my friends do not support my weight loss

Friends can make it tough sometimes. I have to tell you, I wouldn't have handled the elitist remark well at all. "If I'm so d*mned elitist why the h*ll am I hanging out with YOU" yeah, that would have been VERY hard to contain, probably would have managed it, but only if I valued their friendship VERY highly.

Don't talk about your weight loss journey with them. If they ask how's it going just say "fine" and move on. If they comment on your food choices just say "it sounded good" and leave it at that. Eventually, if their intelligence and intuitive skills are worthy of college entrance, they'll drop the subject with you and hopefully the next thing they say will be "wow! you look fantastic!"

All the best to you.

Wow, and I thought it was just me. Ultimately you have to do what's right for you. Sometimes you have to trim the fat and if that's in the form of un-supportive friends, so be it. It's beyond me why people who claim to care about us can be so un-caring.
MFP is an amazing place to find true friends and although there may be some tough love from time to time, you can bet your bottom dollar that we're all on the same page.
Respectfully tell them how it makes you feel when they pressure you like that and then if they don't respect (words&actions) that, trim the fat baby!
Good luck with this situation and feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like.

Your situation and mine literally sound like the same thing word for word! I go to a school where most upperclass dorms have kitchens with the works: giant fridges, stoves, ovens, etc. I'm also in the middle of a major city so there are countless opportunities for sabotage. Everything my friends ever do revolves around going out to eat junk food. "Let's go get ice cream, lets go pig out on pastries." If I'm in a detemined mood I will often go with them and not carry cash so I'm not tempted. If I know I won't be able to resist, though, I will often make excuses - say I have too much work to do, or I need to "take a nap" (read: go to the gym) - and meet up with them later. Remind yourself that regardless of what they say, YOU are making the right choices, YOU are going to live longer, YOU are going to be healthier!

Please, add me - hopefully we can get through this together!

I work in an office with some very competitive and very overweight women. I lost 3 stone last year and have gained back about a stone (I wasnt doing it the healthy way).

This week so far I have been cristised for spending too much money on the gym (this was from a SMOKER of all people) laughed at for not eating a muffin and told I would regert not eating a pizza if i died tommorow.

Response:

The gym is an invetment in myyself - I dont set fire to my money only my thighs.

Laughed right back when someone sat on part of their muffin in white trousers (hehe)

If i died tommorow, pizza would have been the last thing on my mind and on the day my life does come to an end, I can confidentley say I did my best to stay around as long as possible.

So ner.ner

Sorry - b*****s in the office who try and bring me down, it only makes me work HARDER.

Keep going guys Its all about YOU!

I tend not to tell people that I'm "dieting" or even trying to lose weight. If I do, I find that quite a few of them try to undermine me. My husband and children know that I am logging calories (pretty obvious at home) and trying to work out more. No one else needs to know. I am visibly thinner and if anyone asks if I'm on a diet, I truthfully say "no".

I get my support from my family and from MFP.

And that is the reason I have kept my journey most to myself - save for my immediate family I live with and my mom. It's too hard to tell someone about what you are doing and then have them judge you for every morsel you put in your mouth, even though you know you can eat whatever in moderation and fit it into your plan. And if I have told someone about my "dieting" it seems to put more pressure on my shoulders so I don't look like an idiot possibly eating a so-called non-diet food in front of them w/o having to go into a long speech about how I can eat it and still lose weight. We are judged enough just by our weight - why have the added stress of them scrutinizing what we are eating.

I would say if your friends are overweight, maybe they are jealous you are actually doing something for yourself and don't want you to change for the better (I think a lot of people do this subconsciously) or else they'll get left behind and be the "fat friend". I have always told my children that the friends they make in high school or college are rarely going to be the friends they have for the rest of their lives. Sad but true in this day and age. Everyone grows up and goes their own ways. If you can handle being with your friends, then you must try to ignore their comments; otherwise, I would say to try to make a new friend who gets where you are coming from.

This week so far I have been cristised for spending too much money on the gym (this was from a SMOKER of all people) laughed at for not eating a muffin and told I would regert not eating a pizza if i died tommorow.

OMG! Does anyone really think that in your waning last moments, you would be thinking about pizza, muffins, or cigarettes?! My father died last year from obesity related illnesses, including congestive heart failure, diabetes, and about a half dozen other health related problems.

Because he had one of those life alert buttons and because I retrieved the police report (apparently a law in his state that police show up when a person dies just to rule in or out foul play(, I know the exact moment he died, and how. So, as he was laying on his bedroom floor alone, the life draining out of him, unable to get up, or presumably even breath, was he thinking about how he should have had another slice of pizza before that final, fatal heart attack, or was he thinking of the thousands of pizzas, buffets, or double cheeseburgers he should have skipped to avoid, or delay his ultimate fate?

They are probably jealous that they haven't made the changes you have or that they don't have the drive to do so. It makes them feel better about their bad choices to put you down over yours.

Welcome to the club. I was just castigated by someone because I worked out, "What do you want to do that for." It was on the tip of my tongue to yell, "AND THAT IS WHY YOU'RE OBESE" but it didn't fell off my tongue.

Baby girl it's not only weight loss or healthy lifestyle living that brings out the saboteurs in friends and family. I also experienced that when I decided to go college when I was 35, boy was I talked about like a dog. Then three months before earning my B.S. in Accountancy, those same friends/family members began giving me unsolicited advice on how to spend the money I would be earning ….on them. I decided I would only “hang” were I was celebrated and not just tolerated. Love me for who I am and what I’m doing; if not, let the door knob hit you were the good Lord split you.

I can relate to that. That's exactly my situation, I went back to get a Bsc which was news 3 years ago now everybody loves Raymond, lol. They just can't comprehend our willpower. Forward ever dearie.

I can definintely relate to this! A lot of my issue is with coworkers however. Most of the people I work with are either overweight or obese and I get comments about my new lifestyle all the time. My favorite it "you need to go eat a cheeseburger!" So offensive as I am not a rail, and I still have more to lose. Jealousy can really be awful sometimes, try not to let it get you down!