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Welshcakes
Welshcakes Posts: 19 Member
in Motivation and Support
Im roughly 500lbs and obviously starting a diet/new lifestyle.... but the thing is I don't really want EVERYONE in my life knowing about it.

The reason being every time food/diets/etc comes up in conversation, I receive (often incorrect) food and exercise advice from people whether it's colleagues, friends, clients or even random passers-by in the street. No matter how well meaning it is, it's time-wasting and patronising... so my question is-- how can I refuse food or snacks (especially in an office or social setting) without offending someone or bringing up that I am trying to eat more healthily?

(I've tried just taking it and not eating it, but by the time 5pm comes around I've usually cracked and eaten the damn thing)
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  • Evey_bee
    Evey_bee Posts: 77 Member
    I usually just say "Nah I'm good thanks" and leave it at that. If they persist just say you're not really hungry of something.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Tell them youd love to- but youre on medication right now that dictates your diet. You dont have to tell them that the medicine is the badass playlist in your head when youre working out later. OHHH! fixed.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    I like yoovie's idea.

    I hate to tell you, but even when you lose weight and become super sexy, people will never stop trying to give you advice on what to eat/drink/how to live/what toilet paper to buy, you just have to graciously take it and organize where it belongs in your head, be that the treasure chest or the trash can.

    Can't wait to see you succeed like a boss. Best of luck.
  • needamulligan
    needamulligan Posts: 558 Member
    Welcome! And, good for you for taking charge of your life.

    It's so true that we allow ourselves to be pushed or pulled in directions we don't want to go because of social norms or trying to be polite. It's really a great idea to come up with a plan for handling these situations! What if you make sure you have a glass/bottle of water in your hand when you find yourself in this situation? Full hands may divert the urge to encourage/force you to get something to eat. Also, if you eat a little and do your best to log it accurately you will be able to tell the "pusher" that you just ate. There must be some choices that are healthier than others. We do have to eat and enjoy life! It would be a very long, hard road if it was ALL about denying ourselves a few indulgences along the way. There are no bad foods. Just bad portion sizes!
  • RealWomenLovePitbulls
    RealWomenLovePitbulls Posts: 729 Member
    just simply tell them that you dont want it or that u've already eaten
  • bokodasu
    bokodasu Posts: 629 Member
    Just say "no thank you". It's nobody's business why you don't want to eat whatever they're offering. If they really press you can just say you're not hungry and remember they're the rude ones for pushing. (Or you can always say, "ew, eat THAT? No way, that looks disgusting" if you want to be as rude as they are.)
  • MrsWilsoncroft
    MrsWilsoncroft Posts: 968 Member
    I just say no thanks then if they get forceful they get told to do one lol
  • needles85365
    needles85365 Posts: 491 Member
    My response at work was "I'll get some later". Our pot lucks go on for most of the night. That way I wasn't pressured as much as when I said no. This worked for me and no one but I knew whether I ate or not
  • kelseyhere
    kelseyhere Posts: 1,123 Member
    I just say "I just finished lunch" or "no thanks." If they are really pushy, I take it, eat one bite, wait until they are gone and then throw it away.
  • TeresaWash
    TeresaWash Posts: 283
    you could just tell them "I'm not feeling so well so I think I'll pass"
  • SherryR1971
    SherryR1971 Posts: 1,170 Member
    Lots of good advice, I don't have anything else to offer...just want to say good luck and congrats for taking charge of your life!!
  • catpow2
    catpow2 Posts: 206 Member
    Tell them you already ate (whether it's true or not!). I always bring my lunch, and if I'm going to a lunch time meeting where there will be pizza or something else I shouldn't be eating, I eat first--then I'm not hungry and able to resist.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Tell em youve been feeling nausea lately or just I'm not hungry. Unfortunately, you will have to deal with the comments as you lose weight. Just accept it with a simple thank you or if it is a mean comment let it slide. People are idiots when it comes to weight loss.
  • SirRunningShorts
    SirRunningShorts Posts: 77 Member
    When I say I have explosive diarrhea, it ususally ends every conversation.
  • JEG2012
    JEG2012 Posts: 158
    I agree with the comments above.... I simple 'no thanks' is good enough. And in your mind you tell yourself ' THAT WAS A LITTLE VICORTY FOR ME, I WIN!'. Tell yourself that you're proud of yourself, the more positive things you say to yourself is very powerful. Yeah is it tricking your mind, yep. but giving yourself accolades is not a crime. When you think you are cracking at the end of the day ... mentally tell yourself how you'll feel after you eat something totally bad for you (yucky and mad) and/or how great you'll feel when you make a healthier choice (happy and in control)

    Good luck my friend, YOU ARE IN CONTROL NOT THEM.
  • mlawilm
    mlawilm Posts: 39 Member
    I usually say that I've just eaten but thanks for the offer....
  • AdelaDi
    AdelaDi Posts: 25 Member
    When I say I have explosive diarrhea, it ususally ends every conversation.

    :))) There's another advantage to that - after saying that you are definitely not craving any more crackers :D Win!
  • KrazyAsianNic
    KrazyAsianNic Posts: 1,227 Member
    Politely thank them and tell them that you're not hungry or you just ate.

    My boyfriend is Filipino and they love feeding people. I usually get away from the nagging by already having a small plate with a little food. Normally I keep going back for the veggies or fruit, so it looks like I'm eating along with them.
  • woodsy0912
    woodsy0912 Posts: 323
    Lots of good advice here.

    You got this Housey!
  • Welshcakes
    Welshcakes Posts: 19 Member
    Thanks for the great advice guys :D
  • 2012asv
    2012asv Posts: 702 Member
    "No thank you, I can't." Then immediately discontinue eye contact!

    There could be a million reasons why you cant.
  • 2012asv
    2012asv Posts: 702 Member
    When I say I have explosive diarrhea, it ususally ends every conversation.


    ROFL!!!!!!!!!
  • Tw1zzler
    Tw1zzler Posts: 583
    Depending on the food I'll just say 'no thanks I'm good' if they are a food pusher I'll say that I'm allergic/sensitive to "insert food here" ... I used to tell people that diabetes runs in my family and I have to be careful what I eat.

    And I agree - no matter your size people will push food/and food advice on you. As you start achieving your goals people will begin to notice what you eat and don't eat and ask you for advice!
  • DirtyStacks
    DirtyStacks Posts: 179 Member
    Im roughly 500lbs and obviously starting a diet/new lifestyle....

    YOU are awesome for making this decision! It's not easy, but it is absolutely possible!
    but the thing is I don't really want EVERYONE in my life knowing about it.

    I can understand this. I was the same way when I started. You might find that as you start seeing success, this thought process may change. I didn't want anyone to know either. As I have lost weight, I could no longer hide the fact, but it took months for that to happen.
    The reason being every time food/diets/etc comes up in conversation, I receive (often incorrect) food and exercise advice from people whether it's colleagues, friends, clients or even random passers-by in the street. No matter how well meaning it is, it's time-wasting and patronising... so my question is-- how can I refuse food or snacks (especially in an office or social setting) without offending someone or bringing up that I am trying to eat more healthily?

    If you are not morbidly obese, you will never understand the mental and physical challenges that a person like this faces, not only in trying to lose weight, but just daily living. People naturally want to be helpful, but sometimes they end up being hurtful or even harmful in their advice without even knowing it.
    (I've tried just taking it and not eating it, but by the time 5pm comes around I've usually cracked and eaten the damn thing)

    Here are some tactics you could try, you might try them all or none, depends on what you are comfortable with.
    "oh man, thanks, but my tummy isn't feeling too well at the moment."
    THanks, but I am trying to watch what I eat cause I think I'm allergic to something and I'm working on figuring out what it is.
    Thanks! Then take a bite and throw out the rest.
    Thanks! Then "accidentally" drop it on the floor.
    Sorry, I have a big meal planned tonight and I'm saving room to pig out.
    Oh man, thanks, but xxx gives me heartburn really bad.
    Thanks, but I don't really like xxx.
    I appreciate it, but xxx gives me gas.
    One I always liked was, "No thanks, I'm trying to watch my girlish figure." Said sheepishly with a smile. They never knew what to think of that. hahaha

    At some point, if you keep refusing, they will stop offering when they figure out what is really going on. But until them, just duck and dodge!

    Hope this helps some!
    www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/dirtystacks
  • Katbody10
    Katbody10 Posts: 369 Member
    WOW .. I commend you for taking charge of your life .. YOUR WAY! Kudos to you!

    Now .. don't tell anyone you're dieting or making a lifestyle change at first .. it's none of their business. If you lose weight that's noticeable and they say something or compliment you .. be gracious but no need to over indulge their curiosities that you don't feel comfortable talking about.

    If it's early on in your weight loss .. just play dumb and say .. "Oh? You think I've lost weight? wow .. I should wear this outfit more often" :wink:

    And do your best to politely turn down their offers of food or snacks. It's okay to have a small piece of birthday cake everyone pitched in to get for someone in the office .. or you can decline and simply say, I've kinda lost my sweet tooth. :smile:

    Everyone here has given some great advice .. you are in control of YOU .. .. so do what feels right to you. Congrats!! And keep up the great attitude! :flowerforyou:
  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    "That looks great but high sugar/fat gives me terrible heartburn"
  • TheBiggestLosee
    TheBiggestLosee Posts: 101
    I like yoovie's idea.

    I hate to tell you, but even when you lose weight and become super sexy, people will never stop trying to give you advice on what to eat/drink/how to live/what toilet paper to buy, you just have to graciously take it and organize where it belongs in your head, be that the treasure chest or the trash can.

    Can't wait to see you succeed like a boss. Best of luck.

    PLEASE tell me no one has ever ever suggested what toilet paper to buy?! lol
    Anyway, OP:

    just tell them that you aren't hungry.
  • iksworbez
    iksworbez Posts: 21 Member
    when it comes to keto i've actually had to tell people 'i'm allergic to wheat and sugars'

    chances are they will leave ya alone
  • amysmartin
    amysmartin Posts: 84 Member
    I've accepted, then take it back to my desk, when no one is looking toss it in the trash. Yes, wasteful, but sometimes my coworkers are so damn pushy.
  • Morenosn
    Morenosn Posts: 28 Member
    I normally say "im not really hungry right now but thank you." or the ever famous "No thank you, Im not really feeling that great, my stomache has been upset lately." that normally does the trick :bigsmile:

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