Ladies would you..? men what would you do..?

FitBeto · September 2012

I wouldn't do it personally. I mean its kind of the guys thing to do - and if someone were to propose to me I'd feel like i didnt do what a dude should do to start a marriage. Its old fashioned, but also if i was asked and I wasn't ready (or was) I may just blurt out no lol. Also being with someone for a long time doesn't mean you love them (imo). IMO its way way different to date someone then to live with someone. If you cant move to be with each other then I guess you will do the same thing once you're married? I suggest living together first - considering the divorce rate in this day and age. But hey I'm a sore sport when it comes to love..

guapogringo · September 2012

i must be the only one crazy enough to do this then

What are you going to propose with? I would consider it if you came to me with a Rolex Deep Sea. :happy:

Determinednoob · September 2012

A) If you propose to me, I will accept

I will not mean it when I accept

C) The only reason you guys broke up is cause no one can find a job near the other? Why would you give up? Can you not both live togethe ron the salaray of one while the other does ANYTHING to get a few extra whatever it is you spend there until something better could be found?

gingerjen7 · September 2012

If you love him and you want to be with him, go for it.

As to whether or not I'd ever propose, no. But that's because I see no reason to ever get married.

cheerforsteelers · September 2012

I doubt I would propose, but I would do everything possible to be with the man I love even if it means leaving behind everything familiar and comfortable.

lmh8785 · September 2012

I proposed to my husband. I'm glad I did. I had 8 wonderful years and 2 kids with him before he passed away.

Anomalia · September 2012

I would not propose to a man but I don't think that means any other woman shouldn't. I also would put my relationship before my job. What good is the money you make from your job if you don't get to enjoy it with the person you love.

sugarlips1980 · September 2012

Yes do it! He's proposed to you in the past, so it's more like your acceptance of his proposal! A career is very important BUT... It doesn't keep you warm at night! In the end your career will matter much less than the partner you settle down with and maybe create a family with. Don't know what the answer is living/working arrangements wise, but if you decide to make it work you'll find a way! Good luck!

bulbadoof · September 2012

I'm kind of on the fence about the idea. I have this idea in my head of how I want my engagement to come about, and in that scenario he's proposing. However, if I really felt that we were highly compatible, that I didn't want to miss the opportunity, and that he wasn't asking for reasons other than not wanting to get married (for example, if he's super shy or wants to save up for a big wedding or is going through something family-related that he doesn't want to drag me into), I would do it without a second thought.

natalie412 · September 2012

Very thoughtful and insiteful response, Steph. Of course the OP said he had proposed to her before. I do think you should not propose, but you should maybe try to move near each other, and go from there.