Thinking of taking a break

urso99
urso99 Posts: 37 Member
edited September 20 in Health and Weight Loss
From counting cals that is. I am stressing myself out. I have been doing great staying in my limits since Jan 7, exercising almost everyday, eating most exercise cals, cut out alcohol, and I I lose 1/2 lb one day, up 1 lb the next. My inches aren't moving either.

I know it says I lost 10 lbs, but really it is more like 4. Six pounds was water weight and lost in the first week of Jan. Its so frustrating. I have been monitoring my macro's, weighing both morn and night to see if certain foods are causing weight gain or weight loss, I wear a HRM when I exercise, try to hit 60-70 % MHR, and exercise 5-6 times a week either doing intervals on the treadmill, or recumbant bike and weight lifting. Heck, I ran 2 miles for the fist time ever last week! I am running now, when before when Iost weight yrs ago all I did was walk and lost lbs.

And MFP says I should be losing 1 lb per week, and I am doing what it says, but its not happening!! I am more like 1/4 lb a week, if that.

I feel great physically, my clothes fit a little better, but without seeing the scale moving IN ONE DIRECTION, or inches on the tape measure, I am losing motivation. I know I should be happy, and I am a tad, its just hard to not fixate on the scale and numbers.

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  • What is your sodium intake like?

    I know it can be frustrating. Hell, I ran 11 miles on Saturday and the next day woke up and saw a gain on the scale! Weight goes up and down. Just try to be consistent. That's all you can really do.
  • itsbella
    itsbella Posts: 1,101 Member
    I'm with ya orso99! It's been NOT happening for me too! The one thing is that as long as I'm feeling good and exercise and feeling healthy I'm doing something great for me. Do you have the weight to lose? How much are you trying to lose? Experts say that when you get real close to goal it gets harder and you're losing...slowly but you are!
  • FabulousFifty
    FabulousFifty Posts: 1,575 Member
    You have established some very healthy habits. Your body is doing what it should. Hang in there and just know that it takes longer to lose weight as we get a little older. 10lbs is fantastic. Hey, focus on the way your clothes fit and how you feel. You are gaining endurance as well. That shows you are getting healthier and stronger. Keep on keeping on! Just think if you keep it up another 10 or so will be gone by spring. New clothes here we come!
    LET IT RIP!
  • thumper44
    thumper44 Posts: 1,464 Member
    I feel great physically, my clothes fit a little better, but without seeing the scale moving IN ONE DIRECTION, or inches on the tape measure, I am losing motivation. I know I should be happy, and I am a tad, its just hard to not fixate on the scale and numbers.

    Your stressing yourself out too much. (Stress does not help according to Biggest Loser shows).

    Stop weighing yourself twice a day - Your weight will go up and down throughout the day depending on how much food you eat and hwo much water you drank. Every 2 cups of water is approx 1lb.

    As Gym_rat asked, what's your sodium? and the rest of your Numbers.
    Daily Caloric intake, Exercise calories burned?
    Some people just need some tweaking, perhaps remove foods that have hidden sodium etc.

    EDIT: I just noticed - You only have 5lbs left to lose - Those last 10 lbs can come off at 1/4lb per week as your noticing - You will not lose 1lb per week if you only have 5lbs to lose - Search - losing last 10 lbs on here, lots of people have been in the same situation.
  • urso99
    urso99 Posts: 37 Member
    My sodium is averaging 2400, some days its 1600-1800, and a couple times its spiked at 2700.

    I am 189 lb today, (last week 186) So I have a good 20-30 to lose, but I don't expect that. I just would like to see SOMETHING for all the work and effort I'm putting into it.
  • LuRox
    LuRox Posts: 520 Member
    I agree with what everyone is saying here, check your sodium, check all your numbers. And also look at your overall number of what you need to lose in total.

    If you can tell a difference in your clothes then you are making progress. I've been on a plateau for 3 years it seems but in reality, I've lost 41 lbs and put back on 8 of those, but I'm down 33 lbs total an average of 11 lbs lost per year...not too shabby, still have a lot to go, but there have been times I wanted to quit, but I didn't I just tweaked my numbers...really watched what I ate to jumpstart my loss again, and it worked.

    Sometimes a break is ok, but only for a few days.
  • thumper44
    thumper44 Posts: 1,464 Member
    Any alcohol in the last week?
  • mvl1014
    mvl1014 Posts: 531
    You definitely should take a break!

    But not of counting calories, you should take a break from weighing yourself. You're doing what you should be in terms of exercise and eating.

    Weighing in once a day may hold some people accountable, but for others it really just becomes discouraging. Weigh once a week and don't change a thing.

    And as for your sodium, you're doing well. It's exactly where it should be at.
  • urso99
    urso99 Posts: 37 Member
    Yesterday of course!! (Red wine).

    I am just getting too obsessed about it all! GRR
  • SammiAnne11
    SammiAnne11 Posts: 158 Member
    If you need a break, take a break. Give yourself a week, and see how you feel at the end of it....

    I do think you need a break from weighing yourself. If you are planning on staying healthy, do you plan on weighing yourself on a daily basis? Or just living your life, making great choices and exercising to keep healthy, knowing when you slip up, to get back on track....
    It's all perspective.
    I hope you can give yourself a break, and stay on track.
    Best of luck honey!
  • so, you've been on the site since 1/7. it's now 2/15. that's about 5 weeks. you've lost 4 pounds (not counting the 6 pounds you say is water weight).

    that's GOOD!

    giving up after 5 weeks isn't going to help you get to your goals. if you feel you need a break, take one, but continue to be aware of your intake (trust me, it'll go south fast without the accountability) and exercise.

    the scale is only one measurement of improvement (and not a very good one at that, it doesn't tell you how much is fat, how much is lean muscle, how much food or water is still in your system from the day before). you say you're feeling great physically, you've run 2 miles. i bet your resting heart rate is lower, i bet blood pressure and other stats like that are improving. it's not all about the number on the scale (even though that's what we're meant to believe).

    losing weight takes time, it takes diligence. think about your blog. i'd bet that being consistently frugal didn't just happen overnight. for most people, it takes time and concentration to pay off that debt and work on becoming financially responsible. it's a matter of changing habits. what new habits have you developed while logging your food? is it something that's healthy that you can take with you for the rest of your life? unfortunately, our bodies aren't machines. we can do everything "perfectly" and it'll still throw us for a loop. but improved fitness and health is going to be more important in the long run.

    you can't let the scale (or measurements, either, they're better, but still can be off a little if you don't measure in the exact same place with the exact same tension), make or break your determination.
  • melbhall
    melbhall Posts: 519
    Take a break if you are really really stressed out by all of this, but I don't think a break will really help. You just need to keep a positive attitude. You have lost 10lbs, I have never in my life lost 10lbs and can't wait to see that, even if it is just water weight. A loss is a loss. You seem to be making great choices and this is a lifestyle change so you can't expect everything to fall in place overnight. I weighed this morning and have gained weight and I've worked harder this week to lose weight than ever before in my whole life. I'm not letting that get me down. I feel great and my husband keeps telling me I look different. So I don't care what the scale says, my measure of success is not defined by it. I really hope you don't give up. Friend me if you want, I will be your cheerleader!
  • aerobicgirl
    aerobicgirl Posts: 354 Member
    I FEEL YOU THATS THE WAY I FEEL RIGHT NOW SO I AM NOT GONNA WEIGHT MYSELF FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS/ I AM CURRRENTLY DOING INSANITY. AND THE FUNNY THING IS THAT THE WARM-UP ALONE COULDN'T DO THE WHOLE THING AND NOW I CAN ACTUALLY TAKE ONE MAY TWO BREAKS TO I MAY NOT BE LOSING RIGHT NOW BUT I AM GETTING HEALTHIER. IM STRESSING ALSO AND WELL ITS NOT GOOD THATS HOW I GAIN WEIGHT BUT TAKE ONE IF YOU NEED ONE/
  • aerobicgirl
    aerobicgirl Posts: 354 Member
    I FEEL YOU THATS THE WAY I FEEL RIGHT NOW SO I AM NOT GONNA WEIGHT MYSELF FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS/ I AM CURRRENTLY DOING INSANITY. AND THE FUNNY THING IS THAT THE WARM-UP ALONE COULDN'T DO THE WHOLE THING AND NOW I CAN ACTUALLY TAKE ONE MAY TWO BREAKS TO I MAY NOT BE LOSING RIGHT NOW BUT I AM GETTING HEALTHIER. IM STRESSING ALSO AND WELL ITS NOT GOOD THATS HOW I GAIN WEIGHT BUT TAKE ONE IF YOU NEED ONE/
  • Wolfena
    Wolfena Posts: 1,570 Member
    What exactly does taking a break mean??

    Does it mean you will not only stop counting calories and exercising but you intend to eat like a pig too? Or does it just mean you will continue to try to eat healthier, decent portion sizes but are just going to quit logging in your food diary for a few days or a week, and stop weighing and measuring yourself regularly?

    My thought is that if you intend to become totally lazy and eat like a pig, it doesn't really matter how hard you work to lose the weight because as soon as you reach your goal and go back to what you see as "normal living" in your eating and exercise habits - you will gain it all back (and maybe more) anyway.

    Nothing is wrong with the second option - staying away from the scale and not logging for a bit - then climbing back on track when you're feeling better again. I think that we all do that sometimes! '

    But.... as I'm sure you've heard/read a billion times, this is a lifestyle change - not a "diet" :smile:
  • I feel exactly as you do. I bought Oreo's yesterday because I am just tired of trying and feeling that the scale is not moving. I am doing at least 2 hours a night at the gym and am feeling that in my back. I have improved the intensity of the workouts and see a difference in how I feel, but I am not seeing the scale move. I am hungry and tired. ( I brouyght the Oreo's to work, and put in the kitchen so i did not eat them all, but...)
  • HonestOmnivore
    HonestOmnivore Posts: 1,356 Member
    I hate to state the obvious - but if you've only been working out for the past couple of months are building muscle as if you're strength training. Your muscles weigh more (per volume) so you're not seeing much change in your weight.

    If you really want to lose pounds - and it's not as important to you to be in shape, back off the exercise to 3 or 4 30 minutes aerobic workouts per week and restrict your calories to your base amount.

    I'm not recommending that but if you really want to see the scale move that will do it. Your body will break down some of your new muscle and use it for energy.

    Otherwise just know you're doing the right thing now, and that in a few months the weight loss will up and in the mean time you're treating your body well!

    I've got tons to lose but I've set goals to get the first 50 lbs off at about 1.5 lbs/week, the next 20 at 1lb/week and the last ten I assume will be around 1 or 2 pounds per month.

    Good luck!
  • Magenta15
    Magenta15 Posts: 850 Member
    PUT THE SCALE AWAY!:noway:

    that's where you're stressing yourself, our bodies fluxuate daily, 2,3 even 4 pounds based on what we've been eating and drinking! yes I weigh daily but it doesn't stress me like it seems to do you. and WHY would you weigh at the end of your day? OF COURSE you are going to weigh more after eating and drinking all day,

    do yourself a favour and use a tape measure every few weeks or once a month, and only weigh 1 ever week or even every 2. if you feel the need to

    :smile:
  • urso99
    urso99 Posts: 37 Member
    No, no, I've come to far to let it all go down the drain!! I have a pretty good routine of meals, and there isn't any other "bad" food in my house, so i think I will just take this week off logging and hopefully weighing in! I will still exercise, and eat accordingly though.

    My biggest fear is not weighing in for a week, and stepping on the scale to see I've GAINED weight! Thats why I monitor it every morn and night, to adjust my cals/foods in case I DO gain!!

    There is just something in my head that tells me if I DO NOT exercise hard, I will not lose. And if I do take a day off, I feel like a failure. Plus, I am in such a good habit OF exercising , that i'm afraid if I get off my reg schedule of everyday workouts, I will get lazy again and fall into that funk I was in for yrs!
  • Iceprincessk25
    Iceprincessk25 Posts: 1,888 Member
    It takes a good 6 to 8 weeks for your body to adjust to working out and eating right. That's why most people quit after a month because they're not seeing any changes. I know it's frustrating but you just have to keep at it. Know that you are making a healthier you and that is what is MOST important. Who gives a *kitten* what the scale says.
  • lucky1ns
    lucky1ns Posts: 358 Member
    I wonder if you are not eating enough.
  • workingitout
    workingitout Posts: 105 Member
    The scale can be our enemy sometimes. I get so wrapped up in whether it went down enough, or if it went up a bit, and then I don't try as hard because I'm bummed about my lack of success. I finally figured out that this was hurting my quest to be healthy, so I am really spacing out the weighing, while still tracking calories and working out religiously. I can tell my clothes fit better, my belly looks smaller. This is a very long term weight loss and maintenance plan, so I know that 6 weeks from now, I will weigh much less than today. That's good enough for me. By summer, I should look fabulous! So Friday's weight isn't going to stop me from making progress. I'm going to weigh every 2-4 weeks and I will see knockout results! Can't wait to shop for a bathing suit this summer!!
  • DeeDeeLHF
    DeeDeeLHF Posts: 2,301 Member
    I would be interested in hearing what the experts have to say about excercising too hard? I find that I lose weight faster if I excercise moderatly...enough to bring up a sweat but not so hard that my heart feels like it is pounding out of my chest. For me that is keeping my heart rate around 120-130 and never above 140.

    In the beginning I was pounding it out and my heart rate was 150-160 but I would finish a routine or eliptical and (seriously) wonder if I could walk out the door without passing out. I thought the only way to lose weight was to kill myself!:laugh: (Dead people don't weigh as much:wink: )

    When I cut back and stayed in a better range I started losing.

    So, what do the experts out there think?
  • jrbowers83
    jrbowers83 Posts: 282 Member
    From counting cals that is. I am stressing myself out. I have been doing great staying in my limits since Jan 7, exercising almost everyday, eating most exercise cals, cut out alcohol, and I I lose 1/2 lb one day, up 1 lb the next. My inches aren't moving either.

    I know it says I lost 10 lbs, but really it is more like 4. Six pounds was water weight and lost in the first week of Jan. Its so frustrating. I have been monitoring my macro's, weighing both morn and night to see if certain foods are causing weight gain or weight loss, I wear a HRM when I exercise, try to hit 60-70 % MHR, and exercise 5-6 times a week either doing intervals on the treadmill, or recumbant bike and weight lifting. Heck, I ran 2 miles for the fist time ever last week! I am running now, when before when Iost weight yrs ago all I did was walk and lost lbs.

    And MFP says I should be losing 1 lb per week, and I am doing what it says, but its not happening!! I am more like 1/4 lb a week, if that.

    I feel great physically, my clothes fit a little better, but without seeing the scale moving IN ONE DIRECTION, or inches on the tape measure, I am losing motivation. I know I should be happy, and I am a tad, its just hard to not fixate on the scale and numbers.

    I have to say I've been feeling the same way. I also suffer from moderate depression, so that makes the whole cycle of eating worse. (Eating unhealthy makes the depression worse, depression causes bingeing, bingeing makes me fat, I'm depressed because I'm fat and tired, I feel like a failure, hence depressed and bingeing, blah, blah, blah). I started out in Oct. losing weight pretty consistently (about 1.5 lbs/week average) and just felt better all over. I even thought the depression was better. But then life's stresses have hit me hard since Jan. 1st, and that scale hasn't budged much. I also haven't been feeling as much of the "healthy" impacts I'd initially seen, my migraines, body aches, and fatigue have returned with a vengeance. I had a minor breakdown on Thurs. after weighing myself everyday all week and continuing to GAIN despite staying well under my cal goals, eating clean, exercising vigorously, staying under 1500/day sodium and drinking all my water. I literally broke down and cried, and finally said I'm taking a break. My husband dutifully locked away the scale and I forced myself to stay off here for a couple of days. That being said, I am working out still about an hour a day, just don't know my cal burn. I also returned to waking up an hour early to get my workout in (as I'd been doing it later in the day when my daughter napped, and everyday felt so EXHAUSTED) I am eating healthy, watching portions and going with lots of fresh foods. Even Valentine's Day, I ate small breakfast and lunch with fruit in between, and come time for my pasta dinner, I only ate half and dutifully put the leftovers in a lunch box for hubby to take to work. I just haven't logged any cals eaten or burned. I am not going to weigh in until the end of the month, may start a once a month weigh-in from here on out even. Will probably go back to calorie counting next week, but I do just need a week off. My whole day was hinging on all the numbers. I just started this Fri. so I don't know what my body's doing yet, but I already have more energy and a renewed zest for this healthy lifestyle. We'll see how it goes.

    I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do. Think of it as a little experiment?
  • jrbowers83
    jrbowers83 Posts: 282 Member
    From counting cals that is. I am stressing myself out. I have been doing great staying in my limits since Jan 7, exercising almost everyday, eating most exercise cals, cut out alcohol, and I I lose 1/2 lb one day, up 1 lb the next. My inches aren't moving either.

    I know it says I lost 10 lbs, but really it is more like 4. Six pounds was water weight and lost in the first week of Jan. Its so frustrating. I have been monitoring my macro's, weighing both morn and night to see if certain foods are causing weight gain or weight loss, I wear a HRM when I exercise, try to hit 60-70 % MHR, and exercise 5-6 times a week either doing intervals on the treadmill, or recumbant bike and weight lifting. Heck, I ran 2 miles for the fist time ever last week! I am running now, when before when Iost weight yrs ago all I did was walk and lost lbs.

    And MFP says I should be losing 1 lb per week, and I am doing what it says, but its not happening!! I am more like 1/4 lb a week, if that.

    I feel great physically, my clothes fit a little better, but without seeing the scale moving IN ONE DIRECTION, or inches on the tape measure, I am losing motivation. I know I should be happy, and I am a tad, its just hard to not fixate on the scale and numbers.

    I have to say I've been feeling the same way. I also suffer from moderate depression, so that makes the whole cycle of eating worse. (Eating unhealthy makes the depression worse, depression causes bingeing, bingeing makes me fat, I'm depressed because I'm fat and tired, I feel like a failure, hence depressed and bingeing, blah, blah, blah). I started out in Oct. losing weight pretty consistently (about 1.5 lbs/week average) and just felt better all over. I even thought the depression was better. But then life's stresses have hit me hard since Jan. 1st, and that scale hasn't budged much. I also haven't been feeling as much of the "healthy" impacts I'd initially seen, my migraines, body aches, and fatigue have returned with a vengeance. I had a minor breakdown on Thurs. after weighing myself everyday all week and continuing to GAIN despite staying well under my cal goals, eating clean, exercising vigorously, staying under 1500/day sodium and drinking all my water. I literally broke down and cried, and finally said I'm taking a break. My husband dutifully locked away the scale and I forced myself to stay off here for a couple of days. That being said, I am working out still about an hour a day, just don't know my cal burn. I also returned to waking up an hour early to get my workout in (as I'd been doing it later in the day when my daughter napped, and everyday felt so EXHAUSTED) I am eating healthy, watching portions and going with lots of fresh foods. Even Valentine's Day, I ate small breakfast and lunch with fruit in between, and come time for my pasta dinner, I only ate half and dutifully put the leftovers in a lunch box for hubby to take to work. I just haven't logged any cals eaten or burned. I am not going to weigh in until the end of the month, may start a once a month weigh-in from here on out even. Will probably go back to calorie counting next week, but I do just need a week off. My whole day was hinging on all the numbers. I just started this Fri. so I don't know what my body's doing yet, but I already have more energy and a renewed zest for this healthy lifestyle. We'll see how it goes.

    I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do. Think of it as a little experiment?
  • MercuryBlue
    MercuryBlue Posts: 886 Member
    If you've recently started an exercise routine, your muscles could still be 'in shock'. What basically happens is that they 'freak out' because they're not used to being worked so hard, so they protect themselves by retaining water. There's more to it than that, of course. But at the end of the day new exercise routine = shocked muscles = water retention. Once your body adapts to the exercise, the muscles will 'release' the fluid.

    Also, don't be surprised if you find your weight drops a bit when you take a break from working out. I always weigh myself the day after a rest day because rest days are really when my body lets go of the ick and drops pounds.

    It's unlikely you're actually just building muscle MASS this early on, but water retention is definitely a possibility. Like others said, I'd also keep an eye on your sodium intake. While MFP recommends about 2500, I usually try to aim for closer to 1500 (2000 is pretty much my max). Also, how's your fibre/water looking? You want to be sure to drink LOTS of water to flush out all that extra sodium. Also, the more fibre you're eating the more water you want to be drinking.

    Fibre's good because it helps cleanse your body. Might sound gross, but if you're not 'regular', you can be carrying quite a bit of weight in poop. This will also cause your tummy to be less flat than it normally would. If you're eating fibre, drinking lots of water, you might find yourself pooping one to three times a day! Takes some getting used to, but your digestive system will feel a lot better.

    Stress can also = weight gain. As can hormones.

    I also agree with previous posters... don't weigh yourself every day. Personally, I DO weigh myself every day. This is how I learned about how my body works, how sodium affects it, how my period causes water retention, etc. However, I also don't get upset when I see small gains because I know they're normal. If you're the kind of person that gets bummed out over these little gains, hide your scale and only weigh in once a week (or even less frequently than that).

    Also, the less you have to lose, the slower it will come off!
  • Take your measurements too. You could be losing inches right now and can use that to motivate yourself to keep on going!
  • You're probably at the point where you're building muscle. You're not seeing a difference on the scale because MUSCLE WEIGHS MORE THAN FAT! Stay off your scale for a good while. When you go back, you'll finally see a change. What a nice surprise that'll be!
    :drinker:
  • urso99
    urso99 Posts: 37 Member
    Thank you all for your AWESOME support and advice!!

    I am stay at home mom, (all kids are in school all day though!) and I have been very diligent about my nutrition. Water nonstop, fiber, well Fiber One products fill my fridge and cupboards! I even stopped buying prepared convient meals, and make all my own food every meal! So the only conclusion I have come to is this,

    1, I'm not eating enough. 1400 on non-workout days. 1600-1700 on workout days,( but I usually have 100 cals left)
    2. I'm working out to hard. I am loving the endurance I have from it though! And that's making it hard for me to fathom slowing it down!

    After considering it, I think I am going to bump up my cals to 1700-1800 to see if it may help. Heck I'm already supposed to eat that when I exercise, but I will do it everyday regardless.

    I did not log my food today, but ate healthy. I actually have no idea how many cals I ate! feels freeing! But starting tomorrow I will change my goals and cals to 1800. And just aim for that with or without exercising and see what happens

    Thanks again, all your support is so wonderful and has helped me take a second look at what I'm doing.

    ~~KT.
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