I NEED SOME HELP HERE

I can only imagine how much of a struggle it is to want to feel good about yourself. Please don't hesitate to add me as a friend. I would love to help motivate you to feel much happier with yourself and your weight. It's very hard to will yourself to work hard and to put yourself in pain, but once you do get in that gym, and after the first few times when your sore, it starts to feel real good. It makes you start to feel SO MUCH BETTER about taking the steps to improve your weight, because you actually ARE improving your health and body by putting it through a little stamina-inspiring exercise. :-)

Feel free to add me I am always willing to help.

ok so, my name is Amber and i need to lose about 100 lbs. However, I HAVE NO MOTIVATION WHATSOEVER. i am one of the "biggest" girls at my job, i am a hairdresser, and appearence is important. I am tired of needing "plus sized" clothing, and i HATE looking at myself. i feel sometimes that i am an embarassment to my husband, and kids. it bothers me that i wear "body shapers" but i feel as though it makes me look better. I have the right state of mind to lose this weight, but when it comes to physically getting off the couch and into the gym, it's not there. bottom line, I AM LAZY. i have a membership at my local fitness center, i just find excuses y i can't go, for example, i have laundry to do, the house needs to be cleaned, i have to feed my cat, etc. i am 30 years old, and i have no energy, or motivation, can someone help me out? or at least let me know i'm not the only one feeling like this?
sorry about all the incorrect-ness, i am trying to get my sleep back on a descent schedule.
Thanks!!!

Hi Amber!

I've been where you are....For me, the first step that worked was to work on eliminating all negative thinking and speaking from my life.

I refuse to say anything negative about myself, and go out of my way to talk to myself in a positive way.

You CAN do it.....You DO HAVE MOTIVATION OR YOU WOULDN'T BE HERE.

Focus on the good, visualize yourself slim...You WILL succeed.

Lowell

You can add me

It is hard to start when it feels like there is so much to do. Start simple. Log your calories. Just get used to logging. Then work on getting a daily deficit. If you want to eat more earn it with a walk. You can lose weight easy in the beginning, just make sure to keep adding a new small goal. As you see results you will get more motivated. Work at making good habits a ruitine. Small changes and celebrating the little victories is what gets you to your goal.

Hi Amber! Thanks for being so honest! How many of us feel this way but don't share it? Really, it sounds like you have TONS of motivation! You said it all (lazy, body suits, family etc) ... You've got all the right reasons.

Sometimes I find I have to do things I don't want to and THIS is one of those things (sometimes). Just do it! Leave all the mental stuff sitting on the couch, doing what you usually do. Make the "new you" get up & move! Do anything! Just do it! Daily. Give your "new" self even 1/2 hour of exercise or moving. The old you will still be sitting on the couch, waiting, when you get back.
After a week, you'll want to be the "new you" every day ... and you'll look back at that couch person and wonder who they are? Was that really you?

Just try it. You'll like the new you!

Hi Amber!

I've been where you are....For me, the first step that worked was to work on eliminating all negative thinking and speaking from my life.

I refuse to say anything negative about myself, and go out of my way to talk to myself in a positive way.

You CAN do it.....You DO HAVE MOTIVATION OR YOU WOULDN'T BE HERE.

Focus on the good, visualize yourself slim...You WILL succeed.

Lowell

Some good words of wisdom right here!

You know you want to make the change, you just have to get off your butt and start. We all found/find it difficult to begin with, but it does get easier.

You are smart enough to know you wont lose weight if you continue the way you are, I just hope it doesn't take a serious medical issue to force you to make changes to your lifestyle.

Don't be under the illusion that you have to live in the gym to lose weight either, diet is THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR. Use MFP, enter your foods and start to get a real appreciation for what you can and should be eating, including portion sizes. Don't be super strict on yourself and only eat salads or do some stupid liquid diet, just make small sustainable changes. That is how you turn your life around!

If you follow through, find a way to make exercise a routine part of your life (even if its just a short walk each day) and get those calories down a bit, I assure you you will see results - and that will motivate you to continue.

Hundreds of us here have been through and are still going through this process, and you will find all the advice and support you need.

The choice is yours, how much do you want it?

:flowerforyou: Welcome Amber! You have so came to the right place. This web site is totally awsome. I have lost 43 lbs and have about 60 to go +/- a bit. Add me and we can reach our goals together. Log everything and start with walking 5-10 minutes if you have to and build on that. It will make you feel better, I promise! I've been where you are and still can't stand what I see in the mirror, but I know that one day at a time and putting one foot in front of the other we can achieve our goals to a new healthier person!!

Hey there. I am so sorry to see you struggle. No, you're not the only one feeling like that at all, though. I think everyone feels unmotivated at times. What you need to do is remind yourself how important it is for you to be healthy and why. Remind yourself how much better your kids would be with a healthy mom. As far as making excuses, cut it out! Just like saving money, pay yourself first. Every time you work out, (even if the laundry has to wait another hour) you are making an investment in yourself and in your family. Remember that.

And feel free to add me! I'm brand new here and looking to make friends for support and motivation!

You already started to working on a better you. You know what is wrong, and you joined MFP. It didn't take a day for you to be 100pds overweight. It took a while Same thing with losing it. It will take time and dedication.

But first thing, STOP BEING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOURSELF. It doesn't matter if you're 300pds or 100pds. If you don't change how you feel and think about yourself, no weight loss will feel good enough.

Know that you are worth it and you matter. That's a good mantra, actually. Just keep saying it over and over and own it. So, get up and start moving. Start slow. That's where everybody started, not just you.

Good luck!

Add me as your friend. I would love it!