single ladies and gentlemen if you don't enjoy intimacy

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  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    I feel like this is an MFP equivalent of a Vaguebook post.
  • ls_66
    ls_66 Posts: 395 Member
    I don't think it's me.... but you can't tell me I don't like it anymore and leave me hanging like that....
  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member
    Maybe she's just not that into you....
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
    I don't think it's me.... but you can't tell me I don't like it anymore and leave me hanging like that....

    That's more of a relationship issue, dude....not a "she don't like sex no more" issue.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    I don't think it's me.... but you can't tell me I don't like it anymore and leave me hanging like that....

    That's more of a relationship issue, dude....not a "she don't like sex no more" issue.

    Yup...there is more to this....MUCH more
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I don't think it's me.... but you can't tell me I don't like it anymore and leave me hanging like that....

    Well, it sounds like some marriage counseling is in order. But I can tell you that as a woman, if I'm not getting what I need emotionally, I'm not going to be very interested in intimacy with the person who's withholding in that sense.

    Is there something you do that she hates and you won't stop doing it (outside the bedroom). Do you pay attention to her in general, listen when she talks to you? Do you put time and effort into the physical side, or just climb on top and do what you gotta do?

    Is she going through menopause? Did she always dislike it, but just faked it all along? Has she been sexually assaulted at any time in her life? Has she fallen out of love with you?
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    please do not get married...
    just saying ......

    Wouldn't this usually be something you knew about someone before the wedding? Anf if not, you didn't know that person well enough to marry him or her.

    This is why you never marry someone you haven't lived with for at least two years.

    And from experience, that still may not be long enough to determine whether or not they'll flip out and become batsht crazy.

    100% agree. I tell my wife, you were one way, got married, and now you another way. It is like a switch went off. For instance, she had no problem with a certain act, and then there is a problem. I got punked in some ways.

    It happens brochacho, everyone changes in some way or another \m/
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    @Illona88 nope.... once upon a time there was fire lighting the house... that was so long ago that I don't even remember how long....

    What are you doing to try to light the fire? Do you help out around the house? cook? clean? offer a massage with a glass of wine? Or do you expect her to do all of the above and then service you once she's done?
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    "Did you put it in her pooper?" - IronmanPanda
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    Buy her a copy of Fifty Shades.



    Then show her how it's *really* done.



    Post results in a few weeks. If you follow this advice, you should be busy for a while.
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    @Charlie don't you feel like is a little unfair for your wife?

    I told her when I proposed, that I am what I am and will not change. Do I think It unfair, maybe, but at the same time, I make sure that whatever she wants for her of the kids she gets. I am just old fashioned in the sence that women should be the affectionate ones. Do I agree with my staemente, no, but that is how I am. Do I wish I could be different, yes, but I am just not progammed for different.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    @Illona88 nope.... once upon a time there was fire lighting the house... that was so long ago that I don't even remember how long....

    What are you doing to try to light the fire? Do you help out around the house? cook? clean? offer a massage with a glass of wine? Or do you expect her to do all of the above and then service you once she's done?


    :flowerforyou:
  • AddA2UDE
    AddA2UDE Posts: 382
    Sucks for you...

    or not.................
  • Pedal_Pusher
    Pedal_Pusher Posts: 1,166 Member
    can the singles still have sex though? I mean, is that cool w/ you?
  • loriaqui
    loriaqui Posts: 55 Member

    I can tell you that as a woman, if I'm not getting what I need emotionally, I'm not going to be very interested in intimacy with the person who's withholding in that sense.

    Do you pay attention to her in general, listen when she talks to you? Do you put time and effort into the physical side, or just climb on top and do what you gotta do?

    ****This
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    "Did you put it in her pooper?" - IronmanPanda

    lol!
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    "Did you check her texts?" - GasMasterFlash
  • ls_66
    ls_66 Posts: 395 Member
    I agree the issue is much deeper and when you throw in the mix ADD and other factors it's utterly complicated
    The post is getting a little out of hand so I'm going to make my exit statement saying we as a society stress marriage way way too much... the fact is marriage is not for everyone and should not be taken lightly so stop watching Say yes to the dress LOL
    Peace out
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Buy her a copy of Fifty Shades.



    Then show her how it's *really* done.



    Post results in a few weeks. If you follow this advice, you should be busy for a while.

    50 shades did wonders for me while my wife was reading it. I hope the author has many more books in her.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    I agree the issue is much deeper and when you throw in the mix ADD and other factors it's utterly complicated
    The post is getting a little out of hand so I'm going to make my exit statement saying we as a society stress marriage way way too much... the fact is marriage is not for everyone and should not be taken lightly so stop watching Say yes to the dress LOL
    Peace out


    Oh.... I've found the issue.

    You're friends with Deniseearheart. Bingo.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    *GASP* You are all advocating sex before marriage!!!

    NOOOOOOOO!!!!!

    Heathens.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Okay, here is a fact of life. Intimacy goes down as you get older. At least for men. We get tired of the romancing and just want to get it done. Once you get the house, kids and what not, too tired for the rest. I may be the only one like this, my wife complains that I do not pay enough attention to her etc. I work, take care of kids, I am tired.

    You're doing it wrong.
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    My ex-wife was a virgin when I met her and thought she didn't like sex. Then she discovered that she actually really enjoyed sex with men who weren't me. Subsequent girlfriends assured me I was just fine or better than fine, so I'll just chalk it up to chemistry.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    *GASP* You are all advocating sex before marriage!!!

    NOOOOOOOO!!!!!

    Heathens.

    You weren't saying that last night.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    I agree the issue is much deeper and when you throw in the mix ADD and other factors it's utterly complicated
    The post is getting a little out of hand so I'm going to make my exit statement saying we as a society stress marriage way way too much... the fact is marriage is not for everyone and should not be taken lightly so stop watching Say yes to the dress LOL
    Peace out

    Seeing as how you didn't respond to my question I will assume I hit the nail on the head.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    you need to have your other ladies on standby pahtnah!! there's always hanjelina jolie, haand hathaway, scarlet johaandson, and palmela haanderson.....don't forget to log your exercise and eat those calories back :drinker: \m/
  • ImKindOfABigDeal40
    ImKindOfABigDeal40 Posts: 807 Member
    Amen!
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    Sex, making love to her, being intimate - it's more than sticking your peen in her.

    Touch her hair when she least expects it. Hold her, just because.

    Describe her hands. If you can't, then maybe it's you who's not paying enough attention. Get to know her again. Really get to know her.

    Many times, the person complaining about the lack of intimacy is whining about not having sex, while completely ignoring the eleventy other types of intimacy that the other person is lacking.

    This is starting to be all sort of serious sounding so I feel the need to include something completely irrelevant:

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  • Dr_Steve_Brule
    Dr_Steve_Brule Posts: 16
    In my professional opinion, intimacy is marriage. Did you not have intimacy before marriage? If so, why did it change?

    Maybe you should man up. She is playing hard to get.

    Enjoy
  • d3mon4ngel
    d3mon4ngel Posts: 242 Member
    living together for a few years is a nice way to test the waters... but that can also be deceiving... we all know that the first few years of living together/being married are fun but not a true indication on what real life together is gonna be down the road..
    Should marriage have an expiration date?

    Like a 5 year or 10 year term, at which time the contract is re-evaluated and necessary changes made as the two parties see fit?

    Dude, that's kind of a great idea.

    I don't plan on ever getting married again myself, but I think that this is an awesome idea. :happy:

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