would you date someone with no lisence?

Sillykitty88
Sillykitty88 Posts: 21
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Ok, just wondering, if you met someone that was awesome but had no license** from a mistake made years ago, would you be able to date them if everything else in their life was right on track?

**Spelling the word license wrong probably did not help my case. **runs and hides**
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  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Correct use of the English language is more important to me than a license.


    I would be led to the question "Why doesn't he/she have their license back?" Is it because they owe fines? Is it because they had too many OWI's? Are they in treatment for the apparent drinking problem?

    I'd want to know why they don't have a license or haven't cared to get one. Where I live, public transportation is not prevalent, so needing a car is essential. So for me, no. I would not date a guy that did not have a license.
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    Your love is just one bus ride (with 3 transfers and one 15 minute walk) away. Go for it.
  • holeshottdr
    holeshottdr Posts: 364 Member
    If it was years ago that they lost it, that should have been plenty of time to rectify the situation and get a license reinstated. I'd have to say sorry, you been walking this far, keep on walking...
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    I don't understand how that would possibly matter if you really liked them...
  • bsuzanne88
    bsuzanne88 Posts: 61 Member
    One of my closest friends dates a guy with no license. Court date after court date we learned he won't be able to drive until 2015 or so. Of course it could be sooner depending on a few things. My friend is very happy and they make do with driving. He helps her out with gas and other things. He is a very sweet guy and has learned his lesson. I wouldn't judge anyone if they lost their privilege to drive, especially since meeting this guy.
  • wareagle8706
    wareagle8706 Posts: 1,090 Member
    Been there. Done that. Not going there again. Ever. Pick a man with a job, a car, (a license), and treats his mother with respect. For starters...
  • LeRevCooper
    LeRevCooper Posts: 122
    Yeah. I don't care.
  • erinxo13
    erinxo13 Posts: 892 Member
    Honestly, it's really annoying having to drive people around everywhere. Been there, done that. I'm not a taxi service. I don't mind driving sometimes but I'm not going to drive every time I go out with someone... especially if I'm dating them. :\ I've had to do that with friends and that really makes me resent them.

    Also, other points like - WHY don't you have it? That always seems fishy to me.

    edit: it also really depends where you live, I'm in suburbia so it's necessary....in the city, maybe not so much but still... plus cars are sexy :P
  • leelafit_mtl
    leelafit_mtl Posts: 132 Member
    Lol, maybe because I am living where I am (Quebec, Canada) but here, having a license or not isn't important!! I don't have one myself...
  • ellenxmariex3
    ellenxmariex3 Posts: 165 Member
    When my boyfriend and I got together he was too young to have his license...he was 16 and I was 17 (I'm six months older). It was sort of difficult but he helped me with gas and such.

    Over the summer we lived together and at one point he didn't have a car. That was more difficult because our jobs were in two separate directions. But again, we made do.

    I don't think it's a dealbreaker.
  • RunningOnPurple
    RunningOnPurple Posts: 119 Member
    It can be difficult depending on how far apart you live, what shape your car is in, and how open they are to helping pay for gas, etc.
  • AmericanNewfie
    AmericanNewfie Posts: 21
    I agree. Knowing how to spell 'license' would probably be more important to me. Just sayin.
  • Notsocorny
    Notsocorny Posts: 37
    I had started dating this guy I'm still with & he did not have his license, but I gave him opportunity to get it, and he wanted to make things fair....well, now he has to drive me around bc of my bum knee.

    If he is motivated, and you're not pulling all the weight, you will find your balance within the relationship.
  • KAA1982
    KAA1982 Posts: 90 Member
    I agree that if you care about the person, it should not matter.
  • KittieLea
    KittieLea Posts: 1,156 Member
    I'm not really sure what a lisence is? I don't even know if I have one, myself?
  • ravenwcatz
    ravenwcatz Posts: 105 Member
    Depends. Do you live in a major metropolitan area? My Mr. has no license, though that is because he let it lapse due to being a lifelong resident in a city with ample public transportation. Why take the drivers' test if you've never owned a car and never plan to?

    That being said...

    At the very least, I'd say get to know the person. Maybe they're a good guy who screwed up a long time ago and have since learned their lesson. Maybe they're not. But the only way you'll ever find that out is by giving them a chance.
  • leilaphoenix
    leilaphoenix Posts: 839 Member
    Culture is a funny thing. I'm 25 years old, own my own house and work in a fairly serious job. However, I don't have a licence (correct English spelling is without an s!). I don't have a car. I don't particularly want one right now.

    I live in a city where the bicycle rules and when I want to go further afield I use public transport. Maybe one day I'll learn to drive, but the idea that people would just rule out someone because they don't drive is somewhat odd to me!! I notice this in American culture - that it is "so uncool" not to drive. Personally, I think it is "cool" that I burn 350 cals a day getting to and from work on a bicycle while not contributing to climate change.
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    If it was years ago that they lost it, that should have been plenty of time to rectify the situation and get a license reinstated. I'd have to say sorry, you been walking this far, keep on walking...

    Not necessarily. In NJ if you get 3 DWIs it's a mandatory 10-year loss of license. They could be in recovery 7 years and still have to finish out their time.

    For me, personally, I won't know, even if they did get their act together b/c I spent 7 yrs with someone who didn't have his license and had to get both of us to work, etc and I'm drived out (I drive for a living now, too lol) I won't do it again!
  • gseburn
    gseburn Posts: 456 Member
    I'm not open to dating, but it would not be a factor for me. It's only in North America that it's such a big deal I think :-)
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I did, briefly. With no intention of ever making the relationship permanent. He was eye candy and a rugby player. And really good in bed.
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
    Well... since I live in a place where public transportation is almost non-existent... So you either have to drive yourself, or relay on other people for rides everywhere... I'm not saying I wouldn't make an exception if the person was worth it... but it certainly wouldn't be my first pick.
  • WeekndOVOXO
    WeekndOVOXO Posts: 779 Member
    Back when I was like 18 and a girl would ask me if I had a licence or not I would tell them yes, but I didn't have a car so I would take public transportation. I got my licence a year after, although I still don't have my OWN car. It's a little embarrassing considering my peers had their licences already and it was a lot harder to attract the opposite sex with a ****ing bus ride to my house. :laugh:
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    Well why don't they have a license? Never got one and has no need (ie-lives in a big city and can easily rely on walking/biking/public transport)? Or killed 4 people in a car accident because they drove drunk?
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    I don't understand how that would possibly matter if you really liked them...

    Because I ain't gonna be driving Miss Daisy.
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    depends, i live in a big city where it's not that important so if she never had one don't care to get one its not a big deal, if they have 500 DUIs and killed a Nun is another story
  • kaisawheel
    kaisawheel Posts: 15 Member
    Culture is a funny thing. I'm 25 years old, own my own house and work in a fairly serious job. However, I don't have a licence (correct English spelling is without an s!). I don't have a car. I don't particularly want one right now.

    I live in a city where the bicycle rules and when I want to go further afield I use public transport. Maybe one day I'll learn to drive, but the idea that people would just rule out someone because they don't drive is somewhat odd to me!! I notice this in American culture - that it is "so uncool" not to drive. Personally, I think it is "cool" that I burn 350 cals a day getting to and from work on a bicycle while not contributing to climate change.

    I would love to live in a place where I could bike or rely on public transit to get where I am going 99% of the time. But America is enormous. I don't think Europeans always have a good grasp on just how large America or even individual states and cities are. We have large cities here that are bigger than some countries. If you are not in New York or certain other places, public transit is either lousy or non existent. Partnering with someone who could not drive could be a major burden in some places.
  • talentjar
    talentjar Posts: 19
    I have but I live close to a metro area. No biggie, here. I think it depends on the bigger picture. Date...as in, go out here and there...sure..if you enjoy their company, why not.
    If you are thinking bigger picture and this is a deal breaker for you, then dont do it. We all have our funny quirks, boundaries, I guess it doesnt matter what is important to us, its asking yourself what matters to you. :)
  • spikefoot
    spikefoot Posts: 419
    I don't think the situation with having a license is the real question here...It is more is this person still a "lowlife" or have they grown up and changed etc......

    Do you see them as a good well meaning person now? If so I think that answers your question.
  • katierrt
    katierrt Posts: 113 Member
    I'm 43 & happily married, so my opinion really doesn't count for much, however...I am really into the whole car date thing, my husband and I still have date nights once a week and there is something very sweet about a man opening a car door for a woman (even tho she's perfectly capable of doing it herself). And really, that's my opinion. If you're asking this question, you are really interested in this person, so I would say to follow your heart! :) GL2U!
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    Feel free to copy and paste this to the new match.com ad that you need to post this evening:

    MINIMUM REQUIREMENTS: Must have own teeth, car, home, job, and means to maintain all of the above. Must be good-looking, witty, easy-going, generous, considerate and talented in all areas of interest to me. Must be in compliance with all state and federal laws at all times, and have no history of anything that would inconvenience or embarrass me. No substance abuse, no ESPN abuse, no abuse, period.

    You're welcome.

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