To wear or not to wear?!

JustPeachy044
JustPeachy044 Posts: 770 Member
in Motivation and Support
I had a co-worker give me a shopping bag full of clothes. They are almost all size 8 and I just tried them all, with one exception everything fits! :) yeah. Anyway, she has been trying to have a baby and is going through all kinds of h*ll in the process. The meds and stress have contributed to a weight gain (which while I can't relate I can empathize with). So, on one hand, I am concerned if I show up at work in these clothes that she will feel that much worse--seeing me in clothes that are too small for her that she used to be able to wear. On the other hand, much of what I have is so big on me that it is depressing to put my own clothes on. I find myself thinking "she gave you the clothes, they are DRESS clothes, she probably expects you to wear them, just wear the darn things." What do you think? Wear them or not?

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  • acrynne
    acrynne Posts: 74 Member
    I would wear them.
  • godblessourhome
    godblessourhome Posts: 3,892 Member
    i agree. she gave them to you to wear. if she wasn't prepared to see them on you, she wouldn't have given them away.
  • eandrsmom
    eandrsmom Posts: 119
    I would say wear them. Sending good thoughts her way!
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Make use of them, for sure.
  • Roboartist
    Roboartist Posts: 99
    Wear them, add your personal touches and hope for the best. Kudos to you for being so sensitive to your co-worker's feelings, I think that is great!
  • Hobb3s
    Hobb3s Posts: 119 Member
    Wear them, then make a point to thank her and ask her opinion on how she thinks they look.
  • caldon4523
    caldon4523 Posts: 227 Member
    I think it would be like the scene where two people enter the same room wearing the same clothes. I recommend not wearing them at work or where she may be. If you decide to wear them, I also second the idea of adding your own accessories.
  • yourenotmine
    yourenotmine Posts: 645 Member
    She'll probably feel good that they're being used.
  • roberts1013
    roberts1013 Posts: 103 Member
    Wear them. I am sure she gave them to you because she could see yours were no longer fitting well and knew you needed them. If she didnt want you to wear them she would have kept them. If you dont wear them she might be offended and think you didnt like any of them.
  • caldon4523
    caldon4523 Posts: 227 Member
    I think it would be like the scene where two people enter the same room wearing the same clothes. I recommend not wearing them at work or where she may be. If you decide to wear them, I also second the idea of adding your own accessories.
  • sarahg148
    sarahg148 Posts: 701 Member
    Definitely wear them. I don't think she'd want them to go to waste.
  • ashlbubba
    ashlbubba Posts: 224 Member
    I'd say wear them- if there was signature looks she always wore try not to duplicate them.. Pants are pants they look the same-- maybe you could spoil yourself with a few new tops to throw in to the mix!!
  • nbeth901
    nbeth901 Posts: 35 Member
    I would wear them. It may be a bit awkward for the lady who gave it to you. I once gave a bunch of my clothes away and the next time I saw a friend wear them I though "Hey that shirt and pants looks familiar" It was me forgetting I had given them to her. LOL
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    I'd wear them - she did give them to you after all, it's not like you went and bought all her old clothes from Goodwill or something. If she didn't want to see you in them she wouldn't have given them to you.
  • spangey13
    spangey13 Posts: 294
    I say wear them. Accessorise a little if you want to mix it up.

    I gave some stuff (some even brand new with tags on) to a co-worker once. She didn't wear them, didn't have the decency to give them back. Didn't offer any explanation. I couldn't have given a toss if she had said "hey actually these look a little weird on my shape" and given them to someone else...I was a little miffed. Slightly offended.

    It is like they just disappeared.
  • mamagooskie
    mamagooskie Posts: 2,964 Member
    I would wear them
  • mollyonamission
    mollyonamission Posts: 268 Member
    Wear
  • JustPeachy044
    JustPeachy044 Posts: 770 Member
    Thanks all. I think I will wear them.
  • gaylynn35
    gaylynn35 Posts: 854 Member
    Wear them and have fun with new clothes, well new to you.
  • Mrsmartin61
    Mrsmartin61 Posts: 87 Member
    Wear them. Also offer her a "thank you" gift and note...thanking her and letting her know you appreciate the thoughtful gesture.
  • bemott
    bemott Posts: 180
    I actually think it will cheer her up to see you in them. It's a great compliment to her fashion sense.
  • happypath101
    happypath101 Posts: 534
    I'm so glad I saw this forum because I had EXACTLY the same thing happen for me. And my co-worker gave me her clothes for exactly the same reason. We work on opposite ends of the office on different projects, so I had no dilemna, I just started wearing her clothes to the office. But, ocassionally, we will bump into each other in the hall or lunchroom.

    Every time she sees me in her clothes, she says something nice. I think it makes her happy to see them being used (for all the reasons you mentioned). The only exceptions have been a couple of ocassions where she commented that she wished she could still wear something I had on - but even then it wasn't a big deal. I told her I'll give them back when she's ready. :OD
  • HealthyAlison
    HealthyAlison Posts: 112 Member
    Definitely wear them. : )
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
    Wear them. She knows they're too small. And if you don't she might think you think her taste is ugly.
  • k011185
    k011185 Posts: 320 Member
    I would wear them and pay careful attention to how she reacts, chances are she will be happy to see them being put to god use instead of sitting in a closet.
    I know this is a totally different circumstance, but we gave my mother's clothing away to 2 ladies we knew could use them when she passed away in June. As happy as it makes me to know they are getting well used, every time I see one of these women wearing something, it's like getting a punch in the gut.
    Obviously, different circumstances, but sometimes we have more of an emotional connection to inanimate things than we realize.
  • happypath101
    happypath101 Posts: 534
    BTW: My friend is having her second baby at the end of this month. Believe you me, she's happier about that than about any clothing purchase. :O)
  • da1128
    da1128 Posts: 212 Member
    I say wear the clothes. Both she and you will probably feel good about it!

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