my friends do not support my weight loss

And that is the reason I have kept my journey most to myself - save for my immediate family I live with and my mom. It's too hard to tell someone about what you are doing and then have them judge you for every morsel you put in your mouth, even though you know you can eat whatever in moderation and fit it into your plan. And if I have told someone about my "dieting" it seems to put more pressure on my shoulders so I don't look like an idiot possibly eating a so-called non-diet food in front of them w/o having to go into a long speech about how I can eat it and still lose weight. We are judged enough just by our weight - why have the added stress of them scrutinizing what we are eating.

I would say if your friends are overweight, maybe they are jealous you are actually doing something for yourself and don't want you to change for the better (I think a lot of people do this subconsciously) or else they'll get left behind and be the "fat friend". I have always told my children that the friends they make in high school or college are rarely going to be the friends they have for the rest of their lives. Sad but true in this day and age. Everyone grows up and goes their own ways. If you can handle being with your friends, then you must try to ignore their comments; otherwise, I would say to try to make a new friend who gets where you are coming from.

This week so far I have been cristised for spending too much money on the gym (this was from a SMOKER of all people) laughed at for not eating a muffin and told I would regert not eating a pizza if i died tommorow.

OMG! Does anyone really think that in your waning last moments, you would be thinking about pizza, muffins, or cigarettes?! My father died last year from obesity related illnesses, including congestive heart failure, diabetes, and about a half dozen other health related problems.

Because he had one of those life alert buttons and because I retrieved the police report (apparently a law in his state that police show up when a person dies just to rule in or out foul play(, I know the exact moment he died, and how. So, as he was laying on his bedroom floor alone, the life draining out of him, unable to get up, or presumably even breath, was he thinking about how he should have had another slice of pizza before that final, fatal heart attack, or was he thinking of the thousands of pizzas, buffets, or double cheeseburgers he should have skipped to avoid, or delay his ultimate fate?

They are probably jealous that they haven't made the changes you have or that they don't have the drive to do so. It makes them feel better about their bad choices to put you down over yours.

Welcome to the club. I was just castigated by someone because I worked out, "What do you want to do that for." It was on the tip of my tongue to yell, "AND THAT IS WHY YOU'RE OBESE" but it didn't fell off my tongue.

Baby girl it's not only weight loss or healthy lifestyle living that brings out the saboteurs in friends and family. I also experienced that when I decided to go college when I was 35, boy was I talked about like a dog. Then three months before earning my B.S. in Accountancy, those same friends/family members began giving me unsolicited advice on how to spend the money I would be earning ….on them. I decided I would only “hang” were I was celebrated and not just tolerated. Love me for who I am and what I’m doing; if not, let the door knob hit you were the good Lord split you.

I can relate to that. That's exactly my situation, I went back to get a Bsc which was news 3 years ago now everybody loves Raymond, lol. They just can't comprehend our willpower. Forward ever dearie.

I can definintely relate to this! A lot of my issue is with coworkers however. Most of the people I work with are either overweight or obese and I get comments about my new lifestyle all the time. My favorite it "you need to go eat a cheeseburger!" So offensive as I am not a rail, and I still have more to lose. Jealousy can really be awful sometimes, try not to let it get you down!