Vacation drop out...am I wrong?

pay the difference, send her a post card and D list her.

I would hope that she would offer something.. but the odds of her paying for everyone aren't very good. Like someone else mentioned, mayber there is something going on and she couldn't afford it, or there is something going on that she doesn't want to share with anyone. I would just cover my extra charges and move on.. and would not invite her along on another trip like that again. Unless she would try to explain it all to you later and make up for it somehow. It sucks, but try not to let it ruin your vacation.

That is what happens when you go away with other people.. they can let you down, that is life.

If you dont want to fall out with her, let it go. or try to meet up with her. have a level head discussion about it.

If she flew off the handle calling names and the likes she may be stressed about something you dont know about.

She's a single girl with no children and lives with her mom so $130 isn't much to her. But to the rest of us, who all have children and a mortgage, car payment, etc. $130 is alot.

1 - Unless you have exclusive access to her bank accounts/income you have NO IDEA what she may be paying for. It's unfair of you to assume that because she's living at home and with no children that she has money to throw around.

I totally agree with this. You don't know what her situation is or how much expendable income she has. I had a lot less available to me when I was single than I do now that I am married because there are at least two incomes and savings that I have access to. For all you know, she may be loading all of her available income into paying off debt, or saving for her own place, or she may be blowing it on partying because she doesn't feel like she has to save it. When I was single, I didn't have savings and was lucky to make it to payday without overdrawing each and every time.

Now, it is totally not cool of her to make the commitment and back out (all future invites revoked), but perhaps she thought she would be able to save up the money to go? If she doesn't have the money to go, she probably doesn't have the money to take care of the difference.

I'm pretty close with her and know she doesn't have many bills. She has a drinking problem for sure. But she did tell us that she definitely has the money saved because she was going to go but has changed her mind.

Oh and she definitely won't be going on any more trips

If that is the case and she had the money all saved up but just decided not to go, I would ask her to pay the difference but not expect it because she sounds pretty flaky to back out on a trip she had money already saved up for 2 weeks before the trip.

I'm pretty close with her and know she doesn't have many bills. She has a drinking problem for sure. But she did tell us that she definitely has the money saved because she was going to go but has changed her mind.

Oh and she definitely won't be going on any more trips

Well.. you may have dodged a bullet then.. I'd rather fork over an additional $130 than spend a week or so with someone with a drinking problem. That gets really old.. really fast! Still, it sucks that she stuck you guys like this.

Should she pay? I think she has a moral obligation to pay or repay some how for dropping out so close, but you cannot be forced to pay based on moral principle, next group trip, contract, stipulate cancellation fee if it gets so close.

Though its not the same as lending money my grandfather told me; never, never lend any money $5, $10 or more to anyone that is friend that you wont be able to overlook if they don't pay you back. If they don't pay and you get upset or take them to court it will ruin your friendship. In the end it is just money, more is printed every day.

I think she should pay, and I'd shun her as a friend. She effed up. That to me shows a lack of respect and maturity especially if she feels she has not done anything wrong.

Sounds like you should have been on top of her payments long ago, seeing as she ONLY paid the deposit and nothing more.

Sounds like a sit down conversation is in order, with her-not with strangers on the internet.

Why should I have had to babysit her payments? We booked through a travel agent and everyone was logging in to make their own payments.

And as for the sit down conversation, already tried...got us no where but arguments. I'm just here for opinions because I'm not sure how to feel about this situation.

Well, you really have few options. You're going to have to grin and bear it or cut her out of your life. She really has no legal obligation to pay unless you all signed a contract, her obligation is moral. Should she pay? Absolutely. But she has no legal basis for payment.

She's a single girl with no children and lives with her mom so $130 isn't much to her. But to the rest of us, who all have children and a mortgage, car payment, etc. $130 is alot.

1 - Unless you have exclusive access to her bank accounts/income you have NO IDEA what she may be paying for. It's unfair of you to assume that because she's living at home and with no children that she has money to throw around.

2 - This is a issue that arises with group trips. I would fork over the $130 additional and I wouldn't be seeking another trip with her. Unless she has a very good excuse (IE: I'm in the hospital, my mother is in the hospital etc), then I wouldn't plan another trip with her.

shes right, ^^

Agreed - I hate when people make assumptions about other people's circumstances - plus is it $130 total? Or $130 per person. With 4 of you, at $130 per person, you're tell her to cough over $520? You can't handle an extra $130 for a vacation you are going on and you expect your friend to pay $520 for one she's NOT going on? i do think that's unreasonable. I agree with the other poster who commented that the deposit is what she loses for backing out - and maybe she loses friends - that's up to her. But this is why you should never book travel where your pricing is dependent on someone else's behavior/decisions.

ETA: I saw the OP's update about how she knows this girl REALLY well, and isn't just making assumptions about her funds - but people lie, people pass themselves off as better off financially than they are, every day. She might have been saying she had the money - but it's possible she just doesn't. If this is a friend worth having - then I think you let it go. If it's not, then you aren't going to get anywhere with her anyway, so let her go.