow anyone to ruin your journey to a healthier you! You don't know any of the people on here other than communicating via postings. You are stronger than that!! Keep on moving forward and forget about it! In life, you will have MANY people who disagree with you but that doesn't mean the death of you! Keep on keeping on!! Don't let anyone run you off!!!

people are not always good to you or sometimes circumstances are not that good................ignore negativity always........throw bad things away and have a good smile on your face

Just don't add them as friends, lol.
The forums can be a cruel mistress indeed. You can get jumped on for anything. Why not just take it as a lesson learned and go about your day without it being ruined by some interwebs people

It's true that not everyone here is nice. There are some downright nasty people here, and then there are some that aren't really mean, but their words don't often come across as friendly. But at the end of the day, we're all responsible for our own feelings and for the way we react to other people. So you can choose to let these people discourage you, and leave the site because you don't want to be exposed to negativity. Or, you can choose to see MFP for what it is: a group of people with disparate personalities, and sometimes those personalities don't mesh, and that's ok. It's really up to you. If you do choose to leave, that's nobody else's fault. And if you choose to say, that's not because of anyone else either. You're in control of your reaction.

Well, on behave of all nice and supportive ppl on MFP, im apologize for the idiots. There are some good ppl here.

I'm sorry you had that experience. I, too, have noticed some members that are "less than supportive." I know of some members who don't use the boards at all, but just use the diary, tools, etc. Best wishes to you.

Don't give up!! There are always people who think their OPINIONS are the facts and that anyone else who tries to suggest a different idea is wrong. Don't let them get to you. I agree with miltongurl05, I've had great support from my friends group. Feel free to add me if you like. :-)

For reference, it wasn't that people were rude. They didn't agree with her opinion, so they gave their own. They did nothing wrong, but she didn't like that people then offer her some advice instead against her own ironic thread. That was all. Shame she took it that way. Have a look here:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/751602-don-t-drink-your-calories

For reference, it wasn't that people were rude. They didn't agree with her opinion, so they gave their own. They did nothing wrong, but she didn't like that people then offer her some advice instead against her own ironic thread. That was all. Shame she took it that way. Have a look here:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/751602-don-t-drink-your-calories

Yeah, I read that thread earlier too, the OP sounded harsh and condescending in that thread, using all caps, which is well known in the world of the internet to indicate shouting or sarcasm. The term "duh" was used and then if people differed from the OP's opinion, they were attacked by the OP using the "Freedom of Speech" card.

The OP had a bad experience because they came off extremely rude in the first place, which was met with rude responses. It's a shame it had to end that way, but this post about how they have "lost all faith" in support groups is extremely dramatic, and I get the feeling had the OP stayed there would have been a bit more drama on the boards.

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I looked at the thread it looks like people were just giving their opinion and she yelled at them for it.

I looked at the thread it looks like people were just giving their opinion and she yelled at them for it.

That's how I saw it too. She started out with a pushy post, someone responded with a thoughtful and respectful disagreement, and she started screaming about free speech and how everyone else but that person agrees with her. Of course, the thread predictably devolved after that.

I looked at the thread it looks like people were just giving their opinion and she yelled at them for it.

That's how I saw it too. She started out with a pushy post, someone responded with a thoughtful and respectful disagreement, and she started screaming about free speech and how everyone else but that person agrees with her. Of course, the thread predictably devolved after that.

Actually, it seems like the first response to her may have been deleted. She goes from dictatorial soapbox to extremely defensive in back-to-back posts, but something seems to be missing in between.

Ah, you're right. At least some posts have been deleted. I see that one from the OP (quoted by several people elsewhere in the thread) is no longer there. Must be the moderators? If there's a way to completely remove your own posts, I don't know about it.

I have noticed that most people who reply with a negative comment are people who have already lost their weight and are now transformed into "know it all" snobs.

i was just going to say the same thing! its a shame they ran her off.

If you read the thread in question you'd see that no one ran her off. She posted a strongly opinionated rant about other peoples dietary habits while netting about 700 cal per day herself and then took umbrage when called out on it.

I belong to a number of different on-line communities and trust me, even the "meanies" here are gentle by comparison. (Just for fun go to a scuba forum and brag about diving to 240fsw on air - make sure you're wearing your asbestos underwear! :laugh: ) Around here it seems that someone disagreeing with you is considered bullying. :huh:

For reference, it wasn't that people were rude. They didn't agree with her opinion, so they gave their own. They did nothing wrong, but she didn't like that people then offer her some advice instead against her own ironic thread. That was all. Shame she took it that way. Have a look here:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/751602-don-t-drink-your-calories

Yeah, I read that thread earlier too, the OP sounded harsh and condescending in that thread, using all caps, which is well known in the world of the internet to indicate shouting or sarcasm. The term "duh" was used and then if people differed from the OP's opinion, they were attacked by the OP using the "Freedom of Speech" card.

The OP had a bad experience because they came off extremely rude in the first place, which was met with rude responses. It's a shame it had to end that way, but this post about how they have "lost all faith" in support groups is extremely dramatic, and I get the feeling had the OP stayed there would have been a bit more drama on the boards.

I love the internet

Thanks for providing the link. Many people WERE supportive of the OP, even though she was so aggressive with her opinion. There's a way to post to share what's working for you to try to help others, but there's a way to post that just offends people. I don't agree with how most people on MFP are eating and I do share my opinions (mostly when it's invited); however, it doesn't make sense to post aggressively/condescendingly and then not expect people to react in a similar fashion.

I love MFP. Even though many people don't understand my dietary choices, so be it. It is supportive here for the most part, but sometimes I notice that if I spend too much time in the forums it can be too much. So just take a break or stick to like-minded groups. Stop taking things personally.

I feel ya, OP.